Again, this is one of those "my boyfriend is so perfect, but not exactly perfect" stories...I think my boyfriend is a wonderful person who has very similar interests and views as me and is overall a nice person, and we both love each other deeply... however, since I still have some issues of trust (we've been together for over 7 months), he's not taking it well and instead of being supportive, he has started to say cruel things to me and is overall mean, saying that I have put him through so much pain due to my insecurities, and that's why he's like that with me... But, I think that there are some things you just don't say and do to the person you love. I've been hurt very much too, we've talked about our issues endlessly and it hasn't led to anything constructive, he's just getting nastier. Sometimes I even think, is this really the person I fell in love with? So as time passes, I think of breaking up with him more and more.The problem is, I find breaking up practically impossible. How do you break up with a person you love and want to spend your life with? What if I'll regret it later? Heck, I'd regret it even on the moment of breaking up... What's worse, I have never broken up with a guy before, I've only been dumped myself once, which also makes me worry about the same kind of great pain I'll be causing to my boyfriend... Do I really have an issue with letting go or is this like that with everyone?Please share your experiences in situations where you really didn't want to leave the person you loved but felt you didn't have a choice. What did you do? Have you ever regretted breaking up?
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Problem with letting go?
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i HATE thati just spent 14 months with i guy who didnt treat me as good as he should,but i loved him dearly.the amount of times wed tlkd bout things getn better and trying and everything n it just didnt improve.i eventually used me departuture as an excuse - saying im leavn in 6 weeks i dont want to spend that time worrying about us id prefer to try and get past it.of corse now im stupid enuf to do the same thing again- n of corse scolding myself for it. long distance relationship- he broke up with me the other day cuz it was getn to hard n he was goin thru stuf at home that eh hadnt told me about. i was ok ..kinda - very shocled tho cuz wed tlkd about a future together. apparantly it got to him tho n he felt heaps bad n got kinda self destructive n tried to make things worse cuz he wasa "such a bad person" by sayn somthing bout my appearance - which is a sore issue cuz he knew im self concious bout itbut no stupid me after sayn so many times that im not gona do that again i did.but my hearts not all in it...wel c how it goes - i hope it gets better n goes bak to the way it wasgood luckall i can say for ur prob is that putting it off like i did with my ex will onl,y make u look back later n say i shouldv done this months ago.itl kinda suck but if its not workn its not worknhugs gud luck
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Well... We had a fight and he broke up with me...Now I feel like my life is over, etc...Thanks for reading this topic...
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omg wat happendim so sori honey hugs:)
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Oh, dear Christ! How old are you, anyway???Okay, to the point, 'cause I'm guessing you're young since you've only been dumped by one boyfriend in the past: life goes on! Damn, girl, do you really want to let one guy send you into the shitter??? There are something like SIX BILLION people on this planet and almost half of them are guys! Do you really think this piece of crap is the be-all and end-all of your existence? No freakin' way!Okay, here's the deal: everyday we meet people...we go through our lives and, occasionally, someone rubs us the right way, so to speak. If the (metaphorical) rubbing is good enough we let them in to see what they have to offer. If what they have to offer isn't good enough, we determine it's time to go our separate ways...hopefully with a smile and a "wish you the best of luck finding someone better."A break-up is not the end of the world...and don't let it be! Get on with your life--I'm betting you've got a good LOT of it left
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u always have some dam good things to say u kno that
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Hahaha--the unfortunate side-effect of having been around a while....but thanks!
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anytime doll but seriously tho iv read lots of ur stuf in various threads n ur sure do hav some words of wisdom
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Thanks for the support, you two... I appreciate it a lot.And I do know that life goes on, it just doesn't seem that way right now...(I'm 20, by the way.)
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You wont feel like shit forever, and that's the main thing to try to keep at the forefront of your mind. I left my ex-fiancee a few years back. We'd been together five and a half years and I loved him to bits. Believe it or not I'd turned down marraige proposals from three different men before I met him, so when I said yes I really meant it. But he turned out to be an alcoholic and I left because the pain of watching him poisoning his life and mine was just not worth it anymore. My point is, if someones behaviour is making you miserable you are allowing them to waste your life. I had a lot of guilt about walking away, but in hindsight the only thing I regret about leaving is that I didnt do it sooner, before I'd given him the guts of my twenties.Now that he's left you he's lifted the guilt of being the one to finish it off your shoulders. My advice would be to live your life and enjoy it. You're only twenty so you have all your golden years ahead, even if it dosesnt feel like it right now. As bintherdundat says, there are around 3 billion men out there. You'll never fit all them in in your lifetime, so my advice would be to start working your way though as many as possible girl! Good luck, x.
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In reply to:But he turned out to be an alcoholic and I left because the pain of watching him poisoning his life and mine was just not worth it anymore.Oh... I'm so sorry to hear that. In reply to:My point is, if someones behaviour is making you miserable you are allowing them to waste your life.I agree, although if you also get a lot of joy and satisfaction from being together, then it's so hard to say goodbye.In reply to:As bintherdundat says, there are around 3 billion men out there. You'll never fit all them in in your lifetime, so my advice would be to start working your way though as many as possible girl! Good luck, x.Heh, thank you for the encouragement...