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    Sock is a bit odd, probs best to man up and buy a pack of tissues lol.

    Hawk

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    Hi Tangled,Very interesting topic! All the guys I know don't have a problem with going down on a girl so to speak and neither do I. So I think it is just a hygene issue. I must admit the first time I fingered a girl was very similar to what the other guy said, and when I smelt my finger it smelt very odd. I was going to go down then I avoided it, half to do with the smell, half to do with nerves. I guess it does smell odd to guys the first time. Now I'm more experienced and I really enjoy everything about giving oral, for me thats the best bit of foreplay.Though back on the stinky topic, there was one time where I was with a partner and went down on her, however it smelt like peperoni! :S Odd i know! Put it this way, I almost threw up, then for months I couldn't go near pizza's with it on without gagging. I think I did actually throw up the next time I had pizza :S. However all the other times I gave oral it didn't smell so I guess it does change. Not always just down to hygene but also whats happening in the body at that time. Also they say with guys if they eat more fruit their cum tastes sweeter whereas more junk food it tastes saltier, so could also be dietry. Hawk

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    Welcome Lonelyguy. Like the boss said you are among friends here. You don't have to worry about childish behaviour or people being immature.Have you thought about joining any social clubs? Be it football, golf, fishing? Anything? These are all great ways to get out there and meet people. If you feel you wouldn't be any good at any of these just do some research into the different activities and find out more. We all start off as beginners but if you really want to give something a go there is nothing stopping you.Also have you thought about volunteering maybe a few hours a week somewhere just so you can get out there talking to people, making new friends and joining up networks.I think its worth a try and you have nothing to lose but all to gain :). Hope this helps and try not to despair, you've taken the first step by talking about it.Chin up mate!Hawk

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    Hi Fella,Great advice from the doc, just remember you have nothing to lose by talking to people. It might be worth finding out about any clubs/sports that you could pick up at uni. Learn new skills and make new friends? I was the same as you in school in the UK, but when I joined the rugby team I really embraced the team spirit and learnt a sport that I love and play to this day. The friends i made are still my friends now. Talk to your tutors about missing their classes. Tell them the situation, maybe they can advise you how to keep up with the studies, you need to make the effort to catch up. By showing your tutors you are making an effort that should be enough to get them to help you.With your family it's your choice, be honest with them and say you missed it as your struggling. Or lie and say its all going well. It's your choice but it might be good to let your family know that you are finding it hard so they can give some moral support.Finally, your lack of sleep should be helped by reducing stress after talking to your tutor, councilors and looking into social clubs. If not put another thread up about advice for lack of sleep, I'm sure there will be suggestions. Getting up in the morning will be resolved by an alarm clock or something similar. You need to say to yourself, from here on in I'm going to work my arse off to do well. It's your future and you can make what you want out of it. You've taken the first step by recognising you are falling behind. Now is time to step up your game and "get back on the horse".Hawk

