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    SilentRain

    It's difficult to prevent, and it's part of life, part of love making in many cases.

    Don't be embarrassed, if he loves you and know's what's going on I'm sure he won't think anything of it.

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    SilentRain

    I'm fine with having sex while my parnter is having her period, and so is she (as long as she knows I'm fine with it). We haven't missed a day in months, and period days are no exception.

    Regarding the mess as some have posted, it really isn't a problem for us. Yeah there's a little blood on the bed covers, but it washes out and it's no worse than a semen stain.

    I suppose during the heavy part of her period we just keep it confined to the bed so we don't have the 'mess' anywhere else around the house.

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    SilentRain

    This might be especially tough if it's the first person close to you that you have lost.

    The letter suggestion is a great one, I've done similar things before or even collected momentos into a box that I sometimes go back to, to remember the person and the great times we had.

    You might not be ready for this, but I've found that it helps to get together with people that also shared his life, and talk about the things that you loved in your coach. Good times, funny times etc.

    You'll probably have times where you feel you're coping very well, then other times where you'll become upset and emotional quite easily. So don't feet that this is abnormal.

    Good luck and best wishes.


    Steve

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    SilentRain

    No, I just think that she was borderline break up and was 'feeling the water' with rybapocalypse. It's obviously a case-by-case thing.

    Would you not agree that it's best to show what you're truly feeling, rather than acting around being something that you are not? Is that something you do frequently?

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    SilentRain

    Well, no it's not! Who's to say that she wouldn't have broken up with him if you had said, "Yes, I am hurt, and yes, I want you". She may well have broken it off with him if she honestly knew that you were into her.

    Honesty is the best policy. Why do you want to live life trying to be someone that you are not (ie: lieing about your feelings)?

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    SilentRain

    You should have been honest with her about your being hurt. It may have all been a test to see your reaction, to see whether you really do like her or not.

    Why do you think that men do not hurt? Do you think it is cool not to hurt, hence you acted tough? You're a fool for thinking this, as it has probably screwed you over even moreso. She may now think that you don't care for her much at all.

    Women like to hear that you love them, even if they already know it. She may have wanted to hear that you were feeling hurt by it all.

    It takes more of a man to confront and reveal his feelings, than to hide them/ignore them/run from them.

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    SilentRain

    In reply to:

    but did the accident happen near Sullivan, Missouri




    Yes, that is the one...

    I've never met either of the two people, but it's just such a sad story, or a bittersweet story I should say. Robert Cook is a hero, and I'm sure he'll never be forgotten. Interviews with the family of Ms Dean have been very emotional, they'll forever be grateful for what he's done.

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    SilentRain

    Dear all,

    I'm not sure whether you've all heard the news there, but a gentlemen and hero, Robert Cook, gave his life last Saturday for someone who he had barely known for more than a couple of hours.

    Such a selfless act could never go unrecognised - he gave his life in an aircraft accident to save a lady whom he was just about to skydive with. An Australian lady by the name of Kimberly Dear. It's big news here and I'm sure that it will never be forgotten.

    Our heartfelt condolences go to his family, who have tragically lost a young son, and brother. He was only 22. It could be said that they gave the Dear family another chance, another chance at a normal and happy life...

    AU news article here: http://www.smh.com.au/news/world/young-calm-staring-death-in-the-face/2006/08/02/1154198184485.html

    I'll be praying for them all tonight.

    SR

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    SilentRain

    I agree with unsupervised.

    Don't worry about him - if he has any decency (and he sounds like a decent guy) he should be more concerned about making it a memorable experience for you. He won't expect you to know all the tricks in the book, or even any of them, so I bet my last dollar that he's quite willing to help you through and take lead of the situation.

    If I were you, I'd relax, communicate well, follow his lead and enjoy the ride.

    He cannot compare the two (sex with you and his ex), and he should not. Sex only becomes better as you get to know each other, and honestly I've found that the more you love someone, the better the sex. It's not just sex, it is making love.

    It sounds cheesy, but I honestly feel that way. Sex just isn't the same as making love.

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    SilentRain

    Most certainly not. As per the previous posts, why is it wrong to differentiate between a guy that's good looking and one that is not?

    Heck I do it all the time - if my G/F says 'Oh he's good looking' oftentimes I'll comment, or agree, or disagree and suggest some other guy who might be better looking IMO.

    Any guy who thinks it's gay is probably more in doubt of their sexuality than a guy who is comfortable with saying it. I'd be more inclined to think that they themselves are gay (not that that's a bad thing!!!).

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