Ok - bit of a bizzare first question here.There is something that is really starting to bug me now. I'm 26 and through one thing or another, I remain a virgin becuase I have been on countless dates (with diffrent women) and it has never really led to anything (the dates) which has led to this 'condition'. I know peer pressure accounts for a lot of it, but now its getting to the point of me wondering why I am bothering. I feel physically sick to think of it, and masturbation/porn only makes me worse, so I aviod doing those things at all costs.Maybe, this might sound like desperation, but I can assure you its not - its simply that I would like to start exploring a whole new chapter on life which I have somehow missed out on. The older I get, the worse the feeling gets. Not to mention the fact that I'm going to feel like a clueless teenager when (moreover, if) I ever find a women that I would like to make love with, and perhaps she would reject me for that fact (and yes, I do know that if she truely cared for me that would not be an issue).I do not know any girls as friends. Sounds disasterous, I know, I find it hard (somehow) even to form basic day-to-day relations with them. There is someone I know (as a friend of a friend) and she reacted "badly" when she found aout about my darkest secret (my friend told her, without my knowledge) - to which I respinded that she can get lost if she is going to be like that about it. I seemed to get more respect for doing that, and all she could say was "find a fatty". Er, I don't think so, somehow.Out of all this I do not know if I will ever find someone who I truly love - its seemingly so hard - and I feel such a freak for being this way. Harsh on myself, I know, but its the best word I can think of right now.May I ask what ages people lost their virginity, particuarly women. I know that might sound bizzare, but I bet there are some girls out there in the same position as me, whic I would suppose make me feel better.
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Question About Virginity
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Dont worry about it man! ALOT of people wait till they're married to lose their virginity, there are many people like you out there, if you are really desperate for a date, try a club, have some fun and get some ladies numbers :smirk:. But just dont worry about losing your virginity, it shouldnt affect how people view you.
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Hey bud, you've got part of this right...peer pressure and "societal views" etc....I waited until I married...my choice, and until 35. Check your private message box for more about this from me
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dude like the others have said lotsa ppl wait 4 marriage...but it does depend on what u want...do u want 2 lose your virginity to the love of your life or to some whore?
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I would like to lose it to someone I love, but not necessarily within marrige. Doing it with some whore is not an option....I'm told by my letahrio 'friend' that there's no point in waiting - it makes no difference ("there's nothing special to it"). Bear in mind that he's had more casual sexual encounters than I dare count, and not one of them has he loved... So I guess he is a fool to himself?Its just the way society frowns upon it - heck, even my boss had a dig at me for it the other day. No, he doesn't know that I am, but for him to make the remark, I was more than a little annoyed.
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In reply to:I'm told by my letahrio 'friend' that there's no point in waiting - it makes no difference ("there's nothing special to it").Here's a rhetorical question for you, If he's never been with anyone he loved, then how would he know if it's special or not?My advice would just be to stop worrying about it. No one can force love, it just comes to you. And if you save your first time for someone you actually love, it is indeed very special. I don't see how it couldn't be. You're in effect giving them something that you can never give anyone else; wouldn't that qualify as special? Anyways, that's my two cents for ya. Take 'em for what they're worth (mainly two cents ^_^; )