Okay. Sorry guys, this is going to sound like a crazy mess..but I'll try to explain it as best I can.
I'm in jazz band at my school, we went to a competiton last year around May. And at competitons, when you aren't preforming, you hang out with other people from other schools, me and this other guy, Derek, hit it off really well, he was cool. We had the same intrests, but not so much that we were clashing, he was easy to talk to, and was pretty smart. We exchanged AIM screen nams and phone numbers. Months down the road after we hung out alot, and talked alot, we deccided to take our realtionship a step further, and consider eachother boyfriend and girlfriend. This Febuaray we went to a party with some of our friends, and some people we didn't know. At the party he hooked up with some girl and they snuck off to the school parking lot and had sex, that night just about everyone knew but me. Then a few days later he asked me for her last name, because he claimed he had a friend who knew her. Well acctually he whitepaged her and sent her flowers with his phone number, later bought her a ring, and took her to my school dance, which he told me he couldnt go to because he was sick. After all that I ended it of course. I thought it was all over..all done with, and that it would never bother me again. But for some reason, although everything ended 2 months ago, it's just now comming back to me..If that makes any sense at all. I tried calmly talking to the girl he was dating, since she went to my school, well I don't know what I said or did but she had two people beat me up after school because she left early because of emotional shock. I'm sorry for making this so choppy and hard to understand, but after all this..at first I didnt feel hurt at all.. but now I cant get him out of my head..I can't fall asleep with out thinking about him and what he did. I can't go a day in school with out being harrassed or beaten up because I tried talking to the other girl about it. (we are sort of friends..talk sometimes..but not alot) I don't know why it bothers me.. or why I can't get over this..but it really sucks. if anyone understood that...or even read the whole thing, I'd really appericate it if someone could try to help me..
thanks.
sorry for it being long
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Why can't I get over him?
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I think the thing that would make me think about him all the time, if i were in your situation is the horrible way he treated me, i guess i wouldn't be able to understand why he'd done it, and that would bug the hell out of me.............this guy is a total prick, and you are so better off without him hon............it will get easier, and you will think yourself lucky you had a narrow escape i reckon.........big hugs
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I'm sorry that this is happening to you. Please don't waste any more of your time and energy on this no-win situation. It's just going to lead to more heartache and pain. This guys disrespected and mistreated you. Don't let him win by trying to hold on to something that wasn't healthy in the first place. I was compelled to reply because I know what it feels like not being able to let go. But you need to for your safety and sanity. If you need to talk to anyone, feel free to PM me...