I'm 22m, and I want to stay single and celibate at this time in my life. I know this is uncommon, but it is just the way I want to be, mostly because I am a loner, and I like to be alone. I have a few close friends who are all engaged, one is married. And they keep pressuring me to go out and date. My one friend wants to hook me up with his cousin and his sister, but I am just not interested in casual sex and I'm too busy to have a relationship. So it's becoming less and less fun to hang out with these guys because I'm the only single in the group, and they have alot of fun at my expense. Because I really don't talk to girls often tell people typical stuff like "He hates p\*ssy" or "He's prude". These guys were once like my brothers since high school but since we've gotten older, I'm feeling more and more like I want to end this friendship.
There are other reasons why I want to stay single, I do have confidence issues, I'm shy in public and not great at meeting new people. But mainly I just enjoy the freedom that I have and that they do not. I can go wherever I want and do whatever I want, and I don't mind one bit doing it alone. But they just don't understand that, and I hate hanging out with them when they choose to have fun at my expense.
So what should I do? Should I confront them, which probably won't accomplish much? Or should I just find a new group to hang out with?
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Being peer pressured into dating
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I'd let the friends know their comments are hurtful. If they continue, it's time to find new friends.
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And I say you are making excuses and hiding behind this facade of personal freedom becasue of your personality issues/problems.
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Agreed. Pretty obvious, too, I think.
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To mean, it looks like they are worried that lack of interest in another partner is pointing to something much more serious, like depression. They are trying to get you to admit what is wrong.