Frustrated Girl

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Hiya,

I have been reading this forum for a while and the information and advice is great.So I hope you can help.

Well as the title suggests I am a frustrated girlie. I've been goin out with my bf for 6months and been having sex for about 3months. (I was a virgin until I met him). The problem is I have never orgasmed...through masterbation or sex. I have come quite close before doing masterbation but can't go on. And with sex with my boyfriend, it just seems to take ages to stimulate my clitorus that it ends up being exhausted and a lot of the time sore from the rubbing and fingering. The last time I had sex I did come quite close to em, coming but I was just so tired I just gave up.

And its not just frustrating me. I know my bf is frustrated by it and always disappointed when he can't 'get me off'.

I just don't know what to do? Is there anyway to I dunno get me going easier or something my boyfriend can do? As I said before I was a virgin before I met my bf so well I havent discovered what turns me on yet... Any advice. Thanks.

Hey. It took me near the 3 month mark to orgasm with my manthing.... I ended up having my first one with him when I was on top. Have you tried that yet?? That way, you can at least control the speed, rhythm and the angle of it :grin:

I'm new to this forum, but age has it's just's, have your freind take his time, let him get aroused threw oral sex, if he hit's the right spot with his tounge you will be ready for the ride of your life, put some excitement into your sex life, if you just hump thats all you will do.

so tired I just gave upGive up sooner. Actually, quit trying. Seriously. The pressure you put on yourself prevents the natural process. Don't worry. Be happy.Decide together to focus on just one person's desires. Yours or his, for this time. Enjoy the "getting close" experience--no rush for the big rush. In fact, just enjoy all the little pleasures. Don't think of it as a performance. Express your love for each other. Make eye contact. Sally-Anne, let love lead to ... to where love leads.

I agree with JRPeck. You should definately quit trying and just let it happen. Have you tried using lots of foreplay? My beau of 8 months always seemed to finish first, then just quit, but when we tried being really slow and gently with each other, I reached a huge climax, for the first time ever during sex. Also, you said you've never had an orgasm? Try mutual masturbation. Both of you could get naked (duh) and you start rubbing yourself. Encourage him to stroke his penis at the same time, and sit close enough together that you can kiss while doing it. Before long, begin kissing him as you rub your clit and use your other hand to pump his cock. Try moving into 69 and giving eachother oral. When YOU feel as if you are wet and horney enough to have a good time, begin to make love to him and take it slow, building up pace with feeling. If you feel like the feeling is too much for you to overcome, don't stop, orgasm is around the corner. Just take his tongue into your mouth, and kiss him feverently, until you push over the edge. And if you feel you need to scream, do it, moan, do it, and if it feels so good you cry, more power to you.

i agree with these guys, stop focusing on trying 2 climax and just focus on how good it feels. it will happen 4 u eventaully and being stressed bout it definatly wont help

Well maybe you should relax a little bit and try not to think about you coming just injoy the moment i dunno that works for me.