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    In reply to: Are you kidding me? Thats the worst idea I've ever heard. LMFAO!!

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    Sounds like a vicious circle. But when you finally do get with a girl, your confidence will improve, your luck will improve, your life will improve, n'est-ce pas?
    I think what people are telling you is valid: you should try to feel good about yourself and be happy with or without a girl or a relationship. But if you can't do that, you can't. Sooner or later you'll meet someone anyway. Everybody does, eventually.
    Take care.

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    Hey there.I'm glad you're feeling a little better. I read your post earlier but I didn't know what to say. Well, hang in there. Things will get better.Good luck, ~ Ivy

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    In reply to:rape is not sex! Good point. Let me repeat it, for those who didn't catch it: RAPE IS NOT FUCKING SEX!!!!

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    In reply to:Wow! Really dug reading that. Me too. That was profound.

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    First, try it by yourself, alone. Get a vibrator or use water pressure in the shower/ bath.It's easier to orgasm with a partner once you've learned to do it on your own. Some women have trouble orgasming with a partner because they fear loss of control or some kind of embarrassment. Once you've had orgasms on your own and know what to expect, you'll feel less inhibited about doing it in front of somebody else.Good luck!

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    Attraction is a weird thing; I've never really figured it out. I think it has a lot to do with chemistry. All I know is, you can't force it... it's either there or it's not. I've had a lot of friends who were with abusive or asshole guys, and I could never understand why. It's not like they didn't have other options; there are plenty of nice, decent guys around who know how to treat women with respect. But again, I guess it just goes back to personal chemistry. I'm sure that you'll eventually find a girl you like, and who likes you in return. You just have to be yourself, be patient and keep looking. Good luck.

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    I thought is sort of retracted naturally when you had a hard-on...? Eh, I don't know. Pull it back, maybe. But whatever you do, make sure it's clean underneath first. I've had unpleasant experiences w/ oral on uncirced guys.

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    This may not be good advice for your situation... the straightforward approach might be best... but this is what I used to do when I was younger and wanted to meet someone who was more or less a stranger. I'd figure out who he hung out with, and then I'd make friends with his friends. That way, I'd have a legitimate excuse/ opportunity for being around him. This worked better for me than the straightforward approach for a couple of reasons: 1. I was shy when I was younger, and I was afraid I'd say something stupid or be flat-out rejected or made fun of if I just walked right up to some stranger that I was attracted to and started talking. I had no problem, however, talking to his friends; without the element of attraction there, I was much less shy and self-conscious and didn't have trouble starting conversations, etc. 2. Guys seem put off by girls who openly and aggressively chase them down (or at least the ones I knew were like that), so it seemed like I had a better chance of hooking up with someone if I sort of insinuated my way into his circle of friends and then waited for him to notice me.Sometimes this worked and other times it didn't... but even if it didn't work and the guy continued to ignore me, I'd lost nothing really, and gained new friends. And a lot of times, you know, it did actually work. I'm not sure how well this strategy would work for a guy, but it might be worth a try. Make friends with her friends, put yourself out there until she gets used to your presence, and then try talking to her. At least you'll have friends in common then, and things to talk about, and it might seem less weird and awkward than just approaching a total stranger and trying to talk to her.

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    In reply to: I jumble things I say. I will be talking and I will screw every sentence up. I will get the words in wrong places, say the words wrong. It sucks Oops, I overlooked this part. That sounds like social anxiety, which often goes hand-in-hand with ADD. It's very common. There is medication for that too.

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