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OK so for a little while now, I have had this problem. I get a red, oval shaped mark, I guess I could call it, on the side of my penis. It is on the head, and on the shaft, and maybe the size of a quarter, stretched into an oval shape. It itches like crazy, and if I scratch it, it just gets worse. It does not hurt, or discharge anything, it just itches. It kinda looks the area is swollen a bit as well.
I also have the same thing on the roof of my mouth, except it does not itch, it just bothers me, until it gets irritated by eating, drinking, smoking etc. and then it hurts really badly. Almost like having an extreme burn in your mouth.
They appear together and gradually, for about a week, get worse, then seem to go away if I leave them alone (no sexual contact, no hot foods, stuff like that). But they come right back. Also right before they start to bother me, I get a massive headache for about a day, I feel down and upset,... then it goes away and the itching starts. A little bit after that is when my mouth starts to bother me. And this just goes on and on, like some crazy cycle for about a week.
After it clears up (I still have a red spot on the roof of my mouth and on my penis, but they do not hurt/itch/do anything really, other than just be red), it's anywhere from a week to a month before it happens again.
My doctor says it is a yeast infection and not an STD (my partner of 6 months has no symptoms or signs of anything odd going on anywhere) and gave me Clotrimazole, in both tablet and cream form. It seemed to work, but a week went by and I got the headache, and it happened all over again.
Friends in the medical field all agree with my doctor, and to keep using the medications, and I plan to, I just wonder if I was mis-diagnosed somehow. I keep worrying it is something else. About a year ago, I had a partner who cheated on me many times with many people, and I got chlamydia from that experience, but it was treated and taken care of. Is it possible I still have something from that time? Perhaps an STD? An infection? Maybe even an allergic reaction?
Any help/comments would be really appreciated. Thanks, everyone.
I do not even know where to start, but I will try. I was dating this guy for almost a year and then a friend of mine tells me that he is trying to cheat on me with a friend of mine. I ignored it for the most part, but it got the best of me and I asked the boyfriend about it. He said it was all lies.
So I keep on hearing things from a few different friends and finally call the friend in question. He tells me that my boyfriend has been calling him, texting him, and IMing him, trying to get with him but to keep it quiet. He even had some of the very colorful text messages and he showed them to me (and he did not seem to want to date this guy- he just wanted hook-ups)
So I bring it up to boyfriend and he starts to cry and get very upset, but tells me that it was nothing. He was joking around when he said all of those things, and was trying to be friendly to get along with some of my friends better. He was really sorry it had gone down like this, he didnt mean any of it. I let it go, but I didnt forget.
Then, not even a month later my boss comes up to me at work one day and tells me I should ask a certain co-worker about my boyfriend, so I do. Turns out, my boyfriend has been messaging him on some gay chat sites, on AIM and talking on the phone. My BF even sent him naughty pictures (this was not like last time, he wanted to date this guy, he didnt want just something physical). The co-worker (who was actually new, he had just started a week or two ago) swore up and down he had no idea that my boyfriend was involved- because he never said he was with anyone. He showed me the profile of my Boyfriends on the one website which was like a gay myspace, and it said he was single and looking for discreet one on one hook ups or group sex- and his photo was the one I took of him.
So I bring it up casually to my boyfriend and he lies about it, completetly denies it, and then I tell him that I know he is lying and he gets very mad. He called me selfish and mean and a lot of other bad things. I break up with him. So a few days go by and he messages me and tells me he still loves me and misses me, I said it back. Then he tells me that he wants to get back together with me- but he only wants to date and not be "in a relationship", it isnt fair if I hold him back from dating other people at the same time as he is dating me. I said no way in Hell and that was that.
A few more days go by and I was still pretty upset about everything, but some friends wanted to go out to a gay bar and I figured I'd go, just to get out of the house. Boyfriend (well, ex now) messages me and finds out where I am going and what I am doing that night. He says his friends has planned on going to the same bar, but wouldnt go there because it would be akward. He then asked me not to talk or flirt or hook up with any other guys (which is insane because apart from the fact that I am not that type of person, newly single or not, and that was the last thing on my mind and he also has no right to tell me what to do) because the thought of me being with someone else makes him sick and the thought of him being with someone besides me makes him just as sick. I tell him I would never do that, he tells me he still loves me a lot and misses me, and he cried himself to sleep the previous night because of it.
We were there for an hour when he showed up. All of his friends came up to me throughout the night, being real nice and genuine, saying they missed me and stuff. It was cool, it was nice of them, but he totally ignored me. So I come back from the bathroom and find him making out with some strange guy right there. And not just making out- this was hardcore- groping, hands everywhere, really into it. I do not know if he noticed me or not but I left. I ran into some of his friends on the way out and they asked me why I was so upset, so I told them about evertything. And it turns out-- they had no idea about the online things or the lying and the attempted cheating- he had never mentioned that, he told them I had to break up with him because I was always jealous and didnt trust him (even though he told me that he told them the truth and the whole truth). They were shocked that he would do that but then one of the friends admitted to knowing about it, she just could not bring herself to say anything to anyone. She then admitted that they did not want to go to that bar that night- but he insisted they go there for some reason.
