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    ruth

    ive been on the pill since i was in high school, but due to an insurance problem ive recently had to stop taking it.
    are condoms enough to keep me protected, or should i dish out the extra money to just continue on the pill as well?

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    ruth

    there is absolutely no reason not to masturbate when youre on your period. if youre afraid of blood, try doing it in the shower, or just keep a towel under you to protect your bed or whatever youre laying on.
    in my experience, masturbation is much more pleasurable when im on period.

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    ruth

    maybe your tensing up more than usual. that (especially if youre a littel dehydrated) can give you headaches.

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    ruth

    its less like "waking up the nerves" than it is getting over the physical stress thats gone on in the area.
    the hymendectomy left me with some scar tissue that has been causing me problems. also, having been closed up for so long left me with pretty painful endometriosis.
    while these problems can and are being dealt with, id like to find what i can do in the meantime to make having sex more pleasurable.

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    the last post i made was about my frustrations with an imporforate hymen that was making sex difficult... but i did end up talking to the gyno, and lo and behold it was truly left over scar tissue from an operation that was causing problems with penetration.
    anyway, i got over it, and for christmas i gave my virginity to my boyfriend. we've been having sex pretty regularly since that time, and im beginning to wonder when its going to start feeling like i had imagined it would.
    since i lost my virginity, my ability to orgasm has gone down the toilet, no matter what i do. its pretty frustrating. i get satisfaction from sex, but its more of the type of satisfaction you get from a back rub rather than anything else.
    my vagina went closed up and unused for 18 years due to my hymen, and im hoping that those muscles/nerves havent atrophied to a point of nearly-no-return.
    we've done just about every position we can fit ourselves into, and i do get that "i have to pee" feeling occasionally, but its not really wonderful or anything.
    is this going to feel good in my future? do i just need more practice to wake up the nerves, or am i just screwed?

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    I apologize for this entry being a little bit long, but as i am a new member, i have to give a little history for my concerns to make sense!
    All throughout my younger life i had had big problems dealing with the insertion of anything into my vagina. attempting to insert anything into my vagina was like attempting to push your finger through an open wound, and of course, that made tampons impossible. finally, on my first visit to the gynecologist my problem was diagnosed -- i had an imperforate hymen. I did have a small opening; just enough to allow enough menstrual blood to pass so that i had a reason to wear a pad. Unfortunately, the hole wasn’t big enough to allow all the blood to pass, and as a result now, a year later, I’m facing concerns that my endometriosis is causing me serious health problems. This has been quite a hurdle, but i did have surgery to completely remove my hymen, so all should be better.
    Unfortunately, it's not, and it seriously beginning to get in the way of my sex life. You’d probably guess that by my saying i had an imperforate hymen until i was 18, i am a virgin. were it not for my hymen, i would probably have lost my virginity years ago. unfortunately, my hymen could not be broken by anything short of a knife, and so now, half way through college with a 6-year long relationship heavily leading towards engagement, i'm getting a little tired of the virgin lifestyle. i think its important to know that i can be sexually compatible with someone before i decide to spend my life with them, and i've gotten way past all my own social/mental/religious inhibitions about it.
    my problem is that, due to my once virtually nonexistent vagina, i may as well be as developed as an infant. the surgery did leave me with some scarring, which has been painful for nearly a year now. my vagina is extremely tight, due to its never having been used. i cant seem to stretch, and trying is very painful, in that it literally brings me to tears. a finger is almost too much for me to handle, and im getting really stressed out about it.
    im ready to have sex, and mentally i am beyond the point of being afraid of it. what i am afraid of, however, is that i wouldn’t be able to handle it... if its even possible. if i can barely stretch around two fingers, how should i be able to handle a penis? even beyond the stretching, my vagina is extremely sensitive to the point of pain due to its lack of use.
    i have been diligent in attempting to ease this problem, but as of yet, i have been unsuccessful.
    i am on break right now, and about to take a vacation with my boyfriend to the mountains. i feel like now is the perfect time, if such a thing exists.
    any advice would be greatly appreciated. waiting till marriage is absolutely not going to work! I thought college was supposed to be fun?

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