Ok, so my babies sperm donor, occasional gift giver, complete jackass....Calls my daughter(now 14) for her birthday. Nice huh? NOT.
2 years ago, his father died, my daughter loved her grandpa VERY VERY much. He lived in Salt Lake, and she would go every summer.
Well, that was the last time her dad (Jackass) came here. His "stepmom" had Grandpa's ashes, and jackass wanted them. There was supposed to be a party, a hike, and bla bla bla to celebrate his life on the 1st anniversary of his death (his wishes).
So, 2years is approaching, and my daughter wants to know if it is going to happen and if her Grandma can't be there, then she wants to take her back up there. To the place Grandpa loved so much.
Well, Jackass, decides to tell her how he doesn't want her grandma there, because "she is a mean bitch, her kid is alright, but even he is just one of the mean people"...
OK, Grandma, DID NOT raise the dad, she came in AFTER he and I were married....So, it isn't those standard stepmom issues.
Grandma and grandpa were together for 11 years before he died. Never married. Now Jackass is totally excluding her from this.
I worked late that day, off the ranch, and came home to a shaking, white, crying daughter....
This week is her 8th grade grad, and her dad is invited.
Question is this, should I rip him up(like I want), for screwing with my kid for so long(this isn't the first time he has hurt her like this), or should I just let her deal with him however she is going to...I don't badmouth him, up until now, I have let her have her own interactions with him, and figured the day would come when she tells him off...But this one, *grrrrr* no words can explain how mother bearish I am right now!!! I wanna rip his heart out, just like he did hers!