I am a virgin. I am trying to not be one. My girlfriend is really trying to help but I just can't "do it."
My main problem is that I can't stay hard long enough (sometimes I don't even get hard enough) to get inside her. I'm hoping it's just because I'm a virgin and I'm subconsciously nervous or don't know how it will feel but I'm worried this'll never happen.
I'm glad she's patient. If you guys can offer any advice I'd appreciate it.
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Virginity problems.
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Its nerves. I was with a married woman in the past, and once I was so nervous I was limper than a biscuit.You'll learn to calm down after a few times. I would say this is normal.
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Like everyone said, it's most likely your nerves! Don't worry, if you're girlfriend is understanding, you won't have a problem! :laughing: Just try and relax yourself and focus on having fun more than the goal itself. Good luck!
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If your g/f is that understanding, I'd say try some other stuff to get your confidence up and your nerves down. Stuff that requires you to keep it up around her... I'm sure you can figure it out. But there's nothing wrong with you, so don't sweat it that much.
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Awesome advice, thank you all. I'm doing much better now. Another reason for my problem was the fact that I had never shared an orgasm with anyone, it's always been masturbation for me, so last night we tried just oral and, after some time, I finally did it... in her mouth, but at least the "little guy" feels more comfortable around her.I've never had a blow job before, but I feel she did a good job. She even swallowed, which she didn't like much apparently, but she wants to make me happy so she did it anyway. She's cool like that.I was thinking maybe it's also a matter of tightness. For some reason she is incredibly tight down there and, I'm no giant, but the couple of times I actually did get somewhat hard enough, it felt like I was just ramming my dick up against a wall. Should we use lube or maybe try entering from another angle? I don't know. I'll see her again this weekend.
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Nervousness makes women tense up down there, so the more relaxed and horny she is, the better.
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Yeah try some foreplay and some lube and stay calm and you should do okay
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Not a problem anymore! Thanks for the advice everyone.She really was patient.