Penetration Issues

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Alright i'll keep this as short as possibe....im an 18 yr old male..im 7 x 6.5 inches and just started having sex again with my new gf, well attempted to. I'v only had sex with 1 other girl and it worked, it was a little uncomfortable for her, but it worked. But with my new one, she is on the smaller side, 5'1...she's not a virgin and we tried to have sex last night but it didnt "fit". We used condoms and i was fingering her with 3 fingers right before we tried...She said shes willing to "work" at it but i really dont know how to go about this..help would be appreciated...thanks

Well, in case you didn't know, your girth is absolutely huge. You need to be careful with that, because you can cause discomfort in some women, as you found out.

I would suggest you use lots of lube (remember to use only latex based lube with those condoms!), and use a position with her on top, so she can ease down onto your penis at her own pace, with her in control.

Although your girth is very large, her vagina should be able to accomodate it without too much trouble. It's her cervix that you need to be careful with. With a 7 inch length, you will definitely bottom out and hit her cervix, and with that girth, you'll almost certainly hurt her if you thrust all the way in.

Also, it's likely she was nervous, and tensed up. Even though it's not her first time, it's her first time with you. If you can help her to be more relaxed, and take your time over foreplay, it will help.

thanks alot...i'm gonna try some lube and more foreplay next time...its just a pain in the ass to have to deal with this every time...but whatever. How long would you guess it would take for her to "accomodate" to the point where its comfortable?

My boyfriend was the same way although he had plenty of experience and i wasnt a virgin hes on the larger side and sex can be uncomfortable in some positions but you have to find what positions work best for her after you are able to "fit" into her, i find the wetter it is the easier it is for him to slide in, i still find though in certain postions he rips me open particularly doggy

How long would you guess it would take for her to "accomodate" to the point where its comfortable?As long as it takes for her to be comfortable with you (so her muscles relax). As long as it takes to perform a reasonable amount of foreplay (which is true for most women), so the parts expand and lubricate enough to comfortablly accomodate you.

Time, patience, relax, lubrication, excitement and lots of foreplay are the answers to your problem. I am very thick also and have experienced the same problem. My first was so tight you could hardle squeeze a finger in and it took about a dozen times before it would slip in. It's worth the patience.

Been there, done that!Here's a thought. Obviously your gf is going to have to take a more active role. I suggest she mount you, ride on top. Let her take her time before gets all the way down. You can help her by gently massaging her breasts and nipples. Try rubbing her back, all that stuff.Oh yeah, resist the temptation to have her slide down immediately on your dick. This can be very painful.Practice makes perfect!

I have the same issues with my gf. Lub and foreplay are required for insertion and only doggie allows for deep penetration. You must communicate with her. Maybe you can le ther start out on top.