I'm pretty torn between what I think. I mean sure guys do lie a lot to women, and tell them what they think they want to hear. That seems pretty selfish, but then again, a woman will sometimes yell at a man for being too honest if he tells the truth. I don't think men can take a woman yelling and nagging at them, so to make it stop they tell them what they want to hear. I know I've been pretty naggy before due to my intense temper, but sometimes I would just appreciate it more if a guy calmly told me the truth and apologized so I would calm down and be more understanding. Women appreciate when a man is honest because it means they're mature enough to step and take care of the issue. But then again, not all women are that understanding. You've still got those chicken hoes that ramble on and on and on. It all comes down to sex I think. I think a man lies to keep him on his woman's good side so she won't take away sex from him, and if she does he'll get it somewhere else i.e. cheating
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Men Can Never Be Trusted...
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Another thing..A guy will step all over you if you allow him to..that's something I've always said, so I never let a guy treat me like shit. I always confront him. It kind of sux because whenever a woman does stick up for herself, some guys misinterpret that as them coming across as bitches. I think real women have a strong backbone, and if a guy knows he can't fuck with you, then he won't even try.
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Its the mentality you are in.Like some girls are attracted to bad guys and will always be with one.You happen to choose guys that end up lying and cheating on you.Its a matter of knowing yourself and who you really belong with.I would think
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In reply to: Why do I deserve to be treated the way I do?? u don't. U haven't dated my brother have u...LMAO!! but anyways..... there are good guys out there.hell i'm too nice. my X ripped me aport and Fuck i took her back today.
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yeah, you just have to meet the right people. I get a lot of complaints from girls I know saying their boyfriend is disrespectful and things like that. Then they go out and meet someone who is the same. I mean you just need to look for a different type of guy. We nice guys are here, just gotta come get us.
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I know my husband flirts with other women, and finds other women attractive, but I doubt he would actually cheat on me.My husband is a good man. I've caught him in a lie or two, "Have you changed the baby’s diaper?" kind of thing, but no real lies. Being a small lie doesn’t make it less annoying, but we've all told little lies here and there. Anyone one that says they don't is lying to themselves. A guy can't shit on you unless you lye down and let him. When my hubby and I were dating he try to yell at me for something stupid and I walked of and left him standing there. If you show a guy you respect yourself he will respect you too. If you don't respect yourself how can you really expect anyone else too?
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so true ilikekisses.
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i think that you are looking at it wrong. my thery is that it is all based on how the person grows up me being only 12 cant say much but since i was like 8 my brother has taught me to respect woman and never cheat and if he finds out that i ever cheat i will get the living shit kicked out of me, but men who grow up seeing there fathers cheating or their fathers abusing their mothers or just wowman will probably grow up to be more dishonast and all but if you disagree with me plz contact me.
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I have a friend who is sorta in your thought process. Although rather than being done with men she says shes just done with relationships cause all the men she's been with have treated her like shit or had some problem going on or cheated or whateever.However I notice when shes referring to men in general she always says she excludes me. She says that i'm not like them.??Maybe its just a friend thing. But I can safely say I've never done her wrong.
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ko9, maybe she wants you to put the moves on her.
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could be. though I'm only like 20% good at reading her.
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that is actually very re-assuring for me. I appreciate you for posting that. Thank you.
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This is my contact to you: I disagree that upbringing has any large part to deal with how you view women and your morals. The reason being, is you ALWAYS have a choice. You can choose to grow up and be nothing like the father you had, always cheating and lying, or you can choose to grow up and be identical to him. Free will is the key to unlocking the chains that your upbringing has bestowed upon you.
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So you're saying that one has no choice/limited choice whatsoever when they mature into what they will become, simply because mommy or daddy told them it was right, when they were youngins?
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I'm not trying to disregard the fact their upbringing had something to do with their moral and social developments...I just said that it only had a small part in it.
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I disagree. Human behavior is learned behavior. I think it is more of a subconscience imitaiton than a notion of free will(or lack there of). One's upbringing has more of an effect than a lot of people realize.
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I still think it's a matter of letting it take hold in your psyche(sp?) as opposed to it being there subconsciously. I mean take a look at some of the people who just for no apparent reason, snap and go "postal". Just because one day they walked into an office and started spraying rounds everywhere doesn't necessarily mean they had a traumatic childhood, or it was something that was influential to them in their childhood...but that's just my opinion.
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Thats the very definition of subconscience. Its not a matter of letting something take hold in your psyche, its there, its a part of your very being, a part of who you are. There are things that shaped what kind of man blackmanoncampus became, before blackmanoncampus was even old enough to understand his surroundings. But thats just my opinion also. I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.....its kinda like the chicken and the egg
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you know what i totaly fuckin feel you. it makes me wanna just die cuz who can u trust to be honest i cant even trust my own best friends anymore. my b/f isnt like other guys hes great but he still lies and i dont know what to do. i figure if my b/f is the greatest guy i have ever met but he is still a fuckin liar i dont even wanna know what the others are like.....