What do I do? Is there anything TO do?

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This isn't a girl I've posted about on here before, if any of you even know. Awhile ago this girl and I started hanging out and talking alot and I grew a liking for her - I thought she was single, and she never said anything. We hung out more, etc - She'd call me during the night between (11-5am) and we'd just talk for 2-4 hours. I'd tell her she should go to sleep because I could tell she was tired, and she said no she wanted to stay up and talk to me which I didn't really care - I told her to go to sleep so she could sleep, not because I didn't want to talk to her.I don't sleep. I just haven't ever really been able to sleep at night and doesn't matter to me psychically or mentally if I get 2 or 15 hours of sleep the next day. After awhile of hanging out I tell her that I like her, etc. She responds w/ " I kinda like you too " but what ever, the vibe I got from that wasn't a feelin' it vibe. Hanging out one night and I cuddled up behind her and put my arms around her while watching a movie and asked if she was comfortable and she said yes...Next day I tell one of my "girl"friends that I can't hang out because I'm hanging out with so and so and she goes " Be careful she has a boyfriend " Which I doubted and didn't doubt as well. I just called up my buddy which is her nieghbor and they go to school together and he said yea her boyfriend is so and so. So I bring that up w/ this girl and long story short she was sorry and never told me because she didnt want to make me mad and she didn't know where it was going w/ BF because she said it felt like he didn't like her anymore and my attitude towards it was - what ever it's not even a problem. This isn't the first time it's happened.Few nights later I go over to her place to hang out at around 11 and we ended up cuddling and falling asleep w/ eachother. We have a talk, long ass story short she's staying w/ him but really likes me and will let me know if she becomes single. So what ever I brush it off and walk away.Somewhere in the mist of all this her Facebook status was always single. My buddy tells me the other day how she's single now but " I don't know, and don't know who told me if I did know " So I just ask her " How accurate or inaccurate is your facebook relationship status? " She was unaware of what it even was, I told her and her response was " Oh.. Uh. Yea. I'm not in the market right now. I'm still in the pissed off sad stage " What's step one to getting this girl?

She isn't/wasn't dating me - She was dating him. I told her how I felt and what I wanted and she said she felt the same way but felt she should stay w/ him and told me if she became single that she'd let me know if I were still single. (month or so later) which is a few days ago her BF broke up w/ her and a friend of mine told me on the DL, I asked her about it and her response was " I'm not in the market, I'm still in the pissed off sad stage " If I ask her about it anymore it's only going to drive her away.I'm stupidly patient if it's doing me good - So, not being persistent will work for me, I just don't know how to go about it....?

Originally Posted By: RadIf she's "going with" some, that's his problem if she will date you at the same time ... unless he should get physical!Come on. OPP. dont do that to another guy its fucked up. besides if she is willing to cheat on her current bf how can you trust her not to cheat on you?

Agreed. Man Laws only apply to people you care about. "All is fair in Love and War"

walk away. By doing this, you will be showing her that you are willing to lose her. This will make her want you more. The idea is not to steal her away from dbag boyfriend...the idea is to get her to want to leave him for someone better, i.e. you.

Ok, soo a couple months back, i was that girl. I had a boyfriend, and i was away for a co-op (school/work thing)on the other side of the country. Anyhoo, there was this guy that was really into me, and i could tell and we started flirting and we would cuddle and fall asleep together and what not. I felt EXTREMELY guilty, even though i hadn't cheated or anything, but it felt like i did just because my heart wasnt in the right place anymore. So i thought about what i wanted, and what would make me happy, and i decided to break up with my boyfriend. I didnt tell the new guy for a while, because i didnt want him to think i broke up with my boyfriend for him. I pretty much didnt say anything about it till he bought it up, and asked me what was up with me and him. But if she said she's in the "pissed off sad stage" i think you should show her what a great time you guys could have together...like take her out...on a casual date that, you know...might not seem like a 'date' at first, but could possibly end up being one. And just help her realize what she wants. If she's sad, she needs a good friend, and you're gonna be that friend. If she's into you, persistence is good, every girl likes to be pursued. I hope this helps.

I asked her to hang out the other day and she said she had family dinner and what not, so I asked if she wanted to hang out the next day and she goes "Sure, I work till 5 though"I text her up the next day around 12; "We still hangin' today?" no reply, at 5 I just resent the same message and didn't expect a reply so I just lined some stuff up w/ my buddys to do - her reply at 7 was "Sorry I stayed a bit late at work to help. I dunno, I'm kinda tired tonight"So couple hours later I just tell her thats fine IDK when you want to hang out then so gimme a call if you want to sometime"K will do" was her response.

again...walk away. lol that response is not congruent to someone who wants to show you interest, man. It was good that you lined up some stuff with your buddies :). Good call.

ignore her for a few days...yes, girls like being chased...so you do the exact opposite...make her chase you.

Yeah, it looks like she'll call you when she wants to hang out. You've let her know you're there. So i guess you just have to wait or move on a bit.

Last post here was a week ago?I didn't talk to her for a week, she didn't talk to me. So I just asked her what she would say if I were to ask her out and "I dono I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now"So, whatever. Thought I'd give you guys the DL.

Going on a date doenst make you 'boyfriend girlfriend. '

Quote:Going on a date doenst make you 'boyfriend girlfriend. 'I'm pretty sure he didn't say that

just doenst seem like that's what she's thinking, so i'm just pointing it out.That or she really doesnt want to be more than just friends, and that's her excuse.

We've hung out alot, etc. so she knows who I am. She doesn't need to go on a "date" with me to reassure herself of anything. She knew what I meant by if I were to ask her out, I.E, would you be my girlfriend.