Basically i seem to have a bit of a conundrom.
Im a 17 year old guy, and about 6 months or so ago, my girlfriend whoat the time who i had been going out with for about 6 months decided, along with myself that we were ready for sex. Well we didn't get much alone time and the one time we did was after i'd had a house party, and at this time she was pretty drunk. I hadn't had an awful lot to drink, fairly tipsy but still well within my senses and could tell that it wasn't the right time for us both to lose our V's. Well anyway, just the thought about it and her talking about it etc and insinuating, made me feel very very close to ejaculating even before we had done anything.
I mean, i can last a fair while when receiving a handjob or oral, and i don't have any concerns there, but just the thought of having sex brought me so close it was untrue.
Well anyway we didn't have sex, but if we had i could have pretty much guaranteed i wouldn't have lasted more than 30 seconds.
So now im with my current girlfriend, however after a few months we had sex together. It wasn't the best experience, she bled quite a bit etc but it was fine in the end. The difference being though, that not once did it cross my mind about pre ejaculation, and i lasted a fair while.
Well after the slight ordeal we had, we didn't have sex for a couple months, until last night. I could tell as soon as we started talking about it that it wasn't gonna go well, and sure enough i came very quickly, however if she had been giving me oral, i could also guarantee that i would have lasted a long time.
About an hour later we actually had sex again and that went really well. Now i know that obviously i'd be less likely to come quickly again, but it was more the mental situation that i knew myself that i wasn't going to.
Basically what im saying is, how do i get out of this mental block that im going to come really quickly, and inevitably end up doing so?
(Sorry for the essay)
we did not use any lube, however she naturally gets quite wet as it is.
Well thats the thing, the entire time she didn't say it hurt at all, i was of course looking for any pained expressions but all she was doing was 'nice' expressions...
Even afterwards she didnt say 'ooh that hurt', until i asked her and she said yes it did hurt, to which i asked why didnt you tell me. She said because it was 'a nice hurt' so just went with it...
I'm slightly angry at that because i didn't go as easy as i perhaps should have done, and would have done if she'd have even given me a slight hint she was in pain (i don't know why i didnt just presume she was, and go very slow anyway)...
thank you for the reply.
Yeah we used a durex one.
We have no reason to think anything went wrong, bar she was scared about the bleeding as didn't expect this amount of bleeding so then everything started going through our heads... All possibilities that coulda gone wrong.
I appreciate the reply though.
So i had sex with my girlfriend for the first time tonight. She's bleeding quite a bit so we're both slightly worried about that, but i am so scaredabout everything including the chance of pregnancy.
I used a condom before entering her, and came in the condom. I took it off after completely being out of her...
there was alot of blood on the condom so i didnt check for tears or anything.
is there ANY chance at all something could have gone wrong or am i genuinly being paranoid?
ive got like, a few hairs going up my shaft... im uncircumcised and theres nto many, but enough to be noticable and they go up to about where the head starts... (on my foreskin).
is this normal?
and even if it is id like to remove them... whats the best way to get rid of these individual hairs?
so, ive been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months.
Shes pretty much my only real girlfriend and i do like her.
Some things in life shes had to deal with (father abandoning her while young etc) and because of this became quite independant. For this reason she likes to spend alot of time alone. I don't think i'm being over-pushy or clingy or anything, i just want to see her. We go to the same school, live 10 mins away from each other and i see her at most once a week, if not once every fortnight.
I hope im not alone but i think this is quite a low amount of time that we spend with each other.
It's not like she doesn't WANT to make time for me, she just doesn't seem to want to change her lifestyle to accomodate me (will still meet up with her friends quite a few nights of the week and stuff, but won't rearrange one to see me, or make a bit of time for me).
When i brought it up with her she did the whole 'promise it'll change i'm just not good at relationships, im learning' thing.. which i accepted... But that was when i was really wanting to be with her.
Now, i still do really like her, but im not having the same urges to be with her, hence im not wanting to continually ask if shes free or anything... If i do ask and she says 'no im having alone time' or something, it just makes me feel less for her and pushes me further away...
I'm not sure what to do about it, ive tried talking to her, ive tried being harsher saying it cant continue like this and giving an ultimateum, but now i feel less for her, i really don't know what to do.
(sorry for the essay)