This thread has turned into something completely ridiculous. If I was curious I can't help it. I've already talked it over with him, so it's done and over with. I don't need to explain myself to every one on this forum. Since apparently you all seem to think I invaded my boyfriends personal space etc etc. I think this thread needs to be closed. So if a moderator comes through I'd be glad if some one could close it, I'm done trying to defend myself when there is no reason to.
moonlightOriginally Posted By: OldFolksAnd I've done my best to explain that more than likely it doesn't mean anything and probably isn't worth the worry your putting into it. Especially in the extrapolation that he must be unsatisfied with you. I just think that's reading to much into it.
I know, I'm not even worried about it and haven't been for a while, I thought I made that clear. That was what ran through my mind in the beginning. However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it.
moonlightOriginally Posted By: OldFolks>>>"I just think that is really creepy, we have a very active sexual relationship. So I don't understand what's with the furry porn crap. It makes me wonder how unsatisfied exactly I make him."
That's a big leap, most likely incorrect, that I think a lot of women tend to make.
First, just because it's in his history doesn't mean he's into it. Second, even if he was tossing off to it that doesn't necessarily mean he's not satisfied with you. It means he's a guy, he saw something that got him horny, so he had a quick wank.
If you also go back and read I gave him the benefit of the doubt, which was his best friend and him were looking at it. They look at creepy things online and I hoped it was that situation. They look at porn together along with everything else on the web and one time they showed me a really fat woman shitting in a tub or something. So I mean stuff happens. However yes I did wonder if he was looking at it for sexual purposes. I can't help that the thought crossed my mind. I think it was a fairly natural reaction.
moonlightOriginally Posted By: damienIf you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend.
I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.
I don't expect him to share everything with me as I already stated. If you read through everything you would also realize I don't search through his computer. It was an accident that I even found this and naturally I'm curious. I also have never read his journal, emails, or letters to any one else so give me a break. I do allow him to read my online journal, which is the only journal I have, because I don't see any reason to hide it. So give me a break. What I expect out of a relationship is what I expect, not what you and every one else on this forum happens to think is reasonable.
I'm done talking about the subject. What ever happens will happen. I don't expect him to tell me everything and I never have. I never brought it up to him and freaked out. I never said anything about it. I just posted here, so I don't need to get a grip. As I never "flipped" out about it. I have the right to feel how I wish to feel about furry animal porn.
I think I have the right to be curious about why there was links to furry animal porn on my boyfriend's computer. I think any one would be curious.
As far as the comment I made about him being up to something (meaning porn), well yes I do think he watches porn. I happen to think he's lying to me, I don't expect him not to watch it as all teen age boys seem to. I don't trust him when he says he doesn't. That doesn't mean I'm going to flip out about it, all I was trying to get across was I do think he's lying to me. I apologize if I came off as controlling or whatever else you people think I am. I just happen not to believe what he tells me about the subject.
moonlightOriginally Posted By: DxLISHxISx_43I agree with Helmsman.
Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts)
I will probably end up talking about, however I won't voice my opinion as to what I think about it. I wouldn't try to make him feel bad about it, even if I am not a fan.
We've been trying to work things out and they seem to be going better.
I don't go through his computer I found it by accident and for your information he'd go through my computer any time with out a problem. So it works both ways.
I apologize for having the "incorrect" reaction about furry animal porn. I guess I should just accept whatever he's into and have no personal opinion about it. However he should be allowed to tell me when something I like sexually is creepy (which he does, he voices his opinions all the time). I just had never heard of such a thing and I was shocked. I NEVER said anything to him about it, or made nasty remarks. I posted on a forum.
Originally Posted By: Amz
Not trying to make anyone feel worse, and I completely respect what you are saying Helms.. but I have to butt in here and just point out that if he is willing to hide such insignificant things, which they are - I wouldn't really be bothered about those - is it really showing much honesty? Why hide it?
I have to agree with Amz. I am not blowing anything out of proportion, as I haven't even said anything to him. I was never mad about it but yes I was disturbed by it and I posted here. I don't like porn in general and what I saw was disgusting. It's the fact that he tells me he's not looking at any, but then has this furry animal crap on his computer. If he looks at this then what's to say he isn't watching the actual stuff. This only leads me to believe he's lying and just trying to cover his tracks.
The fact that I actually caught his computer before he deleted his history was simply an accident. He never slips up. He told me just yesterday that he didn't look at or watch any porn, on the phone and to my face. I can't remember what we were talking about, but porn came up. Then later that day I find furry stuff on his computer. Pretty much flat out lying if you ask me.
Why would he feel the need to lie about furry animal porn?
moonlightOriginally Posted By: Joe MelvilleSo its basically anime with animals really? Cartoon porn at best.
I guess that's what I'd describe it as... It was just weird. Whatever floats some one's boat I guess. Just never thought that some one would be my boyfriend lol.
EDIT: I don't know if it's like Furry Fandom or not, the only thing I could find that was similar was "Sexy Fur". I'm not sure I'm allowed to post the link.
moonlightQuote:But you have to remember it is just the internet, all they can do is look.
That is true. It's not so much that he is looking at, it's that he tells me he isn't and then furry animal porn is disgusting in my opinion.
And yes I guess I will ask him about it, although I doubt he'll admit to it, if he looks at it all the time.