Teen pregnancy

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A friend of mine, 19, wants a baby. She doesnt have a job, doesnt have a career path laid out for her yet, lives with her mother and grandmother. She found a guy who wanted a relationship, she had sex with him, waited till she missed her period, then dumped him, hoping that she got what she wanted. This has been going on for about two years. Her 16 year old sister just had a baby last month, and now her sisters friend, also 16, is competing with my friend to see who can get pregnant faster. Am I the only one who sees this as wrong? when I ask her why it is so important for her to have a baby, she replys "I love babies"She cant even take care of cats. She saw this cat, loved it, kidnapped it from a neighbor, it had kittens, and now its too much work. She drove out to the country, dropped it off, and went back home without any remourse. How is she going to take care of a child?? Sorry this is a little long...I just wanted to vent a little.

people like that scare the hell out of me, cos they have NO idea what it means to have a baby. Its a shame that she can't be neutered until shes older.I think a lot of girls fall in love with the idea of babies, they smell lovely, they are cute, and you can play dress up!the reality is, yes they are cute, but not when they have been crying in the middle of the night for 4 hours cos they have a sore tummy, yes they smell nice - in between the dirty nappies and the puking - and yeah you can play dress up with yourself when they get puke, or food all down your best top laffinBeing a parent is the hardest job in the world, and i would very much doubt that someone like that could bring up a dog let alone a child. I have known some 16 year old mothers, who are good mothers, or at least as good as they can be for their age, and the kids are well balanced etc, but, she doesn't seem like shes going to be one of those sigh

i think that she should be neutered also till she matures. and she has never even raised an animal alone...her mom always ends up doing it.

your right too though that some teen mothers are good ones. my mom had me when she was 16. i turned out fine...i think hehe. i just dont think that people should treat it like a game. i dont have any kids, but i do have a baby sister, and eventhough i dont live with her, i do understand what is so hard about raising a child. i wish that other people could see it that way.

thank you for agreeing with me (im afraid some people might take offense to this, eventhough i am only dissing on my friend, and she knows how i feel.)

I think your friend needs to mature alot more before she conciders having a baby. Babies are wonderful, but they need alot of care and attention and by what you have said about your friend, she is no where near being ready for that type of responsability. Someone needs to set your friend down and explain to her that babies aren't play things and that she can't just shove them off onto someone else when she gets tired of them. In reply to: thank you for agreeing with me (im afraid some people might take offense to this, eventhough i am only dissing on my friend, and she knows how i feel.) Well no one should take any offense from your post, you're expressing your feelings on this subject and there is nothing wrong with it. Good luck, hopefully someone will get through to her before she does get pregnant.

i agree. she needs to be in a stable relationship at least first. my friend, 16, is about to have a baby but she is in a very stable relationship with the father and has got everything she needs and has matured enough to have it. some people can cope, some cant.

no 16 year old is mature or stable enough to have a baby

That's rather a blanket statement. I'm sure there have been many 16 year olds who have been good mothers. However these girls don't show any cause for confidence.

It is but that's my opinion....maybe years ago 16 was an okay age, but not now. It's nothing about being a good mother and loving your child, I just don't think a 16 year is emotionally, mentally, nor financially capable or raising a child.

I have to agree with Amanda on this one...

Amanda is right. there is alot of maturing to do before someone is ready to raise a child. eventhough my mom was a good mother, my grandma did most of the raising. I went with my friend to get a pregnancy test at the clinic, they said she is not pregnant, which was a relief to me, but she still thinks there might be a chance. i hope not. also, i have talked a little bit of sence into her. she agreed with me yesterday that she needs to at least have a job to support the baby, and a father figure that she cares for (i think she has a guy in mind that she likes, and he has liked her since we were in grade school, that would be so cute!)haha, just a lil update there.