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    Hi Web,It sounds like a tough situation.Worrying about pregnancy is something almost every woman will have concerns about at some point but there really are so many options for birth control these days there is bound to be one for you.I know you've probably heard some horror stories about the pain of sex but usually as others have said, pain comes when you are unrelaxed and your body isn't prepared. Just remember if your vagina can dilate enough to get a baby out a penis shouldn't be much of a problem for it. BUT, don't get me wrong. The baby doesn't just slide out, it takes time to dilate and stretch. As does when you prepare for sex.When you get turned on, naturally the inside will lube itself up and the entrance will loosen and dilate. This is your bodies natural response, getting you ready for him. But when you're alone you can help yourself prepare. Like the other guy said, if you used a small dildo, lube and just take your time, physically there will be not a lot stopping you from gently opening up with the least amount of pain possible. Doing this a few times will massively reduce the amount of pain for the first time you have sex and will probably make it more enjoyable for you. Also some women do it in the bath with the dildo as this further relaxes them.I understand your concerns about using a dildo, but the best way I can advise you to look at it is, if you don't stretch it in your own time when there is no pressure and you can take things at your own pace. Then you'll be in a situation when you and your partner do want to have sex and if your entrance isn't used to being stretched then the chances are it will hurt. However this is only temporary and usually only lasts the first one or two times you have sex. After this the vagina hopefully is used to this and pain rapidly disapears.Also another option is doing a lot of foreplay before sex, a lot of lube and I'm not being funny but 3 fingers is a lot for someone who hasn't had sex before. I know some girls who 3 fingers hurt them and they lost their virginities many a year ago.STD's the best way to work with that is always make sure you're using condoms or femidoms and ask your partner to be honest about their sexual past.Heartbreak and feeling used are hard to avoid, but if you wait and take your time before you say you are ready then that should show you they're worth it if they wait around. The first time I did it we waited 6 months as it was both of our first times, definitely made it more special and we had so many other aspects to our relationship, it actually didn't distract us from the important parts.Finally back to your original thing, yes you can get addicted to sex, but if you have a strong and stable relationship before you start having sex you should be fine. Just take your time and when you do finally decide to do it talk to your partner. Explain your worries and say, if I or you feel we're getting too distracted from the other aspects of our relationship we need to talk to eachother to let the other know. Communication is the most important thing when it comes to sex.Take what you want, leave what you want. I'm not an expert, just giving my opinion. Hope it helps and just take everything at your own pace, if anyone tries to make you do something you don't want to they aren't worth it!Hawk

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    Hi web,Yeah your right relationships SHOULDN'T be able pain and suffering and its not unrealistic for you to want that. Some people will put more effort in than others and have more determination for the relationship to work out.I think its not wrong of you to love and be loved, everyone wants that deep down. However sometimes get that mixed up with the Hollywood effect. With butterflys and all the lovey dovey stuff you see in disney films. Sure it can happen but usually its just at the start as everythings new, the truth is that it goes once you get used to eachother but what a lot of people don't understand is just because that ends doesn't mean you don't still love eachother, just a different stage of the relationship.I'm sure you'll meet someone who loves you back the way you love them! Da Hawk

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    Welcome GrahamCrackers,Got to agree with JDLN and the professor, if you don't tell her you will never know. She could feel the same way. But if you leave it you might become closer friends.I liked a girl and was really close friends for 3 years and then finally got together with her. So depending on the individual circumstances it is possible but everyone is different. Depends if you want to play the long term game or just come out with the truth.Only you can make the decision. Sorry its probably not what you want to hear.Da Hawk

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    It sounds to me like she likes you but obviously I don't know her and i can't see what signs she is actually giving off.I was in a really similar position to you about 3 years ago. There was a girl i was head over heels for who I'd wanted to be with since the first time i saw her. I came on here and asked should i make a move and put her in a situation where she could choose between me or her bf or would that be unfair on him.In the end i chose that it was a bad idea and i should just keep my distance and see how things turned out. I moved on went out with someone else, she broke up with her boyfriend as he was a bum and really liked me, 2 years later and we're finally going out with eachother. The point is you dont know whats going to happen, she could break up with her boyfriend tomorrow and go out with you or you could end up playing the long game like me and get there 3 years later. It all out of your hands. All you can do is be there and get closer to her as a friend. Just keep an eye out and make sure you dont get too friendly.If its meant to happen it will.

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    I'm very sorry to hear you had to go through that. It's never a nice experience.When driving a motorcycle we are trained to hit what evers infront of us aswell. Because if you try to turn or lock your breaks then your off and your sliding down the road. In a car I can imagine its the same sort of thing, if you lock your breaks in the wet then your going to meet a lamp post or a wall somewhere.Da Hawk

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    You could tell the Urologist whilst he's down there, though if you dont he might notice it straight away and ask you about it. You never know. But my advice would be bring his attention to it to make things easier.Peace and loveHawk

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