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Ok...me and my girlfriend have been dating for 9 months and today we decided to have sex. It has been around 6 or 8 days after she finished her period. I had masterbated this morning around 8 am ish and we had intercourse around 4:45 p.m. I peed once or twice. Before we had sex she "kissed" my penis and I stroked my penis for 3 minutes to get all the pre cum out. After stroking and seeing that there was no longer pre cum oozing out, thats when i went in. We had sex 3 times each lasting around 20 seconds. When i went in her, my penis starting flexing so that really scared me. Do you guys think she could be pregant.. I stopped after around a minute and realized i must learn about sex and its hazards before i do it again. Do you guys think shes pregant? I sure as hell did not come close to coming. And she ended her period like 6 or 8 days before.

It's not likely, but who knows? No one here is psychic. If you want to be sure, buy a pregnancy testing kit at the drug store.

Where was the condom?

I know...Next time i know better..much better sorry for dissapinting u guys..i disappointed myself alot

Next time use a goddam condom. From what I read I'm guessing that your gal isn't on any other form of birth control. Just think, are you ready for all the consquences if she does fall pregnant.

no im defiantley not ready..im just really scared you guys...

Pregnancy test?

Yea im going to buy one this week..what do you think she is though..im really scared im sorry for everything

buy one this week..WTF? Buy one today!> what do you think she is thoughWould you like me to flip a coin, or would you rather flip it yourself?

If you are so goddam worried do it now o: You are telling us you are really worried, but will get to it in the week. C'mon.

thought i posted this but ill say it again. Went to CVS and bought some trojan extra protection condoms. I dont feel like having sex any time soon though. Went to walk for it for 2 miles but ill do anything to be safe next time. Im gonna pray and hope God forgives my stupid mistake.

I dont feel like having sex any time soon though. Went to walk for it for 2 miles but ill do anything to be safe next time.So you're keeping yourself in the not-knowing state to punish yourself? I walk two miles all the time...a pregnancy testing kit is not hard to carry.> Im gonna pray and hope God forgives my stupid mistake.Forgiveness is fine, but it would be a lot better to know as soon as possible so you can stop worrying, or take steps to terminate the pregnancy if that's what you want to do, or prepare for an adoption or parenthood. Keeping yourself in the dark is just silly.

Yes I would like to terminate pregnacy but i certainly dont want an aboration..im just really really scared right now..please forgive me if i sound inconsiderate. this is the first time it has happened and i just need some guidance..

> Yes I would like to terminate pregnacy but i certainly dont want an aboration.

If you are thinking about the "morning after" pill, you need to get on the stick now! Sometimes a pregnancy will spontaneously end (abort) on it's own, but once the fertilized egg implants, there's no way to terminate a pregnancy besides abortion. I assume your girlfriend has an opinion on the subject. I hope you're sharing what you learn with her.

I have made some calls to a hotline ( not sure which one but heard it on the radio) and talked to them about my foolish dilema. They said that it is very unlikely she is but i should be more careful. Of course I am going to be more careful. I have done my homework and still learning methods and safety precautions. What they said just reassured me a bit knowing that they said she was very unlikely but im sure you guys still think im really stupid.Just want to know yalls opinon on what they said. Yes I know I was and am for choosing such a foolish path but I wont do that any more. Tell me if you guys think of this method:1 condom (i learned my lesson)2 withdraw3. calender4. birth control ( once she or i have enough money to get them)

My opinion:1. Pregnancy test (if it's positive, then there's no more need to worry about BC pills, calendar, etc. )2. birth control pills3. condom4. whatever other stuff pleases youI'd put condom ahead of BC pills if you're not certain that neither of you has an STD.

1. Effective provided it fits well, you use it properly, it's not passed the use-by date, it's not kept in a warm place, and you don't use an oil-based lube with it. Provides protection from STDs (though only partial protection from herpes or genital warts). Should always be part of your protection.2. Not at all good by itself, as pre-cum may contain some sperm, and because you may be too slow to withdraw.3. Not very effective by itself, as ovulation times can be irregular (and you've been finding it difficult to work out the days).4. Good effectiveness if she remembers to take it every morning. Helps regularise periods and can reduce period pain if that is a problem for her.No method is 100% effective, but the combination of 1 or 4 with one of the others comes pretty near. However only 1 gives any protection from STDs. 1 + 4 is usually the ideal.

Thanks =] ... i talked to them again this morning...and they told me the same answer.. IT IS VERY UNLIKELY THAT SHE IS pregan because they said this:1. It is unlikely because you had sex on her most unfertile time2. Although pre cum can cause pregancy, it is very not likely3. Just use a condom next time (got this covered) What do you guys say? Think they are just trying to make me feel better or giving me hard facts. And also they said they would give free bc pill for a year i think.

That all seems reasonable, over a large population. It's pretty meaningless if the sample size is one. There is a greater-than-zero possibility that your girlfriend is pregnant. Either she is or she isn't.I'd say that acting a bit like a nutty obsessive, asking us to be psychics, when you could just get a pregnancy testing kit and have a definitive answer, but you won't. You keep asking, and all we can say is that we don't know. It'll be the same the tenth time as it was the first time.Either get a pregnancy testing kit, visit the lady with the crystal ball, or just keep freaking out until your g.f. has a period--if she does. You could have walked to the pharmacy ten times by now. Why are you so resistant to the idea of a pregnancy test?

Do NOT pull out before you cum. She can still get pregnant, oh a lil fact of this. I recently had a mate of mine (16) who got pregnant from it. Oh and stop putting it off, if you were so goddam worried like you said you where than you would have already had the pregnancy test. Don't go by a feeling, do it.