That I can do. Are there any other tests I should ask for? I have an appointment to discuss having my tubes tied after work tomorrow. I wouldn't mind being prepared with some requests before I go.
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I dread having sex
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http://www.abcinternetmarketing.com/depo-provera/Scary. But, it doesnt say anything about lack of sex drive, but hell i wouldnt limit it to what she experianced
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You have to be careful about individual reports - sometimes the people are unfairly blaming a drug for more deep-seated problems.http://www.mercola.com/2002/jan/2/depo_provera.htm talks of loss of libido, but I suspect the author may be a quack.
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I've done some reading about Depo over the last year or so and it seems that I fit the profile of someone who is experiencing the side effects. I have acne that I should have outgrown at least 8 years ago, I have put on more weight than is healthy, I have personal dryness, and my libido is non-existant. I don't want to make assumptions that these are directly related to Depo, but the laundry list of matching complaints is suspicious.What I like about Depo is that I have no period. I would really like to never menstrate again, but I'm finding that I can't have my cake and eat it too. Meaning, that I think it's time to find another form of birth control, if for no other reason than long-term use is bad for my bones. (Calcium absorpsion is a real problem over time I'm told.)What I would like to know is, if I should discontinue Depo, what are the chances that my sex drive might fix itself versus having to seek therapy and or drugs? I know there are women who have to take hormone therapy to regain a normal cycle in order to become pregnant after depo. Is it the same with libido?
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if I should discontinue Depo, what are the chances that my sex drive might fix itself versus having to seek therapy and or drugs?I think this is probably an individual thing, and you'll need to find out how it works for you.
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I'm sorry all of these professionals don't see this as a problem. Sure sounds like it is for you and your husband. I would suggest locating a therapist trained in sexuality. Certainly there is something causing your issues with sex, it may be something physical and it could be something psychological as well. ONce you've figured that out, then maybe you can better deal with it. And don't forget that there are many forms of intimacy and sexuality that don't necessarily include intercourse.
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To clarify, do you simply have a lack of (or no) sex drive, or do you find the act of sex, its self, repulsive?If you find the act of sex repulsive, how long have you been this way? Has it been as long as you can remember or has it just developed in the past few years?If this is not to forward, assuming you've had sex with your husband, what is your emotional state when your having sex? Are you disassociated, from the situation? Do you ever have any irrational fears while having sex?
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My wife has a somewhat similar problem in that she has virtually zero sex drive. However, she is more than capable of orgasming and has an orgasm about 50% of the time during our (rare) intimate encounters. She is often able to orgasm through solo masturbation. Also, she did have occassional sexual experiences (M and F) from when she was 18 until we met in her mid 20's. But since about 6 months into our marriage, she has just had virtually no sex drive. She is not taking any medications regularly and insists that many women feel the same as she does. Of the counselors and OB/GYN's that she has seen, most just say that she needs to have sex, point of fact. I have never heard any of them agree with her or dismiss the problem. However they also don't give the problem the attention it deserves - merely telling her to just have sex has done little to solve it. I am very unhappy with the situation but am still married and have not cheated in the flesh. However, I do masturbate regularly and have been known to seek cyber partners when the need prevails.
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Granted I'm not doctor, but I don't think general practitioners or OBGYN's would be much help in these matters. However, a doctor should be willing to supply a referral, for a problem that is beyond their knowledge, training or field of expertise, to a specialist for any problem, that they can't handle. Is there any possibility that you could convince her to go to sex therapist? The situation, as it is, is niether fair to you or her. Therapy could help, if needed, and could re-open a pleasurable, closer world between the two of you.
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You need to see a sex therapist. Seriously. I speak from experience, having the same problem as you (minus marriage) two years ago and the therapy helped a lot.
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You're not being too forward in assuming that my husband and I have had sex, but it's rare and short-lived. I don't enjoy it. There are no tingly feelings like there once were. It's more of a chore to me, like doing dishes or doing laundry would be to other women.When we do have sex, the first thing I want to do it wash. All I can think about is trying not to get the sheets dirty. It's sad and humiliating for both of us. I had the bright idea of trying to have sex after I'd had a few drinks, but that just makes me really tired and I fall asleep before anything can get started.I did see a doctor today about this and he now has me on a low-dose estrogen patch to see if it related to the depo. We shall see if that has any effect. I'm told it will take 2-3 weeks before anything might change. Though, I'm encouraged that this person takes me seriously and wants to help. Wish my luck.
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Good luck! I hope things get much better!
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Well, if there is some kind of psychological hangup about the "mess" maybe you can try having sex with a condom. Perhaps that will help you feel more comfortable about it. Your husband may rather have it without, but condom sex is a hell of a lot better than no sex!
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Good luck! This might sound strange, but could you put like a i dunno boundry between you guys and the sheets so there isnt any mess?