I'll try to make this as short as possible. My good friend for 4 years - JerryRecently girl that came to join our group - NatalieMe and Jerry are both in our last years of high school and we've been friends since grade eight. Natalie is grade 9 at the moment and Jerry always wanted to know her since last year because shes quite attractive. A month ago her friends and her got into a fight and she didnt hang out with them anymore, so she came to hang with us 2. Basically, Jerry tried to get her, but found out she goes around making out with guys at parties/dances and eventually gave up. And her reputation isn't that great around our area. Recently, about 2 weeks ago, she came to my house one night because her house got flooded with people and we made out for a bit, but we didn't mention anything about bf/gf. We went to school the next morning together and Jerry knows nothing of this. We also spent halloween together with couple of my good friends that can keep secrets away from Jerry. We text/talk on the phone basically everyday and topics are sometimes flirty, but nonetheless we're just friends at the moment. She shows a bit of interest in me. Problem is I don't wanna ruin me and Jerry's 4 year friendship. If I do ask her out now, Jerry already has a girlfriend ( Natalie's friend friend ) Now,he said he doesnt care if i do get together with Natalie, but he warned me why he gave up in the first place ( although I don't think all the stuff he thinks is true since me and Natalie are quite good friends and we talk about everything ) Me and Natalie are going to downtown shopping this coming saturday and I was wondering if i should ask her to be my gf there, or should i continue to be friends until things cool down even more? BTW, I also need some ideas to how to ask her out on saturday because I honestly never done it in real life before. =)Sorry for the long post, but I hope I get some decent answers asap.
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To be my gf or not to be?
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Originally Posted By: everlastingMe and Jerry are both in our last years of high school and we've been friends since grade eight. Natalie is grade 9 at the moment...That right there is a clear cut sign that says "Do NOT get invovled". That means you're about 17/18 and she's 14/15. That age gap may seem small to some, but it's a HUGE difference when it comes to teens. You're almost an adult (unless you're already 18). You have no business with a child. Stop now and just date girls closer to your age.
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I would not put any effort into this "relationship." Doesn't seem prudent.
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Actually, it most likely hasn't turned 2008 yet for him, so she could even be 13 and have her birthday somewhere late in the year. He could also be 16. But nontheless the rules apply
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The age difference aint a problem at all as she is almost mature as me. Also, Jerry is dating the same age girl, so are 2 of my other close friends and they've been very successful in keeping it long, so I don't think its a negative thing at all.
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Quote:The age difference aint a problem at all as she is almost mature as me.Wait...weren't you the one who said... Quote:Basically, Jerry tried to get her, but found out she goes around making out with guys at parties/dances and eventually gave up. And her reputation isn't that great around our area.Yeah that's REALLY mature.And it's not about maturity. It's also about the stages you are in. You're going to leave high school and move on with your life. You think she can handle that? Plus, there's that law issue.If I were you, I'd dodge this bullet.
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GET THAT CHICK TO BOUNCE ON YOUR DICK AS SOON AS POSSIBLE MY MAN!!!is what I'd normally be saying -or something of the like. But I agree with the others, dodge this one and get yourself someone who's more around your age. When you graduate she'll still have three more years of school left. How cool will it be to pick her up after school and get her home by dad's curfew for school the next day? REAL COOL! if you like that sort of thing. But seriously, find someone different. You can get someone who's not just, "almost as" but are, "same as" or even, "more" mature than yourself my man. Don't settle for almost because she's got a nice ass -- which apparently a lot of people know about COUNT IT!
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yea dude, keep this one in the friends zone, if it starts, it will not end good, and it WILL end.
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Apoc speaks truth here...most relationships (if not all) when you're under 25 (hell, even under 30) will end in a fairly short period of time (less than 4 years at best) so the best idea for anybody is to limit romantic (and perhaps sexual) relationships to people that...can be disposed of (That's the best way I can put it) like an ex GF; you really didn't have a friendship beforehand, and afterwards it's really no big deal.
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well, i have a girlfriend and we've been going out for almost 8 months, well, ok, we've broken up and gotten back together four times throughout that time, but whatever, this time it is going GREAT, i dont know what we are going to do when i graduate and she is still in Highschool...thats the only problem
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I had this happen myself, as well. I graduated from high school while my first ex was still in it for half a semester. You'll be find until you break away to different higher educational institutions.
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about 30% of the girls in my freshman class lost their virginity freshman year to senoirs
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I'm not sure what was the point of that, but that's a shame to me.
