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    StudCrumb105

    She's very adamant about the fact that she didn't have any sort of traumatic experience in the time we were apart. She insists that this is normal for some people and that there's nothing wrong with her. Maybe there isn't? But whenever I ask her about it she says the idea of anybody being near her or touching her "down there" grosses her out and makes her feel dirty. She says it's just messy and not fun. I just don't know what to do with that. We are on complete opposite ends on the spectrum. I'm the type that could have sex ten times a day and she just wants absolutely nothing to do with it...

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    The problem is that I don't think she feels it necessary to mention it to her doctor. She's told me that this is just normal for some people and that there's nothing she can do about it. This is just how she is now. I think she has had some low hormone levels of some sort so that might play a part in it. I'm wondering if it is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder or something like that, but I'm hesitant to mention that to her because I don't want to offend her and tell her something is wrong with her. You know? Things are tense enough when sex is involved and it's simply out of fear of making things worse.

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    StudCrumb105

    Hi All,

    It's been YEARS since I posted on here, but glad to see the site is still up and running and been redone! I am seeking advice on my current relationship.

    My girlfriend and I are having issues when it comes to our sexuality. Now, both of us are virgins. She wants to wait and that's fine with me. We dated for three years and had a decent "sex life" We would fool around all the time and it was great, it worked for us. Then we took a break for a year and recently got back together. However, she now pretty much has zero sex drive. She's just not interested in doing anything physical. She says that she wishes she wanted it more, but just doesn't. Her body is just never turned on. As you might imagine this is causing a LOT of tension for us because I am ALWAYS in the mood.

    So, any advice on what we can do? Because it's really hurting the relationship, but we are at a loss.

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    StudCrumb105

    Ok well thank you all for the input! I greatly appreciate it and I'll see what I can do! :wink:

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    StudCrumb105

    Hm yeah I was almost afraid it would be more a mental thing. That's harder to overcome than the physical part. And no she's never given herself one. She doesn't masturbate. I've mentioned it to her before that maybe she should try herself, but she always says she never gets turned on by herself and only gets turned on when I'm with her. Which is good and bad thing I guess.

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    StudCrumb105

    I use both my hands and mouth. And yep, I'm familiar with where the clitoris is so that's not an issue.I do try both sometimes, but it never seems to evoke any more response than just one or the other. So I think I've tried most of what you just said before, but have had no luck. What other details to you need?

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    Yeah I think that may be part of the problem. We've talked about this a lot together and I think sometimes I might be a little too hard on the clitoris. She'll often say that she needs to rest for a few minutes because it gets to be too much. But how should a go about focusing on it exactly?

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    Hi everyone! Just joined here! Looks like a neat place.

    So I need some advice. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and naturally we mess around a lot. We don't have sex because we want to wait, but we do plenty of other things. Now it probably comes as no surprise that it isn't hard to make me orgasm, after all, I am a guy. However, I've never once been able to make her orgasm. I know it's different for every girl and it's probably hard to give advice on this, but anything would be appreciated. I'd really like her to experience it since she's never had one before!

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