Always, always, always use protection. Carrying a condom in your handbag doesn't make you look like a slut. It's far less painful than having to slide into the chemist for the morning after pill, or getting checked for STI's.
A good ONS is someone you aren't going to be embarrassed to see again socially. Our lives are full of accidentally bumping into people. Make sure anyone you sleep with is mature enough to be pleasant with socially after. Sex with a grown up is far better than having it with a 12 year old trapped in a 30 year old's body. And chatting afterwards is always nice and good.
Have it with someone completely attracted to you. And vice versa. That's the whole point really isn't it? You want to feel good after it. If you pick well you'll be feeling sexier, happier and more attractive for days.
If it's something you are doing with randoms on a very regular basis take a look at why. For some it's a stage in their life. But if it's the only thing making you feel good, it's probably good to take a wee break for a bit. Everyone needs a good hobby. Having casual sex responsibly once or twice however is different from compulsive random shagging which is perhaps not the healthiest hobby you can have.
Here are some simple and easy ways to help you last longer in bed:
- Try with Kegels
Before you try anything else, start doing Kegels. Kegel is an exercise that can help you strengthen your pelvic muscles. Stronger pelvic muscles can be a great asset when it comes to controlling your ejaculations. In order to do a kegel, try to stop urine midstream. The muscle that you contract to do so is called the PC muscle. Try to squeeze it for 5 seconds before releasing it. Begin with doing 10-15 repetitions of this exercise and gradually increase both the squeezing time as well as repetitions.
Within a few weeks, you will notice a great difference in both your erection hardness and ejaculatory control.
- Try To Think of Something Else
This is a technique that a lot of men use. While having intercourse think of something else such as your football match or your old grandmother etc. Thinking of something can remove your focus from thrusting and it can ease out tension so that you are able to last longer.
- Use Double Condoms
Using a condom itself can be a big help in helping you overcome premature ejaculation. Direct skin to skin contact is immensely pleasurable resulting in high excitement during intercourse that can make you ejaculate quickly. Wearing a condom on your penis can reduce this pleasure a little bit and make you last longer. If you are still not able to hold back, put on two condoms and this should give you better control.
- Devote More Time to Foreplay
When in bed, do not rush things. Take you time warming up to the real act. Women love having foreplay. Spend some time kissing, fondling and cuddling her. This can help build up excitement too and can make your erection even harder. The harder your erection is longer would you be able to last.
- Try Tribulus Terrestris
Tribulus Terrestris is a herb that is native to countries like Indonesia and Malaysia. It is commonly used in Chinese and Indian medicine systems to help cure sexual problems in men. One of the most important properties of tribulus is that it is highly effective for enhancing testosterone levels in men. More importantly, it is particularly effective in improving your ejaculatory control. It can do wonders for your erections hardness too.
- Try to Control Your Breathing
Breath control is extremely important to improve your ejaculatory control. Just when you think that you are close to the point of no return, stop and take a deep breath. Hold your breath for a few seconds before releasing it. Try it for a few times before starting again. This technique can help reduce tension and buy you more time in bed.
You can also learn yoga to improve your breath control.
- Try a Delay Spray
One of the most effective ways to last longer is with the help of a delay spray. Such sprays have been getting more and more popular with an ever-increasing number of men trying them. Such a spray consists of a mild anesthetic that makes the nerves in your penis head less sensitive. Thus, it can make you last longer during intercourse.
Many couples find that the sex in their relationships abruptly stops being good. There are a lot of reasons why sex decreases in otherwise good relationships; however here are the three most common problems that sexless couples have and how to remedy them.
Increase Sex in Your Relationship: 3 Good Ways
Number 1 Problem: You are hurting her.
Believe it or not, but this is far more common than most guys would believe. Just because she doesn't complain doesn't mean that it is really pleasurable for her, she may simply be waiting for you to hurry up and finish.! Generally speaking most men would benefit by decreasing the strength of their touch, on the other hand most women would gain from increasing their grip's firmness.
Similarly many guys touch her internal erogenous zones before she is ready. It is easy to do and leave her feeling sore and unhappy afterward. This problem can easily be fixed by giving more foreplay, making her more excited before sex even takes place (What I call fore-foreplay!) or using more lubrication.
Common Problem Number 2: She Needs More Emotion
Okay so Elvis may want 'a little less conversation; a little more action', but for the rest of us talking about sex shouldn't be something we are ashamed of. In fact honest talk about sex (or lack of) may just reveal exactly where both of you have been going wrong.
Of course talking doesn't mean that you just list off your favorite fantasies or whisper something that turns you on in the quietest voice you can manage. It simply means that you keep the channels of communication open and make sure that you talk honestly and openly about all aspects of sex from what turns you on to what it means to both of you.
Common Problem 3: Lack of Technique.
While most guys will tell you that they are virtuoso studs in the bedroom capable of giving their partner an effortless orgasm, their women would likely tell a different story! Luckily for the clumsy lovers out there there are resources to turn any lover into a virtuoso. Don't be afraid to learn and soon you will be making her orgasm every time.