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    Tomatoes

    Hey so this is weird. There's this girl I think I really like who is super cute and gorgeous. I always used to notice that she was hot and think regular guy stuff like "wow nice eyes/body/tits" when she was looking particularly attractive. But now that I think she likes me too I only feel nervous when looking at her or pictures of her on fb. I remembered how back when I was 15/16 (19 now) I used to get reaaallly horny when even thinking about a cute girl I knew, and especially by looking at pics of the girl (yes I was a regular pervy high schooler). So why doesn't the same thing happen now? I actually got so worried about this I tested it out and tried seeing if her pictures would
    Turn me on. But it didn't work; i just felt guilty about trying to get aroused with her face staring back at me. Does this mean I'm not attracted to her? What happens if we get to the point of kissing or something and I simply don't get aroused?? I'm so nervous because I think this might happen and ive never actually even kissed a girl before...does the fact that I can't get horny just by thinking about her or looking at a pic of her mean I don't really like her? Really confused here because I'd hate to lead a girl on for no reason... But now that I think of it there arent many random cute girls i know who can turn me on just by looking, yet it used to be like that...am i over thinking here and should I just see where it goes?

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    I am literally going mad. It's been 2 weeks since I had my circumcision (at 18 years old, because of phimosis) and by god I need to jack off...A few days ago I wanted to see what would happen if I looked at pictures of sexy women. So I googled and found this: http://cachetladiestor.com/157_AleahCachetLa.html on an escort site. And the second I looked at the pics of that girl I started to get rigid. So I said to myself "NO!" and got out the ice pack as fast as I could...didn't want to tear the stitches that were still there.

    Well I can't help myself and I've been looking at half-naked sexy pictures like that for the last few days- although it doesn't happen as sudden as the first couple of times, it starts to expand ..a bit... and so I've kept teasing myself for some reason. I mean my stitches don't hurt at all, even when I wake up with a semi-hard-on...

    I've heard from everyone on the internet "4-6 weeks before sex/masturbation" or "4 days after the stitches fall out". And as far as the post-op goes, all I got was some sheet telling me to "change [my] diaper very carefully" (What? - Oh better flip to the adult side), or "no sex for X weeks" (can't remember exactly..) Anyway, I'm scared of what this proves about me if I'm already climbing the walls after not cumming for 2 weeks. Is this normal? Should I just keep trying to get a boner up until the point where I feel the stitches pulling? ......or just WAIT - which is starting to make me irritable and not feel like doing anything

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    hey unsupervised, believe it or not, but you telling me that didn't magically make me realize that the loose numb skin wasn't a "real"problem. Know that I've been debating this myself since 2007. Just because you are trying to follow Occam's Razor doesn't mean you are automatically able to dismiss totally what I say my problem is.

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    oh and thanks Rad. I guess you're right - as long as it can retract. which it can, when I pull the inflamed "ring" back. I guess even if as much skin as I thought wasn't removed (like in a partial circ), it doesn't really matter, since I know that my head will be fully exposed when erect.

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    Why did I go?...interesting question. Originally it started 2 years ago when I masturbated once with axe shower gel (with menthol?) that really irritated my penis skin and made it lose sensation, also making the skin really stretched, loose and wrinkly. THAT problem was never fixed even though I went to 2 urologists, 2 GPs and a dermatologist over that time. (a couple of them thought I was making "too big a deal" of it, and one even recommended I seek counseling.) Eventually I went to a GP who believed me and said I definitely was not obsessing (and also that the guy who suggested it was nuts). He also said it could have been menthol in the gel but offered no solution.

    So I was really pissed with the situation by this point and thought to hell with it, why don't I at least try to remove as much of that stretchy wrinkly numb skin as possible in the form of a circumcision - it made sense as I was also having trouble retracting the foreskin when erect. (the 2 things coupled were giving me a hard time feeling any sensation and making it difficult to masturbate). The urologist agreed to do it on the grounds that I couldn't retract the foreskin, since he too didn't have a solution to the original problem.

    So now I'm hoping that the exposed head and perhaps removal of some numbed skin will allow me to stimulate myself more easily and get hard like I used to (thought I can't be sure yet). ...At any rate I at least won't have a phimosis problem anymore.

    Wow that took long to type. Sorry if it's way too confusing and makes no sense to you - a couple of the doctors I spoke to didn't get it either - I guess cause the numbed/stretchy problem has never before come up in the history of urology...

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    ok so it's Saturday and I got a circumcision on Tuesday. Right after I took off my bandages on Thursday, I noticed something strange. ...I was circed but I couldn't see my whole penis head!

    There was a huge swollen pink "ring" around the penis base that was so large it was in fact covering about the last 1/4 of the head. Behind it were the stitches that connect it to the rest of the skin on my shaft. Judging just by how it looks, I am assuming that this is the region from where the foreskin was cut....But then shouldn't that area be 'beneath' the cap of the head (and not some big puffed ring)?

    Here this is what I mean... http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/6/63/Circumsised_penis_-Flacid_and_Erect-_High_Res.jpg

    You see in the flaccid picture the oddly coloured area between the head of the penis and the rest of the shaft? - From the part where that vein stop being visible? Well mine's HUGE and is swollen to the point of devouring the last 1/4 of the head! like some puffy ring! I can't imagine it ever shrinking completely down to the point where my head covers it, like in pictures of circed penises. Right now I'm hoping that this is what people mean by "swelling after circumcision"--I thought that was just general swelling but this is ridiculous..

    Anyone had a similar experience or know if this is normal?

    Anyone know what this is? Was my penis skin simply too long even without the foreskin and do I have to deal with this "second foreskin" now??

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    Well there are really two things I want to do here. First of all, since I just turned 18 I've decided that it's probably as good a time as any to start getting in shape since I haven't really done anything since I was 14.

    I have a treadmill at home and a mat for doing sit-ups etc., but I'm not really sure how to go about getting in a routine that would work for me - I've been told by someone to run 2 miles every other day on the treadmill but tbh that is really too much for me, and if I did it, I don't think I could follow through with any other exercises. So I thought maybe a run/jog for 15 mins every other day and then do 30 sit ups and 10 pushups? or 3 times a week? or ...maybe not that much? Maybe there's some other better way to exercise that I don't even know. ---- Basically I'm not really sure how to start doing anything, since I've never really been an active sort of guy. Could anyone reccomend just a basic way/routine to get going?

    And secondly, my physique isn't that great - I'm a pretty skinny guy with bad posture - basically (http://www.alignmed.com/images/Posture.jpg), like the guy on the right, except my ass kind of sticks out too as it's the only part of me that isn't that skinny haha. So I'm wondering if I do follow through with some sort of basic routine (like doing something every other or w/e), would that be the best way to improve my posture, since it would strengthen my ab muscles or something like that? (Or is the best way just to put my shoulders and head back all day and hope I will get stuck like that)

    I know this is sort of a long post, but thanks to anyone who can help, or even just point me in the right direction!

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     Originally Posted By: sdp

    well yeah I did that. a lot of what I find is just general tips of sitting up straight though. I posted here to see if anyone could tell me how they went about improving it, because googling gives you a bunch of random answers and exercises lol

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    you mean the exercise stuff is usually BS for improving posture, or Grown just BS's? lol

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    so I guess it'd be a combination of making a concious effort to walk straight as well as getting in good shape? I think I'll start with the exercise first, cause I'd feel pretty silly walking around straight for no apparent reason...

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