my bf is 35 had a heart attack on sunday morning while working. we are very close and still new in our relationship. i am so worried now of causing him to have another one just by getting him excited i kiss him on the forehead not ot excite him . i am trying to find out information about what to do . i know its along road ahead and not going to be an easy one but i want him to know that sex isn't the most important thing we have going on.does anybody have any help to give. i don't want what we have to end and don't want to make any mistakes.
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What to do now after my bf had a heart attack
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OMG hon, that must have been terrifying for you both I really don't know anything about heart attacks, but i do know a guy who like your man had a heart attack relativly young(38), he has to take an asprin a day, eat well and not go mad on the stuff thats bad for you and thats it.I would be so worried about touching him and getting him all excited etc as you are. Im sure the doctors must be able to advise you on stuff like that, i mean just cos someone has a heart attack it doesn't mean its the end of their sex lives etc. Get as much information from the medical team as you can hon. Im sure given time you will both get to have a great sex life again, and till then you will be able to show him that sex isn't the only thing the two of you have together. hugs
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he had the block tube on the right side of his heart opened. and has been put on blood thinner for the next 4 months.i worry to that his hopes of every returning to the military are gone now they don't take anyone with heart disease.which he was told was genetic.i can still hope that he won't have to stay on this medication for ever. other then that thats all i know right now.his parents asked me to read everything he gets from the hospital cause he tells me more then any one else whats going on any more.i finally meet the man i have always wanted and then he is almost taken away from me i feel like i am on a roller coaster.i can't even imagine what hes going through right now but i will stand by him no matter what .i have never felt the way i do about him and things makes how i feel about him only clearer.it helped that for the first time i also heard him tell me how he feels about me.Its amazing how 3 little words of i love you mean so much.i will never take him for granted if given the chance to prove just how much i love him. sorry i am ranting right now
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hon don't apologise for 'ranting'. This will sound so corny, but i have been through horrible stuff in my life, and i am a great beleive that something good always come from something bad, tho we may not know that till years down the line.This has made you realise how much you love him, and can only make your relationship so much stronger. He will be fine, he will get through this with your love and support, and things can only get better for you both from now on. My love and hugs go to both of you, and don't forget hon if you need me please PM me ok. big hugs
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Monster hugs I am soo sorry to hear about your BF sweetie. I know you already PM'ed me but know I'm always here to chat with you if you need me.Monster hugs again
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Sorry to hear about your man, but glad he is OK now. You said something about his heart disease being genetic....make sure he takes his aspirin everyday (including any other heart meds he may have), eats healthy, and gets some exercize. Don't worry about the sex, it is also exercize you know. Make sure he follows up with his doctors. He really does have to be careful if it runs in the family though.My thoughts are with you sweetie.
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he can't take aspirin yet . but he will be taking something for his cholesteral , high blood pressure and blood thinner . and now we have to both quit smoking.hes got a head start on me since his had the patch in the hospital.but i will do it for him. and thanks
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blood thinnerThat's why he doesn't need aspirin now. He's taking Coumadin (warfarin), right?> and now we have to both quit smokingThat is an excellent idea.A heart attack doesn't mean the end of sex. It means taking the drugs you need to take, not smoking, eating right, getting exercise, and hopefully finding ways to reduce stress in your life. I like Yoga and Tai Chi, but there are lots of things you can do to reduce stress.
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not sure what blood thinner he wil be on yet.and my kids are happy i am going to quit.he always ate right and exercised if his ex and my ex would leave us alone we woun't have any stress lol
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ok now i know hes on plavix and takes asprin with it along with cholestoral and high blood pressure meds
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Realize that the heart attack does not mean the end of your sexual relationship. His doctors will give him some very direct advice on resuming his sex life. Follow their instructions. He, if he is like most guys after a heart attack, will be somewhat nervous to do it your first few times. He will get used to it and be more comfortable with himself. My dad has had 5 heart attacks, a pacemaker, and a few other scares with his heart. I can tell you that he and my Mom still have an active sex life.Also, I am sure he will get this from the Drs. but be very concious of taking the medications as prescribed. Also, they will want him to exercise, probably walk, each day. Do it with him. It will be good for you both and it is something you will share together.Also, should he have any sexual disfunction. Have him talk about it with his doctors. Various high blood pressure medications can cause sexual disfunction in some people. They don't always mention it too you, but it does. They can adjust to other medication that doesn't. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error to get the right one that doesn't cause other problems. (This I know from personal experience with my high blood pressure, cholesterol, and lipid medications.)He is young, if he takes care and follows their instructions he will do fine and you both can live a long and happy life together.
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The doctor should be able to speak to you privately and you should be able to ask those questions. Is he on Aspirin daily?