Female friendship problems...

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Me being a straight male teen, my friends and parents expect me to be involved with girls. The truth is, I'm not involved at all. There are a bunch of girls I would like to get to know and build a friendship with. I haven't touched a girl or even went on a date with a girl or flirted with a girl in about 3 years. And 3 years ago, it didn't go so well, and I blame that on myself. I have ZERO female friends. ZERO! I think of them as more as acquaintances. We never hang out or do anything outside of school. We just know each other and just talk. I want something more than that, like what some of my friends have. They hang out with girls outside of school all the time. They have a bunch of girls' numbers on their cellphone. I only have my moms. I have no problem creating good friendships with guys though. I don't know how to ask this question, but how do I be like my friends and hang out with girls and hug with them in the hallways first and initiate a conversation with me instead of me having to initiate the conversation? How do I get their phone numbers and stuff. I'm eighteen and I haven't the slightest idea about making friends with girls.

Humour can be a great ice-breaker with anyone, especially girls.I have a few female friends, but mostly acquaintances (had to spell-check that -_-). However I do have a lovely girlfriend of almost 2 years, and I stumbled into that one rather blindly. She noticed me making a fool of myself with a friend on the bus, as I did every day, and I guess that's what drew her to me. I have a habit of stumbling into friendships using my sense of humour, but then again, that's just me. Have you actually tried to go out there and get to know any girls?

I'm kind of scared to. I don't know how to go about approaching girls to where they like me or want to get to know me beyond that point. I just think they will think I'm too different to want to hang out with me. I'm the guy who watches weird shows like Conan O'Brien and has a random sense of humor and doesn't have much interested in style and fashion. I kind of just throw on what's comfortable. I also don't have any social experience. I just don't think that appeals to many girls. All the girls I know go out with someone who is apart of a "scene." Either they are in a band, or they are the prep jock who plays every sport and wheres nothing but Polo's and American Eagle and stuff or they are major potheads who drive big trucks and like college football.

Heh, the way you describe yourself is pretty much how I am.. Conan O'Brien is the shit. Are there any clubs at your school you could join, or common areas where people hang out? Just today I was hanging out with friends at a ping-pong table in the campus gameroom and being a dork, and this girl Sarah started talking to me. She was a friend of a friend, so maybe the fact that I was having fun with her friend made me more approachable. Casual hangouts and school clubs are a good way to meet lots of people who like what you like.

I think i have the opposite problem. I am a female and , i find it a lot easier to relate to guys for the most part, if someone gave me a choice of a girl friend or a guy friend 99.9% of the time i would want to hang out with my guy friends. The main reason being is that girls can be rather bitchy and cruel, also i have noticed guys seem to be better at keeping secrets. Furthermore guys seem to be into the kind of stuff i am into and they also make me laugh and i can be way more comfortable around them to not have to remember to be a girl and do girly things . I mean i have 1 girl friend who is like me when we watch horror movies i have 7 guy friends who are like me in horror movies. ( Yes i am the annoying girl who laughs in the horror movies but hey )As for making friends with girls hmmm , we are still human so maybe talk to the girl about something you have in common or maybe ask questions , say its over music a band she likes , she might say have you heard this song xxxxx ? say NO ...(even if you have)... you haven't but you will go listen to it tonight. She may the next day ask if you liked it or so-on.Not all girls want Jocks and Preps and so-on we also aren't all attracted to the dopeys in the corner etc etc. I really like to hang out with guys who are almost the same with me as they are with there guy mates . I like guys who have a slightly sensitive side to them who are great listeners and who are into the same stuff as me.Be yourself !! Don't be afraid ! We are human , Most of us don't bite. Just talk to us , you may find we aren't who you would want to be friends with so move on , plenty more girls in the sea. Just find a girl who has similar interests to you and you can build on friendship from there.

