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A girls saying they want to be friends is simply their way of saying "i don't find you attractive".
I'm not talking only physically attractive here, but mostly mental.
this is a good thing, because unlike your face, your mindset and body can be changed.
For example, this girl that i thought was pretty cute. She just ended up throwing herself at me. And because she was so desperate i find her repulsive now.
Same thing with girls. If you constantly shower her with attention, she will run away.
There is a whole community dedicated to how to change yourself from what you are right now to a man that every women wants, and this forum is NOT it.
in a nutshell:
1. Do not be desperate. Don't always give her attention, instead: tease her with your attention. Give her lots attention, then go talk to other guys/girls. Then when you come back and play with her a little more. During the convo, be sure to have fun and build comfort and also to talk sexually. Make fun of her sometimes, but nothing hurtful like their weight (unless she's really fat XD). This is called push/pull. Show them that you are not affected by their looks and treat them like any other 6th grade little girl. Tease them. Be different.
2. Get in shape. Think about a fat chick. Do you want to tap that? maybe only if you're desperate, but that would contradict the rule #1 above. Just get in shape. You don't have to be a body build (actually, it's impossible for you to be one), but just get in shape and have some definition of your abs and back. Never use machines. Do anything you want, but you MUST do bench press, dead lift and squat. Those are the ones that make you grow. Also, eat more protein. Don't be scared of the bullsh1t that our society wants us to believe about foods. Like how cholesterol in eggs are bad, how fats in foods will make you fat. Bottom line: Protein = good. Natural fats= good. You don't have to be too picky about carbs, but just none after dinner. Btw, fruits milk and yoghurt are carbs.
3. Getting in great shape is just an added bonus. There's nothing stopping a guy in slightly above average shape from getting any girl he wants. Last thing: you have to know that 99% of things that come out of a girl's mouth is BULLSH!T. They don't know what they want, and that's why they need a guy to tell and show them what they want. Be a leader. Take ACTION. Do something that scares you everyday. A boring guy is the biggest turn off for women. Set standards for yourself as if drawing a circle around you. Don't let anyone come into the circle. This is YOUR mindset, and don't let anyone else interfere with that. Women are looking for a solid mindset with congruency. Be sure of yourself and TAKE CHARGE. In a pack of wolves, and alpha/leader wolf gets any pick of the female wolves he wants, and the rest gets sloppy seconds. This is because nobody dares to fuck with the leader wolf. He is smarter, faster, stronger and that is why he is the alpha wolf.
pm me if u wanna know more.
cause us guys need to unlearn these feminine and beta traits that the society has brainwashed us with.
lol if a celebrity asked out, of course she'd dump you in a heartbeat. most girls would.
but she is definitely trying to make you jealous, and it's a sh1t test that girls give to guys to see if they are worthy.
The best way to deal with it is to call her out on it. The next time she says something like that, say " stop trying to make me jealous, it's funny how you try so hard for me" say it in a light jokingly manner.
damn man, start being a man.
that girl is YOUR b1tch, not the other way around.
first of all, let me get one thing across to you : SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Love would mean respect. You just can't love someone you don't respect. And her ordering you around, and lying to you is a clear sign of loss of respect.
second, NEVER judge women by what they say. Just think of everything they say as a useless function of there mouth when they're not sucking you c0ck. Instead, look at her actions, they will tell you all you need to know.
Do you understand what you are doing wrong?
the MAN in the relationship has to be the one in control, it is how nature intended it to be. She is constantly testing you and pushing the limits on how much she can get away with. You just doing what she tells you makes you seem like the b1tch in the relationship.
The next time she tells you to do something, DON'T. But don't be mean to her. For example, she says: "throw away my trash", you should say something like: "ur MY b1tch, you should be throwing MY sh1t away". but do it with a smile so she knows you're just playing. Just remember, NEVER let her disrespect you in ANY way.
if you hangs up on you for any reason, the next time you see her, say "if you EVER hang up on me again, we're through." in a serious tone. If she has any respect for you at all, she'll never do it again, no matter how heated an argument may be.
just looking at your title, i could tell that you are not the kind of person that can have a successful relationship.
you should never have a relationship to the point where you can't simply walk away.
if you keep letting her disrespect you, then it's not before long that she is gonna be with another guy. I don't mean to hurt ur feelings, but i'm willing to bet that she has already slept with other guys behind your back.
if you really think you "need" this girl. I would suggest you take some time off from the relationship.
Improve all the aspect of your life. Be at the point where you have girls lining up to be your gf. Don't be afraid to flirt with other girls. Let her know that you could walk away at any time, and SHE is the one that has to WORK to keep you around.
Man, i really feel ya. I think you need more help than reading just my words. I really don't have the time to go into detail about things. But if you really want to have a chance at saving this relationship go to sosuave.com copy this post on that site. the people there will be much more helpful that this site for relationships. Good luck man, i really do wish the best for you.
never straight up ask a girl out.
maybe after work one day, ask her to go grab some lunch.
then if u felt things went well, ask her to go do something else together (something with action).
remember: you always are in control and calling the shots, not her. she is already attracted to you, there is no question about it. <--- keep that in mind.