So i have problems, i know this. I get Jealous alot. My girlfriend likes to talk alot about how hot celebs are and im not sure if it is the fact i have Jealousy issues that bother me or the fact it happens so much. Like everytime we see a celebrity she will say "I used to be obsessed with him hes so hot". And yah we all do that we are only human.But i think what bothers me is she always has to say that. Whenever we are talking about something that has to do with celebrities, movies, shows, whatever she always has to tell me every little crush she used to have on every celebrity that ever exist. I just get annoyed by it and it kind of bothers me. I think if i was constantly saying how hot i thought celebs were and if i told her every little fantasy, crush, i used to have she wouldnt like it.But ive noticed it makes me jealous also. Especially when she tells me about how other guys check her out and whistle at her when shes walking down the street. That shit just bothers me and its probably because im insecure. She always tells me that no one else compares to me no one in the world but still on the inside im like yeah right (sometimes i feel like if some celebrity asked her out she would dump me in a heartbeat) which most likely isnt true. She loves me and i know that but i guess i just have insecurity problems.I keep it all on the inside which is good and bad. Its good because she has no clue so its not like my jealousy is affecting the relationship, but on the inside it eats me away. How do i deal with this problem. How do i get over it? Has anyone ever had this problem? I want to get over it more than anything, i hate this feeling, i wish it didnt exist and i dont like feeling this way. Can someone please help? Sorry that was long.
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Im way too Jealous
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I thank you for your advice. Yah i try to realize my problems and admit them so i can hopefully fix them. Yeah if it happens again i will talk to her, because you are right she isnt a mind reader so she doesnt know this bothers me. I mean i can handle it if we saw a Brad Pitt movie and she was like oh i used to think he was so hot or i still do think hes so hot, id be like yah cool whatever, but when its like with every other celebrity it just gets old you know?But anyway i appreciate the advice and i will talk to her about it. I guess i get insecure because i never thought i was that great looking anyway and when shes gawking over celebs i feel like "how am i supposed to measure up" you know? But once again thanks for the (quick) response.
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actually I think its totally your fault. you let shit get to you that shouldnt.first off its a celeb, its not like its the mail man or the guy next door, if it were I can understand being a bit paranoid about where its going.With my woman (shes far from a girl!) I trust her 100%, shes been with me for 4 years today, IF you trust her then thers no reason to get all pissy, I dont care what celebs get my woman hot, who she thinks is cute or what man with his shirt off makes her wet. Shes with me, Im the one she tells that she loves, Im the one that sleeps with her, eats with her, takes 5 hour drives with her, Im the man in her life. Thinking someone is hot does not even come close to equal to someone she wants to marry and be with. when you whack off, do you think of other girls or watch porn? why is it ok for you to do that but not for her to think some guy in a movie is hot? get over it, unless she gives you a reason then you have none to be pissy or jealous about.
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Yea i agree im being a dumbass. Sometimes i just need someone to put me in my place and remind me that shes with me and none of that other shit matters, so thanks Grvtykllr. Sometimes i just dont really think and i get jealous for no reason, its just a stupid problem i have but ur right in what you said and i should just let it go. Thnaks for the advice!
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It's human to feel jealous. Just tell her to cool it on the celebrity obsessions because it's really starting to get to you (annoy you)
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it wasnt advice, I cant give you that, I dont have any of it. You have to figure shit out for yourself, I simply wanted to point out to you that its your problem, you have to figure out how to deal with it.tell her it bothers you, she may stop, but she wont stop feeling that way, and youll always know it, it will always eat at you.You have to figure out how to actually get over it.and it doenst make you a dumb ass, its a natural thing, its something that you have to progress past.I was teh same way, I never figured it out till my current girl, with her I just dont care, it doesnt matter, Im the one with her, Im who she wanst to be with, and i feel confident that shes in love with me as much as i am with her, the rest of the shit doesnt matter.
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Thats what i appreciate though, you pointing out my problems. Thats why i come here so i can get help and fix them, i cant talk to friends about this stuff so i rely on you and everyone else thats apart of this board.
Im glad you could help me with my problems by pointing them out because i already feel alot better. You helped me sit down and think, and thats what i needed.
