Giving BJ's

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anyone else have pointers?

haha i kno where yur comin from lilmac... i owe my bf too and plan on doin it soon.. but im 15 and we've been goin out 3 months
so any replies will help me as well :smile:

lol well sexy italian... You've already heard this from me, so this won't be any extra help for you When I did it the first time I had the general idea of what to do, but i really didn't know what I was doing technique wise. I know people say it all the time, and I know it doesn't help, cus I asked questions too, but really it does come natural. I just did it and it happened. What I usually do is start by licking circles around the head, then lick down the shaft down to the balls and lick and suck them for a couple minutes or so, then lick the way up to the head again, then when you start sucking and going up and down be twirling your tongue on the head at the same time. Then keep massaging the balls with the other hand. Just be careful not to be scraping your teeth against it!

You seem rather unpatient.As a straight male who has never received oral sex, or plan on giving it, I have no tips. Sorry.

lol...what r u talking about shes impatient...when i was 12 i met that girl the day before...haha...but maybe i just chill with hoes... but yea...4 months is a long time, and 14 is actually pretty old...i know people will raise some eyebrows at that...but at 14 youre almost an adult, u can think for yourself and you are able to weigh the pros and cons of doing something like giving head...so best advise is just go for it! good luck...and after New Years, dont forget to start a new post...im curious to see what happened

He meant she's impatient for an answer.

So 14 is almost an adult?? So why doesn't that 12, 13, 14 year old (or 15, 16, 17 for that matter) who gets a girl pregnant or who gets pregnant, get a real job, an apartment and everything that goes along with that in order to raise that child like an "adult" would? Almost an adult my ass.

yeah I'm with you on that one sdp!

i dont know how you all grew up...when i was 14 we took care of ourselves we fed ourselves bought our own clothes, had jobs...we had to grow up fast, and be mature bout it...and even if you dont have to live like that, if ure 14 and cant even think str8 and know what you want...you must be retarded.... maybe mother wiped your ass when you were a teen...but thats definitely not my case

Physically, most things, including ability to reason, reach full maturity at about 16. Maturity of wisdom is different, and depends a lot on the person and on that person's experience. I worry sometimes that in Western society now, by protecting young people more and more and for longer and longer, we are actually depriving them of experience and the chance to learn from mistakes and are just delaying their development; just as babies need to be exposed to a certain amount of dirt to develop their immune systems.A lot does depend on the character of the individual. There are plenty of old people who have managed to avoid picking up much maturity with time.

u will b surprised. me being 16, i know a 14 yearold that is big swole and has bigger chops than my dinner plate. though this rarely happens, this kid is mature as a body and with his body.
for all the young ones reading this, this is rare and may not happen to you. so if it does not, don't freak out just yet

If you had to do all of that at 14, I feel sorry for you. Just because you had it hard is no reason to say certain people needed their ass wiped as a teen. 14 is too young to have to get a job and support yourself. Some would call it abuse.

In reply to: hey...haha...i dont know why people arent answering. most people would reply on a post like this pretty fast...but ne ways...by what you said...you "owe him quite a bit" thats really not a good reason to give him head...but hey, if you want to...go for it! just thats the kind of thing you might regret l8er...im a 15 year old male...and my first bj was when i was 12...i really really regret it...so dont make the same mistake! but yea...dont be worried...relax...its not very hard to do after you start...itll be awkward at first...but from what my female friends tell me...you get the hang of it pretty fast...if i was you, i would watch some porn first...to see what the pros do...again, its not the hardest thing in the world, if u watch some videos u should be fine...maybe even try practising on a...hmmm i dunno...banana? lol...another thing is when ure actually going to do it...just sit with him...lets say on the couch...just cuddle together...and then start moving your hand down....undo his pants for him...guys always love it when their girl does that...then...when its out...just give him a handjob sloowwwlly till hes hard...and then...sloowwly...move your head down...with one hand give him a handjob while youre doing it...and with the other feel him...his stomach and everything...i know i love it when i chik does that...dont forget to look at him! good luck ...i hope ive helped a bit...and dont be worried! In reply to: dont know how you all grew up...when i was 14 we took care of ourselves we fed ourselves bought our own clothes, had jobs...we had to grow up fast, and be mature bout it...and even if you dont have to live like that, if ure 14 and cant even think str8 and know what you want...you must be retarded.... maybe mother wiped your ass when you were a teen...but thats definitely not my case hrm. how are you able to say that like that. you're only 15 - you're making it soundl ike you are way older than that and criticizing our generation of teens?maybe im wrong. maybe not.

Very nice point. I'd say if you're under 16, you're young and not totally mature, if at all. You can't talk like you have all the experience in the world, and think that you're the hardest working 13 year old in the world. Life is so hard, I have to do everything on my own, I have to walk 10 miles to and from school everyday so I can learn algebra and how to correct a run on sentence. Then I have to go home and do the dishes tear. I'm only 17, and I've had my share of sexual stuff, but I know I'm far from being completely mature about it, I'm sure I'll still end up doing something stupid some day. I would not compare myself to someone in their 20's, I know I'll be a hell of a lot different then. Simply put, you don't know shit

first off, age doesnt automatically mean maturity...just look how many people are in college and still immature asses...it depends on the person..some people are forced to mature faster based on their situation. but in general most arent. and for the record 14? Adult? HELLZ NO...people these days are so dumb...most 18 year olds arent even mature let alone a 14 year old who hasnt really done anything in life yet... I mean come on, her reason for giving him a bf is because "she owes him" not dissing the girl or anything but if you only do something pretty much because you owe someone, you shouldnt be doin it at all...something like this you have to do cuz you want to or some disney stuff like that..you never owe anyone anything sexual..and fyi, i just turned 20 and have done my share of mature and immature things so its not like i'm just talkin out my ass

I see this thread has gone to the "maturity thing" instead of the BJ question.
May and old fart wade in? I'm 52 and maturity, is only a state of mind and how you choose to use it determines your "maturity level", as judged by society. Age has nothing to do with it. Us older people just know more of life's ups and downs.
I own a small construction company and hire "young adults" during the summer, on a limited basis. {State Regs.}
Most are around the 15 to 18 year old range. Some are too stupid to read a tape measure and others will blow me away with their math skills and work ethic. I have always found the latter to be more mature, because of good schooling and parenting.
Do I feel that 14 year olds should be giving BJ's or any other kind of sex? Absolutely not! It will lead to more experimentation and maybe pregnancy. You do not owe him anything "sexually" for ANYTHING!
Think before you act. You have your whole life in front of you and what you do now will affect you for the rest of your life. Trust me, been there done that and now I'm paying for it.

well stated, nwiguy