Difficult problem

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Is that the kind of relationship you want to be in forever, or until she finds someone else?

Don't apologise. You've done nothing wrong, you sense a problem and you're trying to find out what it is.

alright, the exact message:You know, for nothing being wrong, it sure seems to me like a whole lot of nothing to be giving the guy that, as far as he knows, is still dating you, a total cold shoulder, and snapping at him on the work phone for no apparent reason. So let me rephrase the question. Is there anything wrong between us? Cause it sure seems like it to me, although i wont accept it unless you tell me straight up. Good morning to you too, sunshine Daveyeah, the message seemed kinda hostile when i reread it, especially so now, that she gave the totally opposite explanation from what i was expecting. thats why i felt an apoligy might be in order.yes, i am still interested in a relationship with her, she seems like the kinda person who wouldnt attract guys very easily, just because in general, they seem rather shallow-minded to me, and she IS sort of.. round, if you know what i mean. im not sure, but i believe she mentioned in passing that apart from maybe 3 or 4 guys in high school, and a 'lesbian encounter' in her senior year, she hasnt really had much in the way of relationships in terms of number of them, which is probably a good thing from my point of view, because the trend will likely contine.it was great until she started getting into the heavy schoolwork, so at the moment, im just writing it all off to stress. not to mention that they have her working 40 hours a week part time at the depot as well. i know i would be getting pretty stressed with just the work, not to mention all the homework as well. i sort of understand where shes coming from, but im also sort of worried still... especially about the fact that she might be mad at me or something now too.

She communicates with you the way a teenager communicates with her parent."What did you do today, dear?"[Glaring and frowning] "Nothing!""Would you like to talk?"[Still frowning] "No!""Why?""Busy. Gotta go."

I had that exact conversation with my dad earlier. Except I don't glare.

also, apparently the reason for the way she acted on the phone at work was cause she was in a bad mood in the first place, and it seemed like everyone in her line had stuff from the electrical department with bad barcodes on it, and she was getting annoyed at the department in general, not me, wasnt my fault, because she was having to phone there every 10 minutes to get things checked, cause the customers are too retarded not to realize the item they just picked up has no tag on it. i can sympathize with that.

In reply to: i can sympathize with that. You sympathize with her way too much. Hell I bet you if you walked back into the breakroom and saw your girlfriend getting gangbanged by the hardware department, you'd sympathize with that too. Seriously man as the admin Helmsman once told me:In reply to: Kick the bitch to the curb and count the amount of times she bounces Your better off without her as much as you want to try to tell yourself otherwise and accept anything she does to you.

Do you know what the "battered wife syndrome" is?

You're digging yourself into the hole I did.Because you're afraid to be single, you're taking all kinds of abusive crap off this girl, and she knows it.She's gonna get worse until you stand up for yourself.Try and look at it from a different point of view. Say as someone who'd never met you. You would see yourself being mistreated by this girl for doing nothing wrong.If anytime you think somethings wrong and she says "I'm in a bad mood" and you believe her, she's gonna be getting away with murder.My ex used "I feel ill" as her 'get away with anything' line.Don't fall for it. Tell her you want an improvement in her attitude to her or you're gonna leave her.If she quits first, then you know that there really was something wrong cos she's not willing to fight to be with you. In that case you'd be well rid of her.Don't let yourself get beaten up by her. Cos in the end you'll be in a big rut that you wont be able to get out of when she decides to throw in the towel and call it quits.

You're right.. that would suck, FOR YOU.