Self depression

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I am curious, I usually go through depression sometimes...random, but I am curious to know if this is something I have done to get attention. I notice that I do it and it brings me down, yet i talk a lot. I think I am afraid of not having anyone to talk to. So is it possible that i bring on depression by my fear?

depression is a very personal thing. If you were to take chemical imbalance out of the equasion, depression is something you can talk your self both into and out of.Take a look at the external first. Is there something that is affecting you, can you identify it and can you change it?

I am not sure. I mean could loneliness be something that could cause that. I am not sure. I mean, i dunno.

i used to and still have extreme anxiety about school... and it causes me to go into a depression because the anxiety takes up all of my energy and i have none to go out and do things so i get lonely etc etc etc. i noticed i would also tell people about my anxiety and talk about it alot because it made me feel better for people to know whats up with me to they can make me feel better if i have an anxiety attack...so sometimes it is just reassuring for people to know, its not always for attention

I think i do have anxiety and that may be what is happening to me. I am working at it and i am doing much better. I think the cause is my step dad. I cannot do anything at home. Cannot listen to music over a certain volume, anything i do with my car is wrong, if i want to relax i suddenly am a total lazy ass. I think it is his lazy ass influence b/c he never does anything, he constantly eats and has weight problems and he wonders why he has all these health problems. I think that is my cause.

It is very easy for us to self-diagnose and say.. "Oh I think this is why I am this way" etc etc.. But the only real way to find out what is causing your depression is to be professionally evaluated.. If you are young (and I'm guessing you are.. Just on instinct) it may be difficult for you to be professionally evaluated because that would mean telling your parents that something is wrong, and I know first hand that is very difficult to do..It is difficult, but it is possible.. I had to fess up to my dad and ask for professional help several times before it actually happened, but it made a world of a difference.. So if you see telling your mom or dad or step dad or any relative at all as an option, then you should really take that into consideration.. If it isnt an option though, you could always go into talk to a school councelor.. They have to keep what you say confidential UNLESS you discuss hurting yourself or someone else, then they are obligated to tell.. But.. Even if you dont want to spill your guts to the school councelor you could ask them for help to tell your parents.. Maybe ask the councelor to call them in so all of you can discuss whats going on together, so you dont feel cornered etc etc.Anyway.. Depression can be caused by all kinds of things.. And yes to your question.. Needing attention can cause a person to be depressed.. Sometimes people who need attention "cry depression" to get that attention that they crave.. And thats just as serious (in my eyes) as someone who is depressed because their home life is bad.Take care of yourself, and take into consideration what I've mentioned to you. And I'm only a PM away if you ever need to talk.Hugs,AG

cause = females. I have yet to find someone that i can even go on one date with. Still searching for that, and when i think i find someone, nope...I either get turned down or they find someone else.

"dames is grief""women; you can't live with them, pass the pretzels"a few pearls of wisdome I've collected over the years.

Hey hun don't forget we are going to watch UTD when you come over. Trust me I won't be letting you down!!If you need to talk I'm here.

In reply to: cause = females. Ahh... The opposite sex (or sex of your preference) can cause grief of course! But.. I highly doubt thats your entire problem.. Having a significant other is not whats most important in life.. And in most cases people tend to try to get involved with a person for the wrong reasons.. Not necessarily for sex... But for security reasons etc..In my --personal-- opinion you can not have a successful relationship with someone else until you feel complete and contempt alone in the world.. By yourself.. Happy with who you are.. Most people try to find someone to complete them, but I dont believe in that.. If you dont feel complete and happy with yourself before a relationship, you wont be able to feel complete and happy with another person..Anywho hon.. Keep your chin up, stay positive, and work things through one step at a time.. Dont be discouraged by set backs such as having no luck with the ladies.. Toodles!