First off, this is a guy I'm going to be talking about so if you're biphobic (Homo-phobic, bi-phobic...get it? ha ha...--) this isn't the thread for you. ^^ANYWHO~~ Lets beginAugust I moved to a new HS in Alabama (I know what you're thinking! "EWW ALABAMA! EWW!" but it wasn't my idea). THe first few days everything went well, until that dreaded day. In history class we were assigned a group project and, well, thats where I first saw him. The most gorgeous person I've ever seen. I know what you're thinking now, "Its just a physical thing" but its not! I swear to you! If it was, I would have been able to get over him ages ago. He's funny, he's smart, he's friendly, and so much more. It seems that whenever I try to get over him, I can't even begin to get him out of my head when it all starts again! Its driving me mad! Well, good, I got that out. Ok, second part. The logical thing to do would be to talk to him. But I can't push myself to even say hi. Its like theres a rule there "You shall not speak unless you are spoken to." On some occasions (I sit next to him) he says something and I smile, or he says a joke and I laugh, but thats basically it. I've never gotten in a real conversation with him. I think he barely knows who I am. I'm going crazy here! Whenever I see him its like a bomb explodes inside me! AAAAAHHHHHH!! I can't take it anymore! What should I do? Should I just flat out tell him? Or should I take it to the grave with me? Please, any advice is welcome. Please and thank you.PS: If theres anything you want to know, feel free to ask.I should go back and reread this, but if I do, I'll probably end up deleting it all. Help
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What to do @_@
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Well first off is he gay/bi? If so I say totally go for it. If he's not you have to ask yourself, do you mind getting your a$$ kicked? And not just by him but by every homophobe in the school. Do you mind getting picked on? Do your parents know your orientation? If they don't they very well may in very short period of time.
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I think it's time to push yourself. Depending on his interests, you may or may not be able to have a deep and meaningful relationship with him. But at the very least you can be sociable.Don't come straight out and say "I'm in love with you". It is not only dangerous if he is homophobic - even if he is gay or bi it puts him in an impossible position, because he hardly knows you. For that matter, you hardly know him. So start by getting to know him better, and let him know you better, by talking. You want lots of real conversations with him. Ask him what he thinks about things. Talk about the project. Talk about what he wants to do when he finishes school. Push yourself and talk and get to know him.
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@ilikekisses: well....I don't want to just say "Yes hes gay" but...you know how sometimes you can tell by the way a person acts. Then again, there are some very flamboyant straight men out there. But then again, whenever someone brings up the topic of gays and all that good stuff, he gets a bit tense...so...yeah ~~About the whole getting my ass kicked. I am very open about my sexuality, if you ask me I'll tell you; I don't care what others think. So far no ones laid a hand on me. My mom (dad died) would probably have a heart attack if I told her I was bi, so for the time being, she doesn't know. A very short time indeed. ^^ @Ineligble: LMAO! "I'm in love with you" You made me laugh. Most all the people here are homphobic, but most of them wont go past insults. As for the rest, I can take care of myself. Should I just come out and start talking to him? I mean, its been a whole semester and I've barely uttered a sentence. (I have another semester with him). OK! Gotta push myself! Thank you both so much! Anyone else with advice or comments, or anything, please post it. ^_^
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lol i had a similar situation...but it turned out the guy was a total arse once i got to know him a bit more...so yah...you should get to know the guy better then decide if you could see yourself in a relationship with him...
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u know....i really dont know your situation that well, Kuja, but honestly...id be hesitant to tell you to just "push" yourself...If everyone in your school already knows your sexual orientation than i would preobably go for it...(but just if they dont)...i think first...make sure he knows your gay...then start talking to him and be his friend and then id be like "yea man, this is pretty crazy, but i liked you" and if it goes bad, like hes stunned or something, u can laugh it off and pretend you were just playing...lol...thats what ID do... but again, i personally wouldnt just go ask him...cuz...by my 1 experience with a gay person...he was in my skewl, and people figured he was gay...and one day when everyone was just laughing and joking around he went and just playfully slapped this guy on the ass...after school him and his friends beat the gay guy up so bad they sent him to ER...but maybe thats just my school
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I understand where all of you are coming from. I'll take it real slow. I do have like 6 months. ^_^ And I would never go up to some guy and slap him on the ass unless I new he wouldn't mind it. I mean, I wouldn't want some random guy slapping me on the ass, even if he was just "playing". Thank You all!!!!!