What to do. u tell me.

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In this situation, even a gynecologist wouldn't be able to tell if she's a virgin or not.
Having a good marriage means you can surrender all your trust to that person. AverageJoe is right when he said this trust issue can hinder your future relationship with your wife.

Have you ever examined a virgins vagina? How do you know what it is supposed to look like. You just don't seem to get the concept that the hymen can be broken in many ways other than sex. If she wasn't a virgin, she probably wouldn't have this much trouble and pain. And why are you calling her your girlfriend if she is your wife?

well u peoples might be right in ur replies.. and one more thing i have never seen vagina of a virgin girl.. i dont know how does it look like

all i can say is i'm glad you're not MY boyfriend or husband. as all the others have said there is really NO WAY you can tell if a woman is a virgin or not just by looking. there are also no "tests". (jeez this whole topic is making me sick!)your distrust and pressure on this poor woman is just awful and you should be ashamed at what you are putting her through.by the way are you a virgin?

If you truley love her, then shut up about it. Just trust her. And don't presure her into haveing sex with you if she doesn't want to. If it hurts her that much, then don't have sex. Easy as that.

i didn't nor have i ever bleed from being fingered. so just cause she didnt bleed or didnt think it hurt that much doesnt mean shes not a virgin

yes i am a virgin and she is not my wife..she is my gf. and now i deciding wether should i marry her or not...

well u always told me that why dont i trust her as i marry her.. the thing is that she is not my wife as i was going to marry her and now i am thinking wether i should marry her or not.. ans by the way i am 24 years old guy and ya i am virgin . may be now u will realize why i was asking again and again about her virginity ,,, got my point.bye.

man you make NO sense at allyou call her your gf, then say she's your wife, and now she's just a girlfriend? In reply to: we deicided to go for sex,and she is not intrested in sex. "we"??? who is "we"?? obviously just YOU?nice relationshiphold on, lets quote you when you couldnt work the caps lock button: In reply to: [the question of virginity] IS A QUESTION OF MANNER, DISCIPLINEM HONOUR OF DIGNITY so you were trying to rob her of her manner, discipline, and dignity? maybe she doesnt want to have sex until she is married in order for her to conform to your societal views..very hypocritical In reply to: bye. bye.

according to you , what should i do . one more thing if u would have been at my place then what could be ur decision .. be honest and true .

You know what? I really don't think many people here subscribe to your cultural philosophy. You seem to be from a culture where the woman must be a virgin in order for her to be marriage material. Probably, most people (in general) in this western culture could care less. For yourself and your culture, it seems to be a big deal. I think you already got a lot of fine answers. The problem is that you don't want to hear those answers becasue they don't fall in line with your philosophy. I have to ask you a question though.. If being a virgin is so important, why are you even trying to have sex with her at this point. And if you did have sex, and then decided to not marry... isn't she now "ruined" according to your culture?? Seems very hypocritical to me.

okai wait how long have you been married cuz its a liitle odd you havent had sex yet i mean what did you do on your wedding night?

dud your such a fucking liar your not married to her becuz it says in your question in the beggining that she was ur gf. so thats bullshit

okai wow headache so now you say she isnt your gf. dude make up your fucking mind

Please look at the date of this post...this is a DEAD THREAD, and the user is no longer around.

I sent him a message tell him to delete them, but I have had no responce.