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    ShyGuy666

    Sadly, the only real way to stop consuming porn is through strict discipline. You've already made the most important step, admitting that you're addicted to porn, so you're off to a good start.

    It took me three years to admit that I was addicted myself. I used to tell myself that it wasn't so bad and that I was like many other guys doing it too, while in reality I would waste over two hours every single night masturbating to porn, which lead to lost sleep and me lacking energy while at work during the day.

    Pornography is also a self-sustaining addiction; the more you look at porn, the less effect it has on you and the more you need as a result. On several occasions over the last year, I would delete all the comics, pictures and movies on my hard drive except for a select few that I wasn't ready to get rid of, and what do you know, I would start collecting some more the very next day. When I finally admitted to myself that I was addicted, I deleted it all, as well as all the bookmarks to sites I used to visit.

    That was three weeks ago only, but it's a lot easier to ignore the urge already. I know realize that I would turn to porn whenever I was bored as well as every night before going to sleep. Now, when I'm bored I simply start doing something else, preferably something physical to take my mind of it. I still masturbate every day, but it's a much shorter activity now which doesn't take away from my much needed sleep. I've also noticed that my imagination in terms of sex fantasies is much more vivid now that I have to rely on it for stimulation.

    In short, I don't really miss porn now. True, the temptation is still there, especially when I'm bored or when I start thinking about it, which is why it's important to quickly occupy my mind with something else.

    Hope you can manage it too. Your life will only be better for it.

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    ShyGuy666

    I know this is a few months old, but my personal experience was somewhat similar to yours Tom88, so maybe this can help.

    When I was your age over a decade ago, my foreskin was also too tight. I could retract it when flaccid but not when erect. I tried a few times to retract it and then wait for an erection to see how tight it was and it would hurt like hell because both the circumference and my frenulum were too small. It also wouldn't help since the tightness made my erection stronger and thus stretched things ever more, though I was lucky that nothing ever tore up.

    Masturbating in that state required plenty of lube and lead to painful orgasms because of the tightness of the skin, and weak ejaculations (again because of the tightness).

    I never consciously stretched my foreskin on a regular basis, though I would masturbate retracted with lube on a semi-regular basis. It wasn't until last year that I realized that my foreskin had gradually come stretched enough that I can now retract it while erect, and can even move it over the corona to masturbate while using lube.

    In short, I don't have any magic solution for you except to say that with enough regular and careful stretching, you can greatly increase your comfort until you can masturbate with a condom and even ejaculate without pain.

    Anyway, good luck!

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    ShyGuy666

    Whatever the cause was, it's been two days now and the swelling is pretty much gone, though I intend to be careful for a few days just to be sure. And yeah, the swollen area wasn't actually painful as long as I wasn't pressing it too hard.

    In any case, no more silicon for that, and I'll make sure to be more aware in the future of such reactions. Thanks everyone.

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    ShyGuy666

    Before starting, I have to specify that I'm not circumcised and usually don't retract my foreskin while masturbating since it's just a bit too tight except when I'm using water-based lube which seems to alleviate the problem entirely.

    The short story is, I tried masturbating with my foreskin retracted using some silicon lube instead which is supposed to last a lot longer than water-based lube. However, it's also a lot less slippery, so there was a lot more friction than usual and probably some pain too, but the feelings where too intense for me to notice.

    Anyway. After about 20 minutes of this, the heat and pain where starting to be a bit noticeable, so I looked down only to realize that my foreskin had become very, very swollen, becoming about 4 times as thick as usual on the side where my hand would rub against it the most. I was really freaked for a bit, and I didn't try to pull it up because it was really sensitive and because I had no idea what kind of damage I could do to myself if I tried. So I went to sleep with the head of my penis exposed, despite how painful it felt when it rubbed against my underwear, hoping the swelling would subside during the night.

    Well, it didn't. It actually worsened a bit, no doubt because of the friction against my clothes during the night, and was now swollen on both sides of the head.

