Over the past couple years I have been working on and off to lose the weight I gained when I met my boyfriend. Through healthier diet and exercise I have lost over 60 pounds and I'm only about 20 pounds away from my goal weight.
However I'm finding myself slipping and with my crazy exhausting work schedule I'm finding it hard to make time to go to the gym and to stay motivated to eat properly especially since I'm a stress driven eater.
with all of that said here is my real problem. When I do mess up I mess up bad. For example at themovies today I had a liter of diet pepsi, honey roasted peanuts, pizza flavoured combos, chocolate covered pretzels, and reeses peices. I felt so horrible physically and mentally (the proper word being guilty) and promptly threw up as soon as I got home.
This is definitely not the first or only instance of this sort of thing. I do it almost every time I over eat or eat things I shouldnt have but never on a typical day of healthy eating.
I just feel like I'm losing all my self control!
I don't really know what I expect anybody to say to me that might help but I just really needed to get this off my chest as I have not told anybody, not even my boyfriend who I live with and is my best friend.
Ok so I've been working on my weight on and off now for about a year. I was originally almost 220 pounds and eventually got down to about 170.
Back then I was excersising and dieting and the changes made me feel really really good.
I fell off the wagon though a little bit when I started having to work 6 days a week and I started making excuses to not go to the gym etc and gained 10 pounds back up to 180.
I've recently decided to get back to my healthier eating habits and my regular excersise but I'm having a big problem. Unlike before where the diet and excersise were making me feel good I'm now feeling really really depressed. I'm not sure if it's because I haven't seen any results yet (the scale won't budge and my pants are still too snug) or if it's some sort of hormonal thing or if my body is just reacting badly to the abrupt change.
Please help. What can I do to make myself feel better and keep motivated?
For about a year now i've been dieting on and off. My first stint I went from 215 down to 190 and got stuck and gave up. Two months later I hopped back on the scale and despite not even trying I had gotten down to 180. This got me pumped and I started counting calories again and got down to 170 and got stuck yet again so I took a break. Hopped back on the scale a few weeks ago and I'm still 170.
For the last 2 weeks or so I've been going to the gym 4 - 6 days a week and counting my calories. I've been eating between 1100 - 1500 calories per day which is how I lost the first 45 pounds. I wasn't starving myself but I was eating pretty small portions every 2 - 3 hours to keep myself from getting hungry.
I've tried changing what I'm eating, how often I'm eating, switching my work out routine up. I can't possibly eat any less. Most days I eat just enough to keep me from feeling hungry and getting the urge to binge.
I really need help to break this plateau and the only advice I've been given is that the amount of calories I'm consuming is too low so maybe this week I'll try eating slightly larger portions and boost my calorie intake to 1800. I don't think my workout justifies eating much more than that.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. The excitement in our sex life has dimmed quite a bit. It's just not the same when you live together and see each other every day and you are super busy.
So when we are lucky enough to both be horny at the same time I want to take my time and enjoy it for a LONG time. I even suggested trying tantric sex.
Don't get me wrong. The sex itself isn't bad now that I've found my self confidence and can orgasm at least once sometimes twice. He always waits for me and does his best to please me. But as soon as i'm done then it's his turn and we are done.
Our entire sexual encounter lasts no more than 15 minutes. Why? No foreplay, no savoring. He even said that the end is the best part and he just can't wait to get to it. With an attitude like that it just seems like he wants to have sex rather than make love.
I would like to spend at least ten minutes on foreplay. I'd love to watch him maturbate but he's too embarrassed for some reason. I think he's just not very sexually comfortable. Maybe he can still hear his ex girlfriend laughing at him in the back of his mind. I dunno.
He won't give me oral no matter how hard I try. He has done it once or twice but he's not any good at it because he doesn't like the taste maybe? I don't know. But I've touched myself and licked my fingers before and I'll tell you what, even when i'm at my not so freshest it can't taste nearly as bad as semen. I finally told him that I'd give him head but if he wasn't going to return the favor then there's no way in hell I'm going to try to swallow.
