There's been a certain conflict between two certain aspects of my life.Here's a little background information of both to make sure you guys understand just how important each one is:My social life in the past couldn't really be called a social life at all. I was really a heavy thinker, so I usually spent my day staying at home, thinking going outside and stuff like that was kind of unimportant and a waste of time. That way, I got pale, earned a few friends but none of them good friends, and remained probably unliked and totally out of "style." Wore something repeatedly, didn't care for my looks, etc. This year, I got some sense and started dressing better, looking better, getting out more and bonding more with friends, etc. I'm still in the middle of that.The second problem is my writing. I've loved my writing and strived to complete one project to make me satisfied. Writing is probably the thing I hold dearest to me and is my most prized value in me. It's something I love more than words can express and it's just so... I can't describe it. It's just so great and I love it so much. Now, I've tried to start a "book project," back last year but that didn't turn out well because of a whole bunch of factors. I've recently started a new one last summer and it's going really well, and I'm waiting to finish it. I write when I can, which is usually the weekends, but this week's a vacation week, so I have the whole week to write chapters.But here's the problem. I can't juggle the two things around all the time. I'd love to spend more time outside with friends and hang out, get to know them, get to know my city, my community, get some sunlight and all that. I really do want that. But I also would LOVE to write chapters because... well it's been a goal much longer than my "bettering my social life," thing. I really want to do both but I can't seem to juggle them. I don't want to split it up between some days though (one day write, another day go outside) because... i don't know. I want to do both at the same time to keep up my... i don't know the word for it. In order to keep up my... momentum? determination? in both. I can't just skip around.And I really would like to go outside during the daytime (obviously). But I feel like I can only write during the day, too. I don't like to write too late because when it's late and I write, I feel like I'm procrastinating and I don't care but I do. Plus, it's not good to put off something so important throughout the whole day. Sometimes, if I write during the day when I wake up (12 pm - i know, really late. Maybe I should start waking up earlier to write?), by the time I'm finished, I don't have enough time as I'd like to go outside and get some sun. And when I wake up, I can't write right away because I'm all flustered and I need to get my mind at peace and calm and rest a little before my head is ready to do any writing.On the other hand, if I go outside first, I'll come back late and not have time to write, or not feel like writing, which isn't productive for my goal at all. Plus, it's not really good for me to go outside and have fun while my whole book and writing thing is hanging over my head. I don't feel like I deserve to have fun unless I write first sometimes...So do you guys have any ideas on what I should do about this? I just don't feel like there's enough hours in my day to do all the things I want, which are really important. Really, really important.D: Thanks for taking the time to read this whole long thing.
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Biggest goal vs something just as important
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Balance is important in life.Many writers get up early and spend the morning writing, and then the afternoon socialising. Perhaps you could try that?
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Ineligible has some good advice there but let me add that writing is a matter relating experience. The more of the world you experience the better you can relate and the greater depth you have in expounding on that you wish to communicate. Even if socializing doesn't have anything to do with your story it helps, in that it give you more experience in how people relate to one another and can make your writing more genuine.No one can write from a vacuum, to express life you first must experience it.
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Thanks you two. What OldFolks said is completely true, and I've only been so lucky to read so many books to make up for that lack of experience in the past. Lack of experience is what made my frist project corrupt.And Pete, I'll try that today. I just woke up two hours earlier than usual (I was aiming for two and a half but I just couldn't pull myself to do it) and now I will start focusing on writing. Today's a good day outside, and I do kind of want to get out and play volleyball with my friends. Even if it is still kind of cold.But I'm also feeling like I'm rushing it if I'm doing it so early. You know, like something I don't want to do but I do it first just to get it out of the way? Kind of like homework? But my story's nothing like that. Maybe I'm just seeing these things in the wrong way.My story is my story and the way I feel about it is the way I feel about it. It doesn't make me feel like it's homework. So it's nothing like homework. Okay then.Whew. That was a close one. That kind of thing happens to me all the time.Thanks you guys I didn't know my problem could be solved with such simple solutions. I guess I have a habit of making small things so complicated sometimes.