Here's the deal. I'm in college, both me and girl are 19. I met this girl about 6 months ago, and for the past ~3 months we've been hanging out alot and have been sexually active. To be honest, I think I may be falling for her (but thats a diff story). So this past weekend we spent pretty much every day together hanging out and doing our thing. When the time felt right, I just popped her the question:Me: "Do you want to make things official between us?"Her: "I was actually talking to my cousin about this the other day....Yes, I do, but I don't feel I'm ready right now.Me: "That's fine"5-10 minutes laterHer: "I just need a little time"Me: "that's cool, I respect that."So, what's your take on this? She has been in previous relationships and was not a virgin before she met me. She broke up with her last boyfriend like 10-12 months ago and I'm pretty sure she's over him by now. So I'm not sure what her reason would be for needing some time.Do I have any chance of being in a serious relationship with this girl? Is she being truthful here or is her response just code for "I like you, but I don't really want to be in a relationship with you."
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What does she mean by this?
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Well she's in college. Maybe she justs want to have fun and enjoy being single for a bit.
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This has the ring of truth to me. If she had just said "I don't feel I'm ready right now", it may have been a fob-off, but the "I was actually talking to my cousin about this the other day" suggests the subject is not painful and has been at the surface of her mind, and the "Yes, I do" is a preliminary decision in your favour.Even a year is not enough for some people to get fully over a previous relationship.
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By "popped the question" do you mean marriage, or just a comitted relationship?
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In my experiences with previous girlfriends, you don't even need to ask the "question" of whether you are together, all of a sudden you will just find it happens without saying a word.People may have different opinions on that though.
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Originally Posted By: SexpertBy "popped the question" do you mean marriage, or just a comitted relationship? seriously?
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Originally Posted By: themiracle555 When the time felt right, I just popped her the question:Me: "Do you want to make things official between us?"Her: "I was actually talking to my cousin about this the other I don't kid. Yeah right.The way you proposed sounded nothing like "Will you marry me." Are you just trying to avoid certain vocabulary?
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dude.stop spending so much time with her.it'll ruin your relationship with her.don't ask girls to be exclusive. let them ask you first.and by the convo, it was a clear : no i don't want to be exclusive with you cause i still want to bang other guys.
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I bet the two people in this conversation thought the conversation was about TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.