Guys having sex with thier older brothers.

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I was wondering if its ok or somewhat normal to have a crush on your older brother? I am 15 and my older brother is 16 and I really want to be with him sexually.

I mean oral and anal sex with him. I am pretty sure hes straight, but I really do have a strong sexual attraction to him. I want him to do me and me to do him. This is not a joke, I am new here and just was wondering if I am gonna grow up to be gay or straight. I have always looked up to him in baseball and football. I think hes super hot and yet at the same time the nicest person I know.

i think its worrying that you wanna do it with your brother.. i mean thats your own flesh and blood! i mean me and my sister are close and sometimes we'll masterbate in the same room but not with each other or anything like that

Hopefully I can explain this clearly. Sounds like you and your brother have a close relationship. In psychology this is normal that a young brother (or sister)) think he's developing erotic feelings for their older sibling. Usually these erotic feelings are actually feelings of admiration and wanting to be like their siblings. Sometimes it's hard for the younger sibling to feel the difference between erotic feelings and feelings of admiration and respect.I hope that makes some sense? Basically these feelings you are having are actually probably coming from the feelings of high respect for him and admiration.

I think my older brothers are handsome and I think my sister is very beautiful but having a crush on them and wanting to bang them? That's beyond sick, they're your family, your own flesh and blood. I think you may need to go see a psychologist about this (if you're actually being serious and not just posting crap to get a rise out of people) because that is not normal, it's sick.

Yea, I know its rather sick or different, but so is 75% of the things that go on in society today. I did NOT choose to be attracted to him. I just am, I don't know why I am. I am just trying to see if this is a phase or what. Just like nobody chooses to be gay, I did not choose to have a crush on older brother.

Is it OK to have the crush? What goes on inside of your head is your business. But some things are best left as fantasy material, not to be acted on.

Finally a good piece of advice from SteveA. Thanks. I am just confused now. Thanks for not making fun or condemming me..

I wouldn't be surprised if most topics like this were started by pranksters.

Yep, but in any specific case, you usually don't know.

My suggestion to you is to continue to admire and look up to him but remove the sexual thoughts of him from your brain. You stand a big chance of ruining a good relationship with your brother and it's not worth it. Not only that if he was impulsed by it you might find some new and uncomfortable family problems as a result. Find someone else to play with.

I'd listen to NtroducingMyself. It sounds smart. Yeah sexual fantasies can be all kinds of weird but there should be some lines and if your mind crosses a line, it may mean something's up and maybe it would not uhrt to talk to a physchologist or someone; youll get better advice there than here.

I don't think it's possible to remove sexual thoughts from one's brain, but it's possible to resist the temptation to do anything with them. I think canon is right that you stand a good chance that your brother will be offended or repelled or at the least very uncomfortable.

I really do like the positive responses I have received from open minded ppl, that do understand or try to understand where I am coming from. Once again, I don't choose to have a crush on my brother. I am going to talk to a professional about this. I don't know if its unnatural or unhealthy as we base so much of our beliefs on something as stupid as organized religion. I may be gay, it could be a phase or just something I am going through. I thank everyone for thier positive input and posts. I just wanted a lil feedback. I know this subject is a lil off the wall for those of you that are somewhat behind in time (ie. living in a small town or anything smaller than Los Angeles) so I assume this is a shock to you. I will do my best as I now know my brother is straight and more than likely is not interested. So I will just go forward with my life. I suppose everyone has trials and such during thier growing years, some familar and some just plain wild like mine. Once again thanks again and I still welcome future POSITIVE comments. As my dad once said, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. Even us city guys know that simple eitquette. Too bad some ppl twice my age never even learned that simple respect for fellow citizens. -------------Brian

I sorry, but there are things in life that are just plain wrong. You don't have to be a sophisticated city dweller or a country bumpkin to understand that. It has nothing to do with this "open-minded" crap. Wrong is wrong.

Haha, I am trying, I am trying. I like your sense of humor. Keep it up

Kewl, my pic finally worked...woo hoo. I forgot all about my brother now, hehe.

