I have had my share of exploits with men. There was only one guy who could not perform and that was on the first night we were going to be together and so that was just nervousness.Now the new guy I have been with for about 4 months now.. has ED. But the thing is ..he is 32 years old. Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink much.. no drugs works out.. does not eat that healthy though. And so this is just a major problem not only for him but for me. I like sex and a lot of it. And so we tried like 4-5 times and he could not keep it up for intercourse. He said which I am not sure if it is even true or not that this is the first time it has happened with me being. Well I asked him to go to the doctors he really did not want to go kept putting it off and such.. then I did my research online and got scared shiless. It could mean major problems such as diabetes, parkinsons, etc or it could be minor like a vitamin deficiency.Well he goes to the doctors for a physical and they do the whole urinie and blood samples and really I care about this guy and so I was a nervous wreck not sleeping waiting like almost two weeks for the results. The tests came back normal. And so they asked him certain key questions.. about his lifestyle. He stays up all the time playing poker till like 6am. Owns a business and has a part time job. So they said his ED was caused by stress. I don't know about you..but I have dated men with even a more stressful life than his and they were fine. My gut I mean my total GUT instinct because I have a tendency to foresee things is that it is NOT stress at all and a maybe small thing or bigger thing. And so I have been so sexually frustrated and I asked him to please go see a uroligist. Because I am afraid for him and also I have my needs. He got a pill for you know similar to viagra but has not filled the pescribtion I don't think because he has said nothing. But the thing with ED. this past weekend I was able to get him excited by a hand job and get him off. But normalluy he is as soft as he can be. I mean he will massage me.. no erection from it. He wakes up in the morning no erection.. I find that so odd..really I mean don't all guys wake up hard in the morning? I am so I don't know ready so ready to go out and find someone else to have mad sex with because I am so denied.. and I feel so insecure and not good enough. I am one to want sex like 2-3 times a day when I am seeing someone.. so as you can tell this is really tortuing me. Maybe I have a problem myself. But anyway.. What shall I do? I really really want him to go see a urologist as I don't think it is his so called stressful life and lack of sleep patterns. I just have a gut instinct it is something bigger and I don't know why I feel this sort of intuition about it but I do. He is a great guy who is good to me but I also feel bad when I want to seek sex elsewhere I feel like a bad person because it is not his fault but also he is not doing anything much to resolve the problem. His doctor says to wait a month then go see them again to check in. And tonight I wanted him to come see me for dinner BUT NO he would rather go play poker and stay up all night playing till the morning and not getting the sleep like the doctors said he should.. and so that pisses me off and makes me want to make some phone calls to another guy ...another guy that will satisfy me. I feel so wrong and horrible.. this guy treats me well but sometimes I feel that is not good enough.Do you think he has ED? Or not? What shall I do. I try to be outspoken and honest and we fought tonight because he was inconsiderate about waiting till it was late late to say he was not coming for dinner.. but what I am more mad about is him not getting his a** to the urologist to be honest.I feel like such a unsatisfied.. bitc who is not understanding about his embarrassing circumstance. And really this could be a major health issue for him.Okay sorry so long I need support....suggestions.. etc.
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FRUSTRATED > ED PARTNER
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Well, it sounds like he probably does have problem. And it's his own fault for not following up on it and trying to seek help. I'm thinking you need to start going out and and not necessarily seeking the company of other men, but just avoid this guy and put the pressure on him to come to you. Once he sees you start to move away from him and not be so dependent on him, I think he may go get that prescription filled. Go out with your girlfriends and be vague about what you're doing. Make him curious. If he doesn't care about what you're doing and who you're going out with, maybe he's not really treating you as well as you think he is. Good luck, and by all means, feel free to hit me up for any of those needs you have to fill. Haha, I'm kidding.
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Does he know how much you enjoy sex, and how often you would like to do it?I mean, if he's already stressed and unable to perform, imagine the amount of stress that knowledge whacks on top of all the rest.
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There are all sorts of possible psychological reasons, but always waking up in the morning without an erection would suggest something physical. But I wonder why he won't fill the prescription? It sounds like he is afraid of something.
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Have you considered that just as every person is different, he has a lower threshold for stress and the same amount of stress would do more to him than other men? He seems like a good, reliable guy. Reminds me of someone, actually, and he deserves to get over this problem. Just getting that out there.