Did you lose your virginity the way you wanted to?

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I hope my wife doesn't hear about this! Next she'll start wanting me to buy her her own birthday presents, instead of having to buy them herself.

that lose it with someone you love crap is kind of annoying. and saving for marriage just seems retarded to me. we're humans. we were put on this earth to mate. our bodies want us to. It might be a religion thing and i gues i have to respect that but then i have no respect for religion. "mind altering drugs are a sin" fuck catholics seriously. im bipolar and i have adhd so i guess i sin every fucking day (k that was a bit off-topic) anyways, yea i just dont see the point in waiting for marriage. i say lose it with someone you know while your sober. thats all. that way america doesnt call you a slut (if you're a girl) or praise you like you're the messiah (if you're a guy). sorry if i offended anyone here im just extra angry so it adds to my viciousness.

Losing your virginity or waiting until marriage may seem silly to you but to others, they hold that close to their hearts. I don't really believe a lot of people will wait until marriage, but that doesn't mean the few that do are "retarded". I think it's something admirable.Losing it to someone random doesn't work for everyone. You can ask my boyfriend on that one.  Quote:that way america doesnt call you a slut (if you're a girl) or praise you like you're the messiah (if you're a guy).That makes no sense. Sadly, for women who enjoy sex, they are called sluts no matter what but guys are off the hook.

Its hard to always top the last time.The one thing I have not been able to top is a hour long massage and pedicure in a spa. Its her favorite thing and I think she would be disappointed to NOT get it at this point.Its always part of the gift, I avoid jewelry, she doesnt wear any anyways aside form the ring. you can never go wrong with flowers, and a night out is always a good idea, especially when your old and have kids and they dont come around very often.I took her to the symphony once, she was excited to go but was bored as fuck 10 minutes into it. Ill avoid that in the future.Mine is always happy to get new camping shit or fishing shit, but I have a rare girl, I dont think you can get away with buying too many girls new sleeping bags or a fishing pole or nice reel or fishing vest.I hope this is not one of my posts that julie bothers to read as this year im trying to get reservations for the homestead... its a private resort outside of heber city in the uintas, stay in a cabin, ride horses all that shit after a gift certificate to the spa.its a bastard to always top the last one, good luck to ya in keeping it up.I figure average life expectancy and what not plus we both smoke, i only gotta do it 30 more times or so, you found yours at a younger age, you got a good 50 plus to get through so ya may want to start planning ahead

well she loves the massage, while iM good, she gets that a few times daily on weekends and always at night on weekdays, but iM no where near as good as the guy I pay to rub my wife! He went to school and happens to be gay. He really is good too, Iv had a few from him myself.Just to address what will come from some people on this board who love to give me some shit...There was no happy endings involved! it makes her feel good, as to the rest, I try to make it some time we can spend alone, something to let her know I care and just because its been a few years I dont take her for granted. Besides we are gonna end up with the camping and fishing stuff anyways, may as well get it for a gift, I at least know she will like it.

I get the power saws not her! Actually any tools, can you ever have enough tools?

she gets gifts more than once a year, her bday, christmas, sometimes just because I happen to see something I thought she would like, flowers here and there just because.
Topping the gifts is more just how I am, than what she needs or wants. Once you give something great you have to keep it up! its just who I am not something that was forced on me.

i was raped...be careful out there

I was 15 and it was my very first real gf. Or so I thought. Actually, she wanted to do it a lot more than I did. She kept telling me how much she wanted to do it with me, and finally I said okay. I was pretty nervous, scared I'd accidentally make her pregnant, and extremely embarrassed trying to go buy some condoms. We were both virgins. The first time was awkward, but okay. We did it again a couple days later and it was a lot better.

Then she told her friends about it and it got back to her parents, and they confronted her and she pretty much told them that I had raped her! That I forced her to have sex with me! It was extremely ugly for a while. Obviously, that ended our relationship.

At the time I knew I was falling in love with my ex. We had only been together for a few weeks but it just seemed to work. It was a great night and I loved every bit about it. He told me months later when he was SOBER (so it was actually how he felt) that at the time he thought I was too easy and he was thought I was a slut after we had sex. I was shattered. He even thought I was too comfortable and because I didnt bleed he suspected that I had had sex before. He was an idiot!!!! I felt humiliated because it was my first time and I absolutely trusted him. I hate the fact now that it was with him. But I am glad I have the experience because I know I would be more comfortable now in a relationship and would be more careful as to who I have sex with. I think I am definately better off and I know I am not just going to marry the next guy I go out with.

No, I wish I hadn't lost it with the person I did.The relationship lasted 3 months, she was too openly sexual right from the start, and I stayed with her and lost it after I found out she cheated. Terrible move.I was also under pressure from everyone at school thinking I was some sort of sexual wierdo. There were rumours being spread that I had some sort of freakish sexual fantasies, and since I'm the quiet reclusive type, everyone believed it, and I felt I had to prove I had a normal sex life.Wasted it? Yes.Regret it? Yes.Nothing I can do about it now though, except try and forget it.

I regret my first time too. But what's done, is done.

gave mine to a long time gf, she gave me hers also.

I lost mine relatively recently- within the past 3 months (aged 19). I love the girl to death, and we're still going steady.No regret.

I did it with the first girl I knew was willing just to finally experience it. I was 21 and had panic attacks thinking I'd be a virgin forever. I stopped liking her soon after she got all clingy and stalky but I dont have any regrets because i just wanted to not feel all left out and weird when i was around other people who were talking about sex

. . . You sound like a jerk :scream_cat:

how's that make me a jerk? it's not like i used for sex, i just realized after a few weeks she was kinda crazy in the head and bailed.

Originally Posted By: Rad

Originally Posted By: white_lines

I've been doing GREAT!!!! Thanks for asking.
How about you?
It's good to hear that you've been doing well!

I've been doing great, too!

Keep in touch.

My bad bro I didn't mean to be a prick and ignore you. I been good though kinda forgot about this forum for a while until I needed it again.

How you been?

I couldve waited till I was like 25 until I had a serious boyfriend who loved me. But Im 18 and never had a boyfriend and I got tired of waiting. I liked this guy for about five months. We talked about it often. We were both drunk when it happened, and he doesnt remember that it happened. So theres a lot to regret. But I dont, because I cant take it back so theres no point in wasting energy in that. Id rather focus on the good parts like, it was good sex. Im glad it wasnt awkward, silent sex. Im glad I wasnt nervous, or body conscious, or it was only missionary. It was really open, natural comfortable, and kinky sex haha. So it is what it is.

I didn't lose it the way I thought I would. I was in a long term / loving realationship and all that. But the first time we did IT, it was wierd and awkward. I really wasn't crazy about doing it again lol But it got better from there.

i lost it to someone i love. but unfortunatly it wasw in his gramas basement and we used a baggy roflmao