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    NowHeyThere

    I'm writing this on behalf of my boyfriend. He's addicted to masturbation, and basically it's ruining our sex life. I love having sex with him and wish that we could do it more often, but he is never in the mood because he masturbates so much. He acknowledges that sex with me is way better than masturbation, but that doesn't make him stop. He says that he just "doesn't think straight" when he wants to masturbate. It doesn't make sense to me because he could call me up at any time saying he's horny and I'd be there to do whatever he wanted. But instead he masturbates. After he orgasms it takes him quite a while to be up for another one, so if he masturbates it basically means we don't get to have sex that day. He is very rarely in the mood to have sex with me because of this, and it is hurting me emotionally.

    He says that it's not logical or rational, and that he is addicted to porn and masturbating. How can I help him? We want to have a healthier sex life. He wants to masturbate less so that he can have sex with me more often, because he really does enjoy sex with me a lot more. But he doesn't know how to stop.

    Any advice would really be appreciated.

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    NowHeyThere

    Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I know where the g-spot is, and he has been able to hit it, but that alone doesn't help. We've tried many many different positions, but alas, no orgasm. We'll keep trying but I'm beginning to think it isn't ever going to happen.

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    NowHeyThere

    I would definitely suggest using a finger (with lube) first to get her used to the feeling. She has to relax her muscles as well. I find that I have a hard time doing this, so if my boyfriend and I want to have anal sex I drink a little alcohol beforehand to loosen up and so that I don't feel any pain there may be very much. I would only recommend this is you're over the legal drinking age of course.

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    NowHeyThere

    Sex in the shower wasn't all that great. I guess because there is no comfortable position since I am shorter than my boyfriend. It's very difficult to find a comfortable angle to get it inside me, and even then we are both standing in weird positions so we tire quickly. The atmosphere is nice though.

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    NowHeyThere

    I know this topic has probably been posted here a million times before, but, going through old threads on it, I haven't found one that fit my situation precisely.

    I just started having sex about 2 months ago with my boyfriend. Before that I was a virgin. I have not been able to have an orgasm from penetration. I orgasm pretty easily when I masturbate or when he goes down on me. Also, I have had an orgasm while we were having sex only when he was also touching my clitoris. I have been able to get off from him fingering me only once; every other time I need oral stimulation in combination with fingering.

    So basically, I know its possible for me to have an orgasm only from penetration, as it's happened before, but I can't achieve it with sex. I would very much like to, and I have been feeling kind of down lately since I haven't been able to. Is there anything at all that I can do to "fix" this? Or just have him keep touching my clitoris while we are doing it? I like that of course, but I really would like to experience an orgasm from sex alone.

    Is it hopeless?

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    NowHeyThere

    I find the easiest way for both of us is with him lying on his back, and me kneeling between his legs. I also enjoy doing it on my knees while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed. Positions where I am lying down and he is moving it into my mouth are never comfortable because it always makes me gag, and it is hard to find an angle where it doesn't hit my teeth. With both of us lying on our sides on the bed is also a nice position. I don't find any of the positions degrading.

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    NowHeyThere

    I have found that the guys I've been with love it when I put one of my hands on his penis, underneath my mouth, like I am giving him a handjob. If you keep your hand close to your lips and move them up and down at the same time, he will think you are putting it in deeper than it really is. I sometimes use my other hand to touch his body in other places, or I usually use it to hold myself up since I do it kneeling between his legs while he is lying on the bed.

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    NowHeyThere

    I think you definitely need to make the first move. You might be afraid to, but he sounds even more afraid than you would be. Obviously because of what he's said about it, he wouldn't be against it or stop you. And guys like it when girls make the first move. Just move your hand closer, or even take his hand and put it up your shirt or something like that. If he doesn't want to continue then don't obviously, but if he likes it, just tell him it's okay. Once you get past the first time or two, you guys should be more comfortable with it.

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    NowHeyThere

    I wouldn't like that. If you're gonna shave, you should just shave it all off. I like it much better when my boyfriend has shaved - it's more enjoyable for both of us.

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    NowHeyThere

    I love my boyfriend and going down on him, but honestly, I really don't like the taste of cum. I swallow anyway, because its more convenient and you get less of the taste than you do from spitting. But I just don't think it's a pleasant taste at all. It changes based on what he eats of course, but even then I don't like it. It's just way too salty and bitter for me. I really dislike salty things. And I am a VERY picky eater, so I'm not surprised that I don't like it.

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