Sorry i just really need to get a few things off my chest.
My family and I have a really rocky relationship as some of you may know. I blame my mother for a few things one is something that happened a few years ago , and the other is my brothers suicide attempts. These are two things that i really really cannot forgive her for.
I cannot sleep so i am writing this at 1 25 in the morning , and in all truth the real reason that i am writing this is that i am petrified that the saying that daughters become there mothers is going to haunt me once my twins are born. It is in all honesty my biggest fear.
What if i do turn into them (my parents)? I really can't stand to think that my children resent me as much as i resent my mother (not so much my father). I just am truely petrified.
On a serious note:
I have not called my mother today to apologise and i cannot say i even want to , so think i am just like suggested cut contact and see where she takes it.
Also i called my Husbands mother and told her that she is getting twins , she was over the moon , which was nice , finally an excited grandma ! his father was actually more overjoyed than she was and had to call us up a little while ago after he thought we were just trying to fool him !
On a not so serious note:
It seems you are all curious to what wedding planners earn since it keeps coming up . Its actually quite a surprising amount ,but well it really all depends on your clientele and your contacts and who you know and etc. (Well , come on my parents had to have some use. ) The only problem is .... its seasonal , so i can have no work for 2 months and then its like KABOOM phone of the hook because for some weird reason all of these people decide they want to get married.
It is really just a case of orgnization ! and one heck of a lot of post it notes.
Sorry folks but where work is concerned , screw the trees.
LadyStephTQuote:Ain't that just like 'em? Girls just using guys for sex! The pigs!
Well what can i say , girls play just as hard as guys.
OP : If your girl isn't pleasing you during sex step one is to talk to her ... ask her if something is bothering her or if there is a reason behind her not wanting to touch you ?
If you don't want to confront her about the problem why not tell her once you have pleased her that you would love to feel how it feels when her hands or mouth ( i would say hands to start off with) touches you.
A way for her to familiarize with your penis is either to take her to the shower and wash each other all over and then once you get out (if you get out) go for the fun stuff.
One more idea is that if you put your hand over the top of hers (or underneath)and slide your hand down over your body and then over your penis , as if you were jacking off and see her reaction, if she pulls away from you , don't force it on her. If she doesn't your just one step closer to a happier you, just continue with this for a while and then start removing your hand once she is happily pleasuring you.
Your right , there are a lot of things that as much as i want to i cannot forgive my parents for , and i pray every day that i do not end up parenting my family as my parents parented us.
My youngest brother now lives with me and my husband and this is probably the biggest resentment that my parents have! He is doing better now , i know i can't improve things overnight but i am hoping that i can get him back to the guy he was before.
My income is inimportant , i still look for bargains ( i guess that is the british in me). After twins (as of this mornings appointment) arrive i will be pretty much leaving my business to its own devices in the office and i will be working completely from home. My Husband will also cut back his hours so we can spend more time together. Which is one of the things i want to do so as not to turn into my parents. My children will not have nannys and they definately won't be put into a boarding school.
Ineligible : As much as i am desperate to complete axe my parents out of my life i still have the overwhelming urge to love them because they are my parents and i really don't know how to overcome this , any ideas ?
I absolutely adore it when my husband goes down on me it drives me wild.
Try talking to your boyfriend , and tell him what you enjoy if he does something that you like tell him that it feels really good. If he is being a little rough either tell him.
One thing that my Husban used to do is that he would put his hands over mine or mine over his when he or i (depending) would pleasure ourselves.
Now i know i am not exactly a teen , but this seemed the most appropriate place for this rant and i really need some help because i feel so worthless and down.
I just returned home from a dinner with My Parents, which to put it politely was a complete and utter disastor. My Husband got a call half way through the meal so he was occupied for around 30 minutes, to add to it my Parents bought along an Ex Boyfriend (who in there own words is "Everything that my Husband is not,yet should be") and my older Brothers along my older sister. Yet this was just the begining of the action!!
I had told my parents that i had some important news, and my intention was to tell them over dinner. Now i wasn't expecting thrilled or even excited, but i was not expecting the reaction that i got either.
My mother immediately asked if me getting pregnant was a mistake , which was followed by "well i hope you are planning to get rid of it". I can't say i wasn't hurt by her comments but i managed to fight back the tears.
My mum was not however satisfied with this and continued to insult my husband telling him that he was not father material , and that she wished i had married my ex. My Husband didn't say a word, and i was not just going to sit there and allow my mother to abuse him, but this just ended up adding to the drama.
After telling my mother that i intended to keep the baby and that i wouldn't even consider an abortion my mother began on my failings and short-comings .
I feel like a complete disapointment. I had to sit and listen how i had turned down scholarships to harvard and yale to go to a University in England , and how despite completing a degree, i now have my own business as a wedding planner. My brother who is just slightly older than me is now a Doctor. My Oldest Brother is a very succesful stock broker and my sister is an Economist.
I feel like such a failure, my parents are telling me that i am wasting my life, and yet i am so happy in what i do unlike any of my other family. I really love what i do and i wish that my parents could be happy for me and stop constantly putting me down, i just really don't think i can take it any longer!
I am normally able to supress my anger and emotions but tonight i don't know why but i lost my composure and ran out of the restaurant crying. I really just don't know what i am dong that is so wrong ? I feel like such a bad person for hating them so much ! but i don't know what else to do i feel completely disheartened. Is there anyway i can mend the broken relationship wih my parents ?
I am really sorry its so long i just have so much pent up frustration which i guess is coming out , there really is a lot more but it will save for another day.
Just because your girlfriend is averaging 8 hours of sleep a night this may not be enough for her she may need 10 hours or 4 hours it honestly will depend on each person. For example i can get 4 hours of sleep a night where as my Husband needs 7 or 8 otherwise he is groggy and tired the day after.
Some people also do not fair well to changes in there sleeping habits so perhaps your girlfriend should try get back into her usual routine for a while if she is still feeling exhausted....
It could also be a simple iron deficiency its definately worth a visit to the GP.