So I go home, go to sleep and go online the next day. He sends me a long nasty message about how I ruined everything because I opened my big mouth to his friends and now they are angry with him. He blamed me for everything- saying if I were a better person and a better boyfriend, he would not have had to go out and find other people to mess around with on the side. He told me I used to make him want to hurt himself, and I would make him cry all the time. I knew it was all bull, but it still got to me and since then (about a week ago) I've just been really down.
I have also recently been informed that he has a new boyfriend. In my opinion, he is using this guy, like a rebound. But still, it hurts me so much that he can just move on so quickly. I know it shouldnt get to me- he is free from me now and can do whatever he pleases but I mean, is he doing this to hurt me on purpose? I do not call him, I do not message him- I do not look at his profile or anything, I even deleted him out of my phone and off of AIM- but I still think about it non-stop.
I know this is the usual sob story of heartbreak, but I've never been in a situation like this. I do not want to get back together with him- it would never, ever work out, period. But I dunno- I just wish I could know for a fact if he is trying to be mean to me on purpose to make himself feel better, or know that he feels bad at least a little bit. You know? How do I get through this?- I think I deserve closure here. I know it takes time but there has to be something I can do. Any help/suggestions?
hey, thanks for the reply. turns it out it was the cyst, and it was infected and all that good stuff, so they did minor surgery without me having to get knocked out. it really wasnt that bad, but when i had to go back yesterday to have it checked out- when they took the packing out- OMG, painful. I have to go back tomorrow to have it checked again, then I am done with going there and it gets to heal while I check on it at home. Since then, I am in practically no pain, but that could be cause of all the not so necessary painkillers I am.
it mostly sounds like the Pilonidal cyst, and I did some research on it. It seems surgery is the best way to go in terms of getting rid of it permanetly. I have some Draw Out Salve on it now...hope it works cause surgery is one thing but surgery without health insurance is really terrifying. Thanks for the link.
im not sure if this goes on this thread, but here goes...
on saturday i noticed that it was somewhat painful to sit. today (monday) it is now incredibly painful to lay on anything other than my side, it hurts a lot to sit, stadning is not horrible but walking or moving around in general does not feel good.
the pain comes directly from my tailbone area, i seem to have a bump or a lump or something on the area slighty below where my (sorry to be blunt) ass crack begins. The left cheek near the aea also feels swollen, and its almost like i have a giant zit on the area. but thats not what it is, cause something would have popped by now.
I havent fallen or injured the area in any way, so I have no idea how this came to be and this is the first time anything like this has happened. I've been taking advil like crazy but nothing seems to stop the pain. I have taken a few warm baths and applying warm washclothes to the area but again, nothing. I have a doctors appointment on Wednesday, thats the earliest they could get me in, but does anyone have any ideas about this? What I could possibly do to releive some pain and maybe get some sleep? My mom thinks it is a cyst or even a tumor. I just dont know. ANy help, thanks
hi there, I'm 21 and generally in well health...
For a few weeks now I have noticed that I have these red dots, or bumps i guess on my penis (shaft and head) and scrotum. They range in size from the top of a push pin (the non pointy side) to the tip of a pen. They itch like hell. When scrathed they do not secrete any fluid or break open, they just hurt a little. Itching them seems to make them worse.
I also have incredibly itchy legs, butt, feet, and lower abdomen. There is no rash or any signs of anything odd, I just itch. I have always been safe and my current partner has no sign of anything going wrong. The last person I was with was 6 months ago, and we still keep in touch, and he has no signs of anything. He even got tested for everything when I told him about it and everything came back fine.
I'm just concrened it may be something bad. This past week I have developed what I can describe as a head cold. Sore throat, stuffy nose, headaches, and general aches and pains. I've also been tired a lot and sleeping around 10 hours a night. This is probabaly just that, a head cold, and I am paranoid, but I'd like it to stop.
I've been using triamcinolone acetonide cream as the doctor perscribed, and it seems to be making it better, but it still itches a LOT. Any Help? Thanks.
a few months ago, I noticed the side of my penis near the head was itching like crazy. I noticed it looked like a red patch, maybe the size of a quarter on the shaft and part of the head, and it looked like dry skin. The itching got worse, and after a day or two, it hurt when I masturbated. So I went to the doctor and got checked out. She was 100% it was not an STD. She said it was a bacterial infection caused by irritation (which makes sense, I had gotten oral a few days before and teeth were involved) and to use Lamisil. So I did.
It went away, somewhat, but occasionally crops back up. I am workong on getting health insurance, so I can't afford to go back to see the Dr. until it goes thru.
This past time it came back, it was accompanied by something similar to a burn on the roof of my mouth. It started off feeling like I simply ate something too hot, but then it progressivley got worse, to the point where even drinking water was painful.
It may have been a burn, but it cleared up and went away along with the rash (or whatever it is) on my penis. So I know they are connected, but I am totally confused.
Anyone have anything like this or know anyone who has? Anything over the counter I can use if it comes back before I get to see the doctor again? Any help is appreciated a lot. Thanks.