So thank you! (Same to everyone else who helped)
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Grvtykllr is right you shouldnt let it get to, but she also should cool it down on the celebrity thing, even if it doesnt feel like shes comparing you to them or something its still annoying to hear "oh hes so hot" but the thing with other guys flirting with her, ask her to keep it to herself, unless its someone actively trying to make a move on her, but if theyre just saying things then walking past its just courteous to keep it to oneself
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now see if im with Julz, and some asshole is hitting on her, he knows Im with her, Id break his fucking jaw, jealous is one thing, keeping some asshole off your wife is another thing.Men ask her out all the time,it doesnt bother me, when they know shes with me and keep trying to talk her into going out with them then I hurt people. I like having a girl that other people want, makes me a bit prouder to be with her, but to keep after her when they know shes taken, that will lead to violence every fucking time.
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Quote:I think if i was constantly saying how hot i thought celebs were and if i told her every little fantasy, crush, i used to have she wouldn’t like it. Have you tried. lol me and my girl talk about the Celebs we thing are hot. It don’t really bother us. She really likes the blond dude from fast and furious 1 & 2. And brad pitt. ……LMAO she defiantly favors blond blue eyed guys. Haha besides what is the % rate of her actually getting to talk to theses celeb guys. much less fuck one? Ummm less than 10% I guessing. Now when it comes to people in the mall, at a store or movies or some place and I bust some dude (or dudes) checking out my girl.. I do step into their view. I never say a word to her but I get in their way so they can’t check her out. I know what’s going on in their minds no way are they going to think that about my girl! I’m guilty of it too. .. Have been popped a time or two for it…so yea there not going to check her out. Quote:How do i deal with this problem. How do i get over it? I dk.. Sorry I can’t help.. I don’t think I got that problem. My view of it is if she wants some one else she can go get him. So I guess I’m not jealous. What might help is knowing that she hasn’t got a chance with a celeb so…let her think there hot. Quote:Has anyone ever had this problem? My girlfriend.. I dk if it’s jealousy but she defiantly lets girls know I belong to her. don’t really like saying it like that but ….. It is what it is I guess. She was jealous of Ash in the beginning of our relationship at first. Not so now or she’s hiding it really well. I used to think she was jealous of my ex Lindsey but really she wasn’t she just hates her. lol What helped us / her is talking. She got closer to Ash and they talked and then she was cool with ash. With Lindsey she still hates her but it was my girl was frustrated at me cuz I wouldn’t wake up and see what Lindsey is. Now I know.. So it’s cool.. Quote:My boyfriend occasionally tells me when girls check him out (or worse, pinch his butt!) and it hurts me, but since I've told him that it hurts me, he's gotten a lot better. My girl tells me when some one is checking me out. lol she’ll whisper it in my ear and kiss me and then when I go to see she goes don’t look. lol I think she likes it when people check me out. We had a issue.. well I had a issue with a girl from her class when she told a lot of people on campus ( u know she tells her friend, they tell theirs and then they tell theirs and then every one freaking knows shit…) what size condom we bought. We go to a drug store and buy our stuff and she is working there. That made me retty cranky for a while and I think she liked it. I dk.. maybe we have a wired relationship. Quote:when shes gawking over celebs i feel like "how am i supposed to measure up" you know?1st.. Celeb are just people too. They just happen to have great paying jobs haha There are actually a lot of people walking the streets that look better than any celeb. They just choose not to be in spotlight. At least it’s how I see things.2nd.. I’m Shannon’s celeb. LMAO! I don’t care if she likes a whole lot of celebs (she’ll never meet) or even if she see’s a few guys at the mall or movies or where ever as hot. So?? I see girls all the time that are hot. How can I be upset or jealous of her doing what I do.
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lol if a celebrity asked out, of course she'd dump you in a heartbeat. most girls would.
but she is definitely trying to make you jealous, and it's a sh1t test that girls give to guys to see if they are worthy.
The best way to deal with it is to call her out on it. The next time she says something like that, say " stop trying to make me jealous, it's funny how you try so hard for me" say it in a light jokingly manner.