And when we finally do get to the intercourse i'd like to take it slow at first. Enjoy the feeling. Enjoy being THAT close to him. But as soon as I get on it's go go go. Get yours so i can get mine.
How can I get him to slow down? I want him to enjoy the intercourse before the orgasm as much as I do.
serenitymoonwolfOriginally Posted By: Rocis it painful? What type of local trauma did you endure
It's not painful at all. Just extremely annoying.
I get them I think because I tend to bite the inside of my lips when i'm stressed or nervous. Lately at work i've been extremely stressed out.
I finally found something that sounds like what this lump is. Here is the wikipedia link for anybody that is interested.
I read into it some more. Seems I just have to wait for them to go away and try not to bite my lips as much.
Ok this started a few months back. Every once in a while I'll get a lump on the inside of my lip, usually my lower lip. It gets bigger and bigger. It's a large whitish lump that is very smooth and completely solid, no puss or anything inside just solid skin.
I figure it might be a bactierial thing so when I get one i use mouthwash as much as possible. I use it when I brush my teeth normally but when i get one of these lumps i use it pretty much every time I go to the bathroom. Since they are usually partly on the outside of my lip and I sleep with my mouth open they tend to just dry up and crack then scab over and it goes away.
The one I have now though isn't near the outside of my lips though. On the bright side nobody can see it. On the bad side I don't think it gets an opportunity to dry up when I sleep.
I know this isn't a cold sore and I know it isn't a canker sore. I looked up both and this doesn't look or sound like either of these. I'm pretty sure it's not any sort of cancer since it shows up in a different spot every time. I'm positive it's not an STD of any sort since i've only been with one man and he's never had anything like this before, in fact he's the healthiest person I know.
I'm afraid I can't get a picture of it right now as my camera batteries are dead but i'll try to get some to take a picture.
If anybody has any idea what this could be and how I can get rid of it faster and prevent it from happening i'd be really appreciative.
I've started a diet plan to try to help me stay on track. Because of my tight budget and lifestyle I usually eat one big meal per day. But i've come to find from many sources that it's better to eat often but just smaller portions.
So I came up with this diet schedule. It's going to be a little hard to keep to it but I'm going to try my darndest.
I generally get up about noon and go to bed around 2am or 3 am.
Breakfast (after my morning jog)
between 11:30 - 12:30
1 Slimfast optima shake
Snack (optional if i'm feeling hungry)
1:30 - 2:30
1 Med sized red delicious apple w/ strawberry lowfat yogurt
3:30 - 4:00
6 inch chicken breast sub with low fat sweet onion sauce
1 small can of tuna fish w/ wheat crackers or bread
1 cup canned chili (very filling with low calorie intake though there is a lot of sodium)
2 toasted cheese sandwiches
These are just some things I happen to have laying around the house at the moment.
6:30 - 8:00
1 med apple w/ low fat yogurt
1 serving low fat yogurt
8:00 - 10:00
6 inch chicken breast sub w/ low fat sweet onion sauce
1 small can of tuna w/ wheat crackers or bread
Well that's it in a nutshell though it will highly depend on what I happen to buy in a certain week while grocery shopping.
Is my meal / snack distribution ok as long as I have small portions?
I'm also wondering if this diet will work. I'm up to about 200 pounds and thankfully i've seemed to have topped off there.
I don't generally consume a lot of calories to begin with so I figured if I ate slightly less calories and spread out my eating it might help me not feel hungry so much.
I haven't really exercised at all since I stopped working at my aunts farm and horse back riding so now to help me with my diet I'm going to be trying to go for a jog around my trailer park every morning when i wake up and before i go to bed. It takes me about 10 minutes to jog the whole distance so I'd say it's slightly less then a mile at my pace.
I'm also giving up pop all together. Not even going to drink diet. I'm trying to drink as much water as I can.
Any suggestions or additional resources to help me would be greatly appreciated.
Also wondering when the best time to weigh myself is. I've been weighing myself when I first get up right after my morning pee.