Ok... I'm really really freaked out right about now. I had just gotten off my period (grammar?) and my sister was telling me about how the blood is actually eggs and all that... yes I knew this already. But then I heard about the whole birth process and it didn't seem so bad. Until I saw the whole birth process. And there was this movie made by spike lee where he filmed actual births. And omg! It looks too painful and nasty. I've heard about getting a sea section. My mom had a sea section with my little brother because she said her uretha (sp?) was pushed down too low when she had me. And the sea section is when they cut your stomach open and take the baby out from there. My dad is always creeped out to tell the story when he saw the doctors trying to pull the baby out but he was hanging onto the rib cage (I guess that's why he has those marks on his thighs) and my dad said he almost passed out becuase my mom looked like she was high and kept jerking around from all the pulling and all that nastyness was showing. EW! I know having a child is great and all I love kids too... though I am one; but now I am proned (sp?) to just not having kids at all. I mean... is it even worth it. Going through all that pain and then the risk of dying and other stuff like that. I know I shouldn't be thinking about it at such a young age but the thought really creeps me out. Once your pregnant... your pregnant. The baby is growing in your belly! There's nothing you can do but give birth right? It just seems like it's way too much to handle and now I know why mothers can be all uptight about their kids respecting them. I would expect my kid to have the utmost respect for me after going through something like that. And it will certainly scar you for life. I just don't know if it's really at all that worth it now. And then you hear about mothers being beaten and treated badly, and the husbands cheating on them because they are no longer able to have sex or whatever other things they are saying now. I don't mean to sound rude or stupid. But after seeing what I saw... I'm just not sure anymore.Those that are already mothers... like Angel I know you have like 3 kids I think and you are still "happy happy joy joy". How do you do it? And then still be active. I'm going to stop talking now... but one more question. I am always wondering about those porn movies that people always watch with the girls having sex with the guys. Do they cum in each other? And if so, isn't that also a risk of getting pregnant? Do they always have an abortion or something? Sorry if these questions sound stupid but I just wanted to know. I don't know much.
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Traumatized!
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Umm if u ask me u sound kind of young...way to young to be thinking about gettin pregnent anyways.Im a guy...not a girl...so im not totally knownledgable with the getting pregnent thing lol...but i think when u mature u will see having a child is worth the pain...at least I would feel this way.Also...pronos are not exactly good places to look to learn about sex...i mean u can learn positions...but most stuff is kinda faked to be entertaining for a guymost wear condoms...or they are on birth control...there are other ways u can protect yourself...but honestly it sounds like your young and u shouldnt worry about it
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WHOA! I'm only 18, and i'm not planning on having a kid for a looooong time, but it's not cuz of the fear of pain or anything. What you hear about; death during labour, complications, etc - that prolly a small percent of births. Yes, it's painfull and messy but there are drugs to ease the pain. C-sections are sometimes requested by mothers because it's an operation under anastesia (sp?) so no pain. Also, once you get pregnant, you have an option - abortion (PLEASE noone pm me about how abortion is murder and how it's a hot issue etc, that's UR opinion). About the kid growing up, I believe in good discipline, and those kids that disrespect and beat their mothers are again not too common and I always believed that it's because the parents are too scared to lay a hand on their kid.
I think having a baby is wonderful, difficult, but definately not scary. In the long run, I believe it's worth every moment.
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i second that
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Hon its quite natural to be freaked out by the thought of having a baby.......... In reply to:Until I saw the whole birth process. Having been through it, and having seen it on TV, i would rather go through it that watch it...........honestly. In reply to:And the sea section is when they cut your stomach open and take the baby out from there. My dad is always creeped out to tell the story when he saw the doctors trying to pull the baby out but he was hanging onto the rib cage I went through 10 hours of labour and was about to deliver my first baby, when things went a bit wrong and i had to have a C-Section............the first i was knocked out, the 2nd and 3rd i was awake while they did the section so i kinda know what went on. As for the story of your brother holding onto the rib cage, i would tend to think that isn't true. A baby is in a 'sack' when they are inside you, and once that sack it broken the baby is out within minutes, so he couldn't have been hanging on the rib cage. There was lots of pushing and pulling to get the baby out, i could feel it all, but obviously no pain......... In reply to:but now I am proned (sp?) to just not having kids at all. I mean... is it even worth it. Going through all that pain and then the risk of dying and other stuff like that. I think i remember thinking the same thing when i was younger honestly hon as you get older your priorities change. Is it worth it - YES YES YES YES YES..........the pain, is nothing, it goes away as soon as the baby is born and forgotten about as quickly, the risk of dying is VERY small these days..........its not something to worry about at all. I had hard pregnancies, lots and lots of tests, since i have a negative blood group and my babies have all been positive like their fathers, my blood has tried to destroy their blood, so i had weekly blood tests, and fornightly amniocentisis - which is where they put a 9inch needle through your tummy into the sack around the baby to get fluid its swimming in to test.........I had C-Sections for all 3, and all my babies were taken away as soon as i had had them, into intensive care - my daughter was born blind with a hole in her heart, and i would do it all again in a heart beat cos they are SO worth it. In reply to:like Angel I know you have like 3 kids I think and you are still "happy happy joy joy". How do you do it? And then still be active. My kids make me complete, i know how that sounds, but its true. I love when they go to school, and chaos of school ties and uniforms, the 'my time' i have when they are gone, and the chaos that happens when they all come home again.......... I love doing stuff with them at the weekends like the beach etc........and yeah, they all come with their worries and stresses, but i honestly can't remember what my life was like before them, except that i wasn't as happy as i am now. As for being active after having kids etc, you just are, the scar heals.........and you get on enjoying your life and your new baby.Ok i have waffled on enough...........honestly hon, don't give babies another thought, when the time is right you will make a choice to have or not to have a baby..........and all the things that worry you know won't be an issue then.
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So well said from one who's been there. JapanFan. please take this to heart. Angel speaks the truth.
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Once again, Angel is totally correct!
And I have to say to JenJen, C-sections are not completely painless. I have had two, and had 23 hours of labor with my first son. Labor is the painful part, but with an epideral the pain is greatly minimized. Also, C-sections have a much longer healing time and can be difficult to feed your baby due to your sore belly.
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With anything in life there is risk. What you have to weigh is the risk vs. the potential reward. Every time you get in an auto you are at risk to be in an accident. The result may be worse pain than having a baby. I look at many things as good risk vs bad risk. We learn from experience what to choose. When you decide to have sex with a guy there is risk that you will get pregnant and just as much risk that you might catch an STD. If I were a female I think I would consider the benefits of a planned child with someone that you are truly in love with, respect and trust an excellent risk. The pain would certainly be worth it in my book.
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In reply to:C-sections are not completely painless. Hell no its major abdominal surgery and takes months to heal completely..............and of course leaves a lovely smiley scar above your pussy.........LOL
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i have had c sections to. i wanted it the other way well things happened that wouldn't allow it . cord was around her neck .i can honestly say i live for my kids. they make me want to live and for that i will be forever young in mind and body.
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Aww, all you moms out there make me want to have a kid one day more. I'm too young now, but one day. It better be a girl.
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gender doesnt really matter to me, as long as i can have a kid, when the right time comes. i cant wait, but i know i have to, and well, i want one of each