Girlfriend - Jelous/But I Trust Her.

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We've been dating 9 months and i like my girlfriend alot. I trust her completely, and am 100% sure she would never cheat on me. I don't believe she would leave me unless a sudden change in the relationship occured. i know my relationship is secure and not worried about it from a relationship point of view. Currently.

However,

My girlfriend is very outgoing, has alot of guuy friends, and i find it frustrating knowing that guys think differently than most girls and thus.. this is where I find my jealousy. I can't stand to think that another guy would view the things she does as a sign of affection.

So I made up a list of things that may frustrate me, and im curious if you guys could give me some feedback if you think my jealousy is warranted and i should talk to her about it, or if i should not bring it up and deal with it myself... i know that protective/jealous guys are turn offs. Remember it isn't the fact that i think shes going to leave me that makes me jealous, just the fact that other guys might be getting satisfaction out of it. That frustrates me, and thus makes me jealous.

-Grazing Another Guys Face
-Having Other guys pick her up and sling over their shoulder
-PiggyBack Rides
-Sitting on Another Guys Lap
-Close Dancing With Other Guys

GUYS tell me what you would honestly do in each situation
GIRLS tell me if you would ever do these things with other guys while your boyfriend is around, and also any advice for me? (my girlfriend isn't trying to make me jealous)

I'm a guy, here are my views on the following. -Grazing Another Guys Face: Meh, as long as it's not a major sign of affection, I wouldn't really care. It's not like she's going to kiss him or anything. -Having Other guys pick her up and sling over their shoulder: Wouldn't care. I do it to girls too. -PiggyBack Rides: Wouldn't care. -Sitting on Another Guys Lap: No. Would not enjoy it if my girlfriend did this. -Close Dancing With Other Guys: Depends if she's grinding up on them or something.

Jealousy is a constant torment to the holder. It's an afliction. Trust me, I know.While people accept disorders like paranoia, OCD, schizophrenia and their irrational thought patterns, they will still shit on those of us who suffer from jealousy.The one thing that is more difficult than being with a jealous person is being a jealous person. It sucks, it's painful.So, communicate with her while you are feeling calm. No blowups!Try to be rational but let her know how you feel. You can accomodate each others feelings. She can work to tone down her friendly/flirty nature while you can tone down your jealousy. Hopefully, you can find a comforatble common groundI feel your pain, I suffer the same affliction

I would never do those things even if my boyfriend wasnt around!! I would be very jealous If I was in the same situation.

Ask her how she would feel if you did all those things with other women?I wouldn't like it if my girlfriend acted that way around other men.

I didn't hide from the girlfriend that I keep two different standards. For me and rather for us, it works best that way.When I'm physically with her, in her presence, when I'm around her friends I'll smack their rears, throw them over my shoulder, carry them around, etc. etc. When she's around my friends they'll do the same towards her. We both grind with other people and have even formed long trains with us against other people.BUT (and this is an LDR so this is why are standards aren't so normal to other relationships) when we aren't with each other we have high reservations against the opposite sex. About as far as it goes is hugging (and I dont even do that). I dont graze, carry, touch, or dance with any other woman while I'm not with her.Why? Because a good reputation doesn't take but seconds to ruin. I dont need to do something that started with "I kissed a girl on the cheek" to "I had sex with her upside down on a roller coaster". We dont want that drama in our lives, so while we're apart we are very proper and reserved. It works for us, and everyone will have their own standards they want the other to meet. You either make compromises or you find someone else I personally wanted the "lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets" type. She's very reserved and proper, but when she's with me we can be whatever we want to be Good luck to you my friend

wow. If my boyfriend smacked any one my friends on the ass. Id smack his FACE off. And im sure my friend would too.

My wife would agree with you, and say that you did not go far enough.Violence, oh dear fuck, heavenly ultra violence.I wouldnt put up with that shit, and if one of my buddies did that to my wife?bloody, sweet, ultra violence. I will fucking kill anyone that dares lay a hand on my wife. Joking or otherwise.Noone lays a fucking hand on her period. Someone so much as threatens her or raises a hand to her and they hit the ground real fucking fast.

I'm a guy, and heavily sympathise with you. My gf moved an hour away to start University life, and I was paranoid for quite a few weeks about the guys there. I trust her completely, but the idea of guys hitting on her and getting some satisfaction from interacting with her sends my jealousy levels through the roof.I'd be pissed or very pissed if she did any of the things you're mentioning, especially in my prescence.If it happened, I'd hate myself for it but I'd tell her it was winding me up and let her know I was upset. Otherwise it's gonna keep happening and getting you down. Just be sure not do get overprotective or hysterical, just calmly tell her it upsets you and let her deal with it.Best.