Please help, True Love Maybe

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yeah cheers, yeah i will tell you how it goes :grin:

Yeah, good luck and keep us updated. And remember, be yourself!

yeah i will keep you posted, but i have one last thing to ask:Im going to take her to the cinemas on saturday, you know show her a good time, but aswel im going to buy her a watch that she really really wants, i can afford it easily as i have a good job etc etc, also if i bought the watch she wants it will show how much i care and that i take note of what she likes etc etc, i came up with the idea of this:This isnt a cowards was out, i thought of it in a romantic way, i was going to buy the watch before hand, say friday, i would take it with me when we goto the cinemas, i was then going to give her the watch just as the film is ending, but i would put a card inside the watch box/case that said this: _____________________________ I love you zenna Will you go out with me Your the one for me! _____________________________obviousely it would be neater with hearts in the corner etc etc.then when she has seen the watch and the little card i would say, zenna i really love you.what do you think to my little romantic plan, lol

I think it would scare the bejeezus out of me if I were to get that!
Talk about coming on strong!
Ever heard the phrase "You can't buy love"? It's true! The only thing you will find is that she will think you'll buy her all kinds of crap with YOUR money. This is how being used starts.

Also telling her you love her is like "whoa!". It's just too full-on. I say ask her out first and then see what happens.

(but if you don't listen to my advice, it would be "you're the one for me" not "your...")

hmm maybe your right, but not about the love thing, shes already told me she loves me many times, see my FIRST post.

Well in that case my question is this:if she loves you and she's the one for you and always has been blah blah etc etc, then why on Io aren't you going out yet? Why did she even stay with her ex so long if she thinks you're so awesome?!Think about it in this way:If you go in guns blazing and tell her you love her and all that, you may scare her away.If you simply ask her out, and all goes well, then it gives you time to assess the situation and tell her you love her when you're sure it wont freak her out.If you ask her out, and she says no, you have then saved yourself from looking like a fool! (not to mention buying her a watch which in this case would become absolutely useless - and I've seen it happen so many times, even to myself, that I buy a gift and I force the girl to take it, hoping in some way that it'll make her change her mind. In actual fact it makes much more sense to just take it back!)Do you see where I'm coming from here? Do it one step at a time, rather than all in one big hit. It will be less daunting for both of you that way!

Right this is what im going to do, and im sticking to it.Im going to take her out at the weekend to the cinemas, you know show her a good time, then just before the film is going to end i will say, zenna, i really like you and have done for a while now, will you go out with me?nice and simple, it wont scare her away, its just casual, lol

Much better This way allows for a more natural flow, and who knows, maybe she'll say yes and be really happy!Best of luck guy!

cheers mate

before you ask the question!!!!You gotta make sure she isn't loving you like a brother.. You need to ask her if she loves you like a brother or like a boyfriend. BEcause if she loves you like a brother and you ask the question.. you've ruined a beautiful relationship. You ruin the relationship completely.. You'll regret it really bad.

Yeah - this is sorta what i was getting at although i realise that I didn't put it across very well. Plenty of girls say they "love" me, but only in a 'you're great at giving advice and hugs, but no way every would i like you romatically" kinda way.As I say, by diving in at the deep end, you risk a LOT...