Ok so I'm 17 never had a boyfriend well....a real one anyway...So the whole real one explanation is that I liked this one guy, found out he liked me back, he asked me out I said yes, 3 days later I dumped him....I'm a very independent person I guess I mean he opened the door for me and I walked out the other door without even realizing what I had done.But anyway that was like 2 years ago and there is this new guy that I like at least I think I do. anyway we went to the movies (I made sure I DID NOT open my own door) He paid for everything which was kinda weird cause I don't know I felt like I was mooching (spending his money just because I didn't wanna spend my own) he wouldn't let me pay. But after this I don't know what happened I started feeling claustrophobic I hope I spelled that partially right, but then like a week later I think I really do like him. I think he likes me from what I've heard from my friends and his anyway. But why do I feel so like closed in when I find a guy that I like, that likes me back? Is it the whole independent need my space thing? And If so how do I fix it but not totally give up my independence?
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Scared to have a relationship??
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Originally Posted By: LindseyOk so I'm 17 never had a boyfriend... I think he likes me from what I've heard from my friends and his anyway. But why do I feel so like closed in when I find a guy that I like, that likes me back? Is it the whole independent need my space thing? And If so how do I fix it but not totally give up my independence? Wow.I'm younger than you, but I'm just starting out in all of this too. And I'm a guy, so I'm thinking about what the guy might be thinking.First, why are you still asking your friends and his friends if he likes you? That's so "junior high". I'd say, forget about the "boyfriend" thing for now and just work on being regular friends with him! Do things like study together, sit in the library together, talk after school, just "friend" stuff, not "boyfriend/girlfriend" stuff. Maybe I'm lucky in that I'm still too young to actually go out on dates and have to spend money on girls taking them out and stuff like that. (It's hard enough to find enough money for myself let alone spend it on a girlfriend. And I guess I gotta say, even at my age, if I spent a lot of money on a girl, money I can't really afford, I probably would want something back and I think you know what I mean... (Is that the problem? You sense he might want something that you definitely do not want to give?)But I'm still just a dumb kid with not whole lot of experience, but I have had a serious girlfriend. And it grew out of a friendship first. I did not go looking for a girlfriend. We became friends, and then it just grew naurally.Scott
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Im not like going around asking my friends to like spy on him and ask his friends what he thinks of me haha cause that is really childish. But I asked my friends what they thought is more of what I meant to say. And as far as him wanting something in return... I highly doubt that I mean he is a guy, but hes not "that" kind of guy if that makes sense....
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So....does anyone else have any other input?
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I think albeitmyself makes a very good point. Granted I'm a guy, but I was just like her at 17. I didn't want anything holding me back... even if it meant I was going to get some (something of tantamount importance to most 17 year old guys). It just wasn't worth giving up the fun I was having to commit even at high school level to anyone.Anyway, that's me. I just wanted to say that albeitmyself made a good point.