    I've since spent an entire day in that state, putting back seeing a doctor because it's impossible to see one right now for various reasons. I took a chance a few minutes ago, and using a lot of water-based lube, managed to pull the foreskin over the head to at least protect it and prevent continued swelling through active friction.

    What I'd like is some kind of advice about what I can do until I can see a doctor on monday. Should I put ice on it or are there any kind of non-prescription medecine I can take that might reduce the swelling while not being dangerous for anything else? Or should I just stay put, wait for the swelling to reduce itself and hope that I didn't suffer any minor cuts or run any risks of infection? Any help would be appreciated.

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    ShyGuy666

    Personally, I find that it somewhat enhances the pleasure felt while masturbating myself through other means (nipples, penis, etc) and can make the orgasm more powerful if pressed during it but by itself it doesn't feel like much except internal pressure.

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    ShyGuy666

    Sorry. I rarely visit the forum anymore, so I tend to reply to whatever thread I find interesting on the first page without taking notice of the date.

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    ShyGuy666

    Going back to your original question, porn addiction, like any addiction, is a tough thing to control/beat, depending on your goal.

    Until recently, I would spend at least one hour a day looking at porn and masturbating. It had gotten to the point where it was mandatory, and I simply couldn't bring myself to take a shower and go to bed before having at least that hour or porn watching.

    Stopping isn't easy, but hopefully you'll realize that with time, it will become easier. Me, I used to have close to 2 GB of very explicit mangas on my hard drive, as well as a ton of bookmarks to sites with more sex mangas as well as various hard core (and sometimes ultra hard core) movies and message boards.

    The first thing I did was delete almost all the porn I had but sadly, there's a minimal amount I can't bring myself to get rid of. Within days of deleting them, I was almost compeled to download a few erotic comics again. I deleted all the offending bookmarks, though unfortunately some of them had by that point been burned into my memory. Resisting the temptation to visit those sites again is hard. I went through a few relapses (in fact, this is probably the third time I've tried to stop using porn altogether), and I honestly can't say that I won't have another, though I hope not.

    I don't have anymore tips really, aside from trying to resist the temptation as much as possible. It's all you can do really because in the end, if you're motivated to get porn, you'll find a way to get some despite the various site blockers and securities.

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    ShyGuy666

    Yeah, when your ass and rectum are clean (though not necessarily to the extent of having an enema), there's still a faint lingering smell (not of feces) that does make me hornier when I'm masturbating, though otherwise it has no effect.

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    ShyGuy666

    He's right; stretching and not having a pot belly are pretty much the only tricks, if you're ever able to do it. I used to be able to do it with some difficulty as a teen, when I was so thin you could count my ribs just by looking at my chest. Over a decade (and several more pounds) later, I can't get within 4 inches of it.

    What sucks is that when I was able to do it, I was such a newbie to masturbation that I only really got to enjoy it once, that is bringing myself to come purely with my mouth. Sadly, so far I haven't been able to manage the discipline to be able to do it again, do personaly pleasure is as good a reason as you can have to shape up ;\)

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    ShyGuy666

    Actually, this is how I started masturbating at first, before I caught on from all the kids at school making jerking motions with their hands that my method wasn't the most effective.

    Anyway... Every once in a while, I'll masturbate this way. Usually, I lie on a pillow on a bed, preferably with a few towel under me, the top-most being as smooth as possible so as not to irritate my penis too much. Humping the bed this way feels good but I personally can't come this way anymore (as opposed to as a teen where I'd come with the barest of stimulation); I usually alternate between humping and jerking off really hard. The trick is to bring myself almost to the point of no return so that the next humping pushes me over the edge and gives me one mother of a powerful orgasm.

    There's something that feels incredibly great and different about ejaculating while not holding my penis this way; the pulsing feels less like a series of distinct "bangs" and more like a continuous flow of release that blend one into the next. It's hard to explain really, but god does it feel good. The only reason I don't do it more often is that it's more messy (hence why I stack a few towels under me, and still it manages to shoot a good foot ahead under me) and it's more work (since I constantly alternate between humping and jerking).

    Give it a try this way if you feel like you're in control of yourself enough.

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