Well, I'm in my senior year of high school and I'm in a health group and all the girls I talk to there have boyfriends I think. Except for this one girl. She seems cool and she is very attractive. How do I know if she has a boyfriend? Anyways, she may be single. I'm not sure how to talk with her. I'm not very good with carrying a conversation with girls. But I guess I'll try.

you don't NEED to be in a relationship. it's not always necessary. nobodly LOVES anymore it's just physical appearance now. dang.

it isn't physical appearance to me.
it's about the personality.
that's how most people are, though.

me being a girl, i like the cheesy and corny stuff a guy says to try and be "cool." i want a guy to be able to make me laugh without asking me "why'd the chicken cross the road." if a girl see's you putting yourself out there, most of them will be really accepting about it. plus, she'll notice you're making the first move (brownie point!) with the girl in your health group, just start talking with her about something you have in common. Example:health group! after you start talking, tell her what your planning to do on the coming up weekend. after you've finished talking, ask her what her plans are. be casual and not cocky. and if a guy wouldn't talk to me because i didn't 'look' good, then he's not a guy i would want to be around. its not about appearances to me. yeah, i want him to shower, but just because he has some acne and an extra 20lbs, as long as he could have a conversation with me and make me laugh, it doesn't matter what he looks like.good luck!

you can have some of the girls I know, they're friendly, all you have to do is say you know me and be funny and kind xD. The funny thing is tho, I have heaps of girlfriends like this, but am still single lol

You have to act and feel care free, without the slightest bit of awkwardness. Even if the conversation is short, you have to exhume confidence and not hang on their every word. In fact, poke fun at them with a smile. That will drive them nuts.

did i miss something? when did a relationship come involved? i thought you were asking help on how to make friends....... friends that happen to be female. I’m a quite guy and i wouldn't walk up to a girl i didn't know well to start talking but i have had girls come up and make small talk with me. one who now hangs out regularly with us on campus. I first met her my first year in comp class. Her and her friend said he to me every morning we had class and made small talk.. Asked about weekend, mad comments about what we might have to do for the class that day….. One even tried talking me into going to Hollister and filling out a application. I turned her down but told her my gf might would. (haha should have seen her face) but anyway… she pulled a line on me I’ll never forget. lol she asked me if she could take my pic with her cell and then after asked me for my info so she could send it to me. This semester we don’t have a class together but she still emails me and we still talk / hangout on campus. She and her friend have got to be friends with my girl too. Haha.. One morning b4 morning class I was with my gf and a group of friends. One of my long time friends sat in a little water and she jumped up and said I’m wet. I turned to her said I was sorry and when she asked why I was sorry I told her I had that effect on girls… and every one laughed. Her friend either didn’t get it or wasn’t paying attention and missed what was said had to ask what was so funny. Her boyfriend told her …Caleb makes girls wet (while laughing). And I go.. They just look at me and get wet. (everybody plus her are still laughing and Shannon goes what did you just say so I repeated it and she popped me and then they laughed harder cuz I got in a little trouble… lol (and well that incident has became a inside joke with me and my girl.. When she busts me looking at a girl she whispers to me, is she wet? And I start grinning and blushing. )I couldn’t help myself it was a prefect setup and it just came out of my mouth. Now if I hadn’t know her for several years I dought I would have done that but I knew her well enough to know I was joking/messing around. Girls like that! I have it naturally I guess…. I just have to know a person pretty well before hat side comes out. I crack Shannon and ash up all the time. All I have to do sometimes is make a face at her / them. Even my mom has said it’s when we are quite that she wonders what were up too…(talking about me and my gf) lol Tho I wouldn’t recommend making a naughty joke until you know her well but… baby steps are taken first. Go in your class and say hi to her .. Say hi and ask her what she thinks your teacher has in store for the day… make the 2 second chat before you go for the 5 mint… 10 mint chat. But that’s what u got to do. Make small talk first and then it adds and adds and next thing you know she’ll be talking to you before you can say hey to her (I bet). As for relationships….. The girl in your class if you want to ask her out , ask her. You can only get 2 answers, 1. Yes or 2. No now how rude or nice she is maybe a different thing. But would u really want to try to get to know some one if they are rude…. I wouldn’t.