Sorry if this doesn’t make much sense but hey, I tried to explain it the best I could…Okay, a few days ago I was chatting with my bestfriend and we got on the subject of masturbation and orgasms. Well she was telling me that although she does get amazing orgasms “sometimes” while masturbating, she isn’t always able to get past this one point, and that if she does manage to get past it it’s not enough. I was in total agreement. I mean I can reach orgasm, but it’s nothing special most of the time, it’s like it’s not enough and I’m no were near being satisfied and I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong. I mean I can reach the point that everything feels so good and I’m just about to go over the edge but I always end up stopping because I can’t do it anymore (I get too sensitive to continue). Am I giving up too soon? Or am I just never going to get passed this?
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Not enough....
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Well as a male I actually have the same thing. I can masterbate and cum anytime I want.. but it's not always satisfying. Actually I am finding the older I get masterbation just isn't as satisfying as it was when I was young. A good satisfying orgasm generally only comes when I am having sex with my BF.Sorry I know this probably didn't answer your question but honestly I think it's normal. IMO it's part of getting more mature and wanting that physical, emotional contact with another person than soloing.Hope thats helps alittle..?
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It did help, and I really think that's what it is. I'm guessing that I am wanting that type of closeness with someone, and I'm not finding it. I mean the older I get the harder it is for me to get myself off and you know what, it's really starting to irritate me.
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It's pretty normal not be able to go over that 'edge', i understand what you mean. I try to visualize some scenerio that really turns me on and go easy on the clit, that usuallly does it. You could also try diff methods: fingers, vibes, dildoes, shower head.
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I have a bullet (it's great ^_^) and I've tried the shower head (another great one) but it's almost like I can't get myself off by going solo (no toys involved) no matter how great my fantasies are... and I can come up with some really amazing ones lol
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All i can suggest at this point is practice and patience, Katie Lou. You will get over it :grin: and once you do...RAWR!
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I'm curious to know how often you use the bullet, shower head, or any other device to orgasm. I saw someone on tv talking about women becoming used to things likes dildos and vibrators, and then having trouble reaching orgasms with their hands or fingers. Not sure if it applies to you, but they talked about laying off others devices and other things for awhile. If not, it could be just a phase your going through, and it may pass. Even masturbation can get boring at times, I suspect. I also wonder if your unsuspectingly putting pressure on yourself to have bigger and better orgasms. I believe that is something us guys do from time to time. My bigger orgasms almost always happen when I least expect them, and rarely when I try to force them. Just my thoughts and opinions, I could be way off.
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In reply to: I'm curious to know how often you use the bullet, shower head, or any other device to orgasm Very rarely do I use them. I guess I'm just bored with it, maybe it'll pass soon (heaven only knows how much I hope it will...). I guess I should approach this in a diffrent way, try something new. Any ideas?
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As a guy, I'm definitely out of my element. Something new may be in order maybe. If this a recent thing, or has it been going on for awhile. Never sure how graphic we can get on this board, but here goes. I know women aren't usually as visual as guys, but maybe something visual is in order. Doesn't have to be porn, but maybe something soft-core or something you find erotic or hot. Maybe a dildo or something else for extra stimulation while you use your hands. Not sure how often you masturbate, but maybe hold out longer than you normally do. Might make them stronger the next time. Again as a guy, I'm hardly an expert. You can try Betty Dodson though. Betty has spent a great deal of her life studying female orgasms. Try www.bettydodson.com You can email her on her site if you wish.
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i also can reach that point and cum but when i first started that would be satisfying enough for a few days now i can hardly tell