Long term friend?

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Well, I've had this friend for 12 and a half years. She's 14 now and has lost weight and is pretty hot. Lately she has been hugging me by the waist and touching me up my pant leg and was touching me down my "happy trail" in the pool. What, can we go out or should I just leave it so that I don't risk the friendship we have?

And how old would you be?

that has nothing to do with it, i don't mean like tomorrow. i mean possibly within 1-3 years.

Then why worry about it now? Depending on how old you are, it could still be a problem in 1 to 3 years.

i am wondering about it at ANYTIME, you aren't helping right now

I'm wondering about a guy who would ask, "What, can I fuck her..." about a friend he's had for 12 years. I don't know you personally, but you sure sound like a dirtbag.You're asking, is it OK for a guy (of unknown age) who's friends with a girl to have sex with her when she's 15- to 17-years-old? WTF?

i have to agree here ur askin for strangers to say ok go for it. thats just wrong.

i am just asking if it would be a bad idea to go out with her, if it would ruin our relationship

No, you asked about having intercourse with her. If a romantic or sexual relationship doesn't work out, and there's a good chance that it wouldn't, it could very easily end your friendship. Is it worth the risk? That's your call.

Actually, Steve, bigman said "go out". The "dirtbag" comment was uncalled-for. It seems like the girl is after sex, though.

I think a serious talk is needed, bigmanoncampus. It seems clear that she wants more than friendship, but if you want a relationship without sex, she'll need to understand that. But if you are friends you ought to be able to have a talk like this, even if it's a bit embarrassing.

Actually, BM edited his original post. The "What, can I fuck her..." quote was correct. But I agree with the rest of what you said.

yes if u sleep with her it will ruin ur friendship. and why in the world is a 14 yr old condisering ruining something u took 12 yrs to make when life is just about to hit u the hardest.i can not say yes to this i have a daughter ur age and friendship is more important at ur age then sex.

i agree a serious talk with her is needed but is it worth the risk of losing the friendship for a relationship that might not last? im in your boat at the moment with a really good guy friend. im not sure if i should go for it or not but i know even if the relationship ends on a sour note we could probably talk it through and be able to stay friends. would she be able to forgive and forget or would she pretend she had then rub it in your face every now and again? its a difficult descision and one only you can make so think hard about it. personally i would rather not risk it if she is a very good friend. good luck with whatever choice you make

It may ruin your friendship if it fucks up but on the other hand, if it doesn't, it could start a whole new relationship between the two of you- for the good... I'd leave it for now, as she's a bit young (it'd be helpful if you old us your age...) but you need to talk to her about it still if shes groping at you.

If the girl is under your states legal age stay away man. I had this same issue only the girl wasnt my friend. Unfortunatly kids seem to mature a hell of a lot faster now than ever and girls at age 14 can look well over 18 and some like to take advantage of that. Just tell her No, and wait till it's legal its not that hard to do trust me they will feel pretty silly and possibly embarassed if you tell them they are to young and wont bother you with it anymore.... but I didnt have a friendship to spare so it was easier for me. If you are over 18 im 19 im just pointing out its not abnormal to be checking out younger girls and thinking to yourself they definatly look older. However their is a large diffrence between thinking it in your head and actually reaching out and getting a handful..... Do 15 get 20

kids seem to mature a hell of a lot faster now than ever and girls at age 14 can look well over 18I don't think that's really true, physically. It more a matter of makeup, dress, and attitude.

Bigmanoncampus is 14 himself.

And he claims to have two penises.

I tried to get some info about the frequency of biphallicism, but couldn't find much. There are some allegations of 80 cases in the medical literature, which would suggest many more that are not reported.We are all unique in some way, even if it's just a particular combination of body and personality. If someone has a rare condition, that doesn't mean it's impossible. I would rather take people at their word until shown otherwise than call them liars without evidence. At worst I just look easily taken in - I can live with that.

first of all, it's not "having two penises", it is a deformity called BIPHALLISISM. i should not have to prove myself, since i have no way to prove it.