It's more the way you act than the way you look, people pick up on the slightest things. Being more open, even if it makes you more nervous, might help the situation. Learn to relax and express how you're feeling at the moment. Other than that, you cannot change how people percieve things.
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Dealing with everyone being afraid of you
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I agree.I am a BIG guy, 6'7" and I weigh a lot, but everyone thinks I'm a massive pussy. I'm seriously the least threatening person ever.Why? Cos I AM a big pussy.Don't get me wrong, in a physical altercation I will stand up for myself, but only if I have to (i.e. to protect myself), but under extremely rare circumstances would I ever hit someone first.Primarily tho, it's cos I'm a big soppy teddy bear of a dude.Maybe, me54, you just need to chill out a bit and stop giving off the bodyguard vibe...
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If you arent showing any emotion , its likely this , more than your stature , that makes people feel uncomfortable.Every girl likes a teddybear !!Tor x
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well i try to be nice and i help everyone i meet i dont let pepole walk over me but iv,e only been i 1 fight my entire life and that was where a guy pushed me and i held his arm behind him till he setled down
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cause if i do then pepole will know what i am feeling and then i will end up my with foot in mouth
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Have you had bad experiences, me54?
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yes
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Originally Posted By: me54i have a very large build and everyone i meet is afraid of me what do i do? how big are you?
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idk over 2 feet shoulder with
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I know that you have had bad experiences when showing emotion , however the lack of emotion is probably why people feel uncomfortable.I am not saying put your heart on your sleeve , however just a little emotion can be reassuring !!Tor x
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yeah not counting my neck my shoulders are 2 foot 3inches
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ok inclouding neck 2 foot 9
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The combination of a very large build, a face without emotion, and a certain jumpiness would be rather scary. People would feel they don't know what you'll do next. It's possible to show some friendly humanity without making yourself vulnerable (though I think vulnerability is important in the human condition).
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well i dont know why but unless i know sombody i cant relax till i know them i only know 2 pepole that i can relax around i try but seems like every time i do i end up in alot of trouble
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i very rarely get mad pepole always call me secretive but i just dont talk much and i like to keep my personal stuff from being known to everybody
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It sounds like since you have had bad experiences, to stop them happening again you have built thick walls around yourself, like a castle. But the problem is that now people can't get near you because of the walls. I think it's a natural response to bad experiences, but as a cure it can be worse than the disease.Perhaps you relax in an over-exuberant way. I've always found it helpful to imagine myself as the other person, and consider what he or she is thinking.
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so does anybody else got this problem
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i try to get along with everybody but seems like there aint much point i did get a kick out of something a gril walked up next to me and shes shorter than me i looked over and that ivoles looking down with her so she thought i was lookin at her tits
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i dont know why i put this under sexuality
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Has it got any better?