I forgot all about my brother now, hehe.You are full of crap.

Coming from a non-religious perpective, I still think it's a really bad idea to act on those thoughts of yours. Now you're going to ask for a good reason for that, and it's frankly hard to come up with one without resorting to some idea of absolute morality. So bear with me for a minute.

Now, I consider homosexuality to be perfectly acceptable, whether it's from a choice or not (because it seems obvious from hearing so many people talk about it that it isn't the same for everyone), because as long as the two partners are willing, nobody is being hurt, and I don't agree with the idea that it will completely destroy the social fabric of our society. Indeed, I don't see anything wrong with there being more loving couples in the world.

Now incest and pedophilia is clearly wrong for several reasons. First of all, it's almost always an abuse of authority over someone else. Also, even if it was consensual on the kid's part, the fact remains that kids and even most teens are not mature enough to handle a responsible sexual relationship, especially considering the number of teen abortions and how many will do things they don't feel right about just to please their partner. In an ideal society where everybody respects the thoughts and feelings of each other no matter their age, sex with kids might be acceptable , but that would require a perfect society, and that ain't happening, not ever. So sex with kids and early teens is off limit for good. Deal with it.

As for kids or early teens of roughly the same age having sex, well you can't do much about it since I'm not entirely sure it is illegal, but I sure as heck don't recommend it. As I said above, kids and most teens aren't mature enough to understand the full ramifications of a sexual relationship without deep feelings, and let's face it, at that age it's mostly a physical thing and doesn't set a good precedent for the rest of the kid's life. While various phases of experimenting are bound to happen, going too far in any respect will probably distort the kids' perception and possibly cause problems later in life.

Coming back to you and your brother, here's how I see it. You haven't precised the nature of your feelings toward him. You obviously feel lust for him, but what does it stem from? Is it because you admire him and want to be intimate as a result? Is it simply physical lust, but the fact that your brother and you are close makes it less scary than having the same feelings for a stranger? Maybe you don't even know why you lust after him. But the fact remains that nothing good can come out of it in the long run.

For one, if you admit these feelings to him and he doesn't reciprocate (and he most likely won't), he'll likely either feel extremely awkward toward you because most your future interactions together will be viewed by him as interested attempts on your parts, the same way a girl might be wary if a friend admits having feelings for her that are not mutual and despite claims of wanting to only remain friends, she knows that these feelings will still be there influencing him. Or he could freak out in disgust and it could damage your fraternal bonds for good.

And even in the most unlikely case that he actually has those same feelings for you (and don't kid youself, the probability are very, *very* low), what good do you think can come out of this? Haven't you ever heard how sex can fuck up the best friendship? Sometimes crossing that final barrier reveals a degree of intimity with someone close that actually goes *too* far. I've known several people who had been friends since childhood, and they eventually entered into a sexual relationship that proved too much to handle. They were already intimate before, but having sex went too far and they actually realized that they didn't feel right being too close, and more often than not, the friendship didn't actually survived the ordeal.

And understand that if those feelings (or even worse, actions) were ever known by the rest of your family, it could litteraly tear your family apart. I know you think I might be exaggerating things a bit, but even the most open of parents would completely freak out at knowing their kids are having sexual feelings for each other, or worse, actually having sex. I'm not talking about experimenting here, as some kids will masturbate together a few times, and eventually grow out of it; it's just a phase and there are no feelings involved, and reasonable parents would understand that. But deeper feelings and a full sexual relationship is completely different, and I'm afraid to say, not that normal. I know you can't help how you feel, but the fact that almost all kids find the thoughts of real emotional sex with sibblings disgusting is probably indicative that it's not something that's natural, and in fact it's probably instinctual *not* to have these feelings for close sibblings.

Now I don't want to scare you too much, but for your sake and that of your family, please consult a psychologist. If he's anywhere competent, he will not judge you but instead try to find the root of those feelings and try to work with you to solve them. I know it takes courage to actually tell a stranger about such personal feelings, but it's what they are there for, and it would be beneficial for everyone involved. Good luck.

Wow... very nicely said ShyGuy!