OK so theres this girl i like and that ive always had a thing for her. weve known each other since 4th grade, were now sophmores. i see her all the time because i live next door to her grandparents house and shes always there. anyway this past july she started to want to hangout with me and i gladly agreed. we started hangingout almost everyday. at night she would get online and text me on my phone to go get online. we would sit there talking to eachother till 2 in the morning, she would ask me about my love life and who i liked and lots of personal questions. one night we were talking she asked me who i liked and i had to say someojne so i named this girl that is a friend of hers and that goes to our school. she got desappointed and went to bed. i then texted her pouring my heart out to her about how much i liked her and that i had lied earlier.the next day i told her that i wanted this whole thing to work out and we both agreed on being friends but i agreed reluctently. were in school know and things are a lil diferent now. we still hangout alot but we dont talk online too much. i get a ride home with her and we talk fine when were in person. about a month has passed since this whole thing started and i still like her alot. but i have no idea if she still likes me, and when we talk, sometime will talk forever while sometimes we dont even said hey to eachother. this saturday im going to a 31 concert with her and im thinking this is the perfect time to tell her i still have feeling for her. every guy that she has had feelings before me has treated her like shit and she always came to me for support so i dont know what to do.what do you guys think, im so frustreated i dont know what to do. i really need help on this one
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How do i tell i still like her
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maybe you should go out with her more and hangout with her more. show her you really like having her around. ask her out on friday nights and stuff, just you 2 alone. The more time you spend with her, maybe she'll see how you really feel. Dont lie to her next time she asks a personal question. if she plays sports or does cheerleading afterschool- hangout and watch her and cheer her on. Talk to her afterwards. Offer to help her with stuff. Just give her space when she asks for it you dont want her to think you are a stalker...
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ahh yes if thats the case, she'll probably never ever give him a chance and continue on dating those abusive guys. Maybe she hinted something to him before but he messed up bigtime by lying. Honestly, if she says no or something i dont think he should even try anymore.
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Urgh. What we have here is a potential ladder jump that resulted into a fall into the abyss. To be honest, this is gonna take a lot of effort to fix, and if you ask me, it's probably not worth it. Start afresh.The first mistake was the heart pouring. Bad move. Shows vulnerability. I've done it too many times now. I know why you did it. It was the whole "I better not say her just in case she freaks out and never speaks to me again - play it safe and make her make the first move".Girls don't make the first move. Dunno why. I'd quite like it if a girl took some initiative for once. Sigh. Never mind.What you have to now decide is whether she is worth the effort to try harder. The answer is no, but you will think otherwise and will try anyway. It's the rules. I'm getting used to this kinda stuff now.Good luck
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>The first mistake was the heart pouring. Bad move. Shows vulnerability.
its funny how some girls want you to share your feelings to them but the moment you do- they take it as a weakness and totally diss you afterwards. You're right, dont share any feelings because you'll only get hurt in the end. Let the females do it. All that stuff about wanting a "sensitive guy" any girl tries to feed you is complete bullshit. Damn females and their emotional games...
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------Girls don't make the first moveEvery girl i have been with has made the first move. And by move i mean a sign that she intrested, either a kiss or asking to do somthing. I dont have game, I dont care, I never try hard and it works............... Are sure that she was depressed becasue you didn't say you liked her? Maybe she was just upset that you said you liked her friend. Either way the lie was bad especially naming her friend, hhaha. Not a big deal if she does like you though. After the concert when you two are alone, when your droping her off at her door or whatever, ask her straight up